Licking fingers after being inside me...sorry for icky topic!

[Disconcerted]

Really sorry for posting this, but it's bothering me.

Every time I have sex with my partner, he uses his fingers inside me, which is lovely and he takes it slowly, enjoys doing it, always does that before anything else, and so on.

But every time, he licks his fingers afterwards.

I ignored it for a long time but I have on occasion just said something like "oh, stop that" in a kind of lighthearted way, his response is always the same; "you're tasty".

It makes me feel like a KFC bargain bucket or something!

I mean, a quick google has proven that a lot of men do it, but it can't taste that good to want to lick your fingers afterwards, can it?!

I'm worried it's more like either a power trip sort of thing (although how it can be construed as that exactly, I don't know) or just a weird fetish.

What do you think? Do you get turned off by men doing this sort of thing or am I just a freak?

It's a bit of give and take isn't it. If he didn't want to finger you which you obviously like you be on here bitching and everyone would be calling your fella a bastard and all sorts.

You like to be fingered and he likes to like his fingers afterwards, not too much of an issue really is it. The "you're tasty" bit should be taken as a complement and it sounds like he only says that if you ask him why he's doing it.

What if he said well ok I'll stop fingering you, that way we both lose something we like. Would that work for you?

Enjoy your sex life and lose yourself in the moment, stop over thinking things.

God I would love it is my DH liked the taste of me but since as he has only gone down 3 times in 12 years I guess he doesn't. Can't wait to divorce him!

Does he watch porn?

Why wouldn't it be nice? If it weren't good then oral sex wouldn't be so popular.

Why do you find it gross? I think you need to examine your own feelings in this and if you really can't get over it then be clear it grosses you out and will affect your willingness if it continues.

As with anything sex related, it's 2 ticks in the box as both people need to be happy and confident in what they do together.

Read all the responses and it gave me a big laugh. Sorry Op, but the KFC thing really tickled me.

it might be the fact that he uses cheesy porno phrases, rather than the act itself?

My XP loved it too...No complaints here! As macystacy said, who wants a man who isn't up for the job.

If you smell like fish it's probably because you've eaten fish. If you smell like fish two days after a cod supper THEN you've got a problem.

Does he watch porn?

FFS, why does everything have to be a porn thing?

I don't think this is primarily a porn thing at all.

Lots of blokes do it.

Lots of blokes want ME to taste it too. shrugs

It's not that odd. It's only a problem if you find it icky. If it does the bargain bucket line should defuse the situation with humour and get the point across.

She's tasty tasty very very tasty she's very tasty

'Activities' of said nature are quite normal in boudoir Scoop. However he could leave his cringeworthy speel right outside....

I think it is the surreptitious nature of it that's the problem, rather than the act itself, as someone else said earlier.

If he likes it and finds it sexy, why only do it when I'm looking the other way? Even since I've said to stop it (jokingly) and he told me its 'tasty', he still does it sneakily.

I think that's my issue.

I have no problems with tasting myself, I like the taste of him, but if I go down on him then swallow and lick him clean (again, sorry!), then he knows I'm doing it.
I don't pretend I'm changing positions then quickly run my tongue along his dick!

Anyway. I'll talk to him, thanks all.

3 times in 12 years...... that makes me feel very sad! Bless you x

Oh Lord. Please stop now.

Eh? Stop what...? was talking to macystacy mind your own ;-p

Yes if only I wasn't so trapped! Makes me laugh the stick people get for having affairs on here, if only leaving were that simple!

Oh I see - just seen the above comment. Haha, yes - a bit Mills & Boon there.

You mean the 'lick it clean' comment?! ha!

Oh! Yes sorry trev, directed at post above yours! I know this is a tmi thread, but that last comment was tttttmi

Bleurgh... haha x

is it not like that man thing they do to check you're clean enough or whatever... the sneaky sniff/taste test that I really wish I could unhear when I was told about it.

I thought it was commonly known that lots of men get very turned on by a woman's smell.. (The wonder of Mother Nature)..So lots of men will do this.. It's hardly kinky!!
But if you don't like it then tell him you would rather he didn't do it as it spoils the mood for you.

It does sound like someone who learned all their lines from porn.

Tell him you don't like it if you don't like it.. ignore anyone who says you should put up with something that makes you feel uncomfortable because you are "over thinking it" newbieman

Your only options aren't be fingered and feel bad afterward.. or don't get fingered.

I would tell him you don't like it directly..but not do it in bed. Do it before you have sex next time as it takes the pressure off.. also if you joked while doing it he might genuinely think you enjoy it.. this way you can directly with no room for confusion explain you don't like it.

my oh says I taste good... I think it's nice

That is odd that he does that (hides it) my dp puts his fingers in my mouth

I think he is trying to save the bedsheets

What's wrong with wiping his fingers on the curtains ?