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someone has sent dh a valentines card

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LoveUall · 11/02/2014 16:32

And it wasn't me... I'm so flippin fuming. It came in post yesterday and we been racking our brains who it may be. He thought it was me winding him up at first he's really amused by it and made a big deal of it on fb asking who it was, which I told him not to its giving whoever the attention. I'm really freaked out by it. I know by his reaction he's not got a clue who it is we've thought of a few people who may of sent it for a joke but they've denied it. They knew our full adress apart from last part of postcode and they know his full name. Maybe I'm over reacting but really annoyed by it. Card wasn't anything special was just a basic hallmark 1 and handwriting deffinately looks like a females. It was his birthday last week and and been comparing handwriting on his cards but not come up with anything.

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scarletforya · 11/02/2014 23:07

It strikes me that the card was sent to wind you up OP. Can you think of anyone who dislikes you and would enjoy stirring the shit?

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LoveUall · 11/02/2014 23:15

There is someone that springs to mind its complicated I'd have to start an whole other thread if I got started on her but I'm not sure she would do this. But her bf is 1 of the friends who we thought could of done for a joke so who knows. Oh has recently had a bust up with my bil aswell not sure its his style though

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LoveUall · 11/02/2014 23:18

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LoveUall · 11/02/2014 23:18

Oops posted last post twice, silly phone

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LizLemongrass · 11/02/2014 23:34

it could be somebody that hasn't even met your h. finds you a bit smug or something. not sure that's better than somebody fancying your h. maybe not.

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LoveUall · 11/02/2014 23:42

Lol do I seem smug? I don't know its possible isn't it.

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LizLemongrass · 12/02/2014 00:04

Yeh tbh id say it is somebody u were short with, ignored, excluded..... and she thouht "i know, ill take the wind out of her smug sails".
It wasnt me :-p
So just put it up on fb! Insouciance. Real or faux

hmc · 12/02/2014 00:09

"I bet he sent it to himself to keep you on your toes"

Brilliant - I now intend to send myself a Valentines this Friday

ajandjjmum · 12/02/2014 00:23

DH is working somewhere with a canteen at the moment, and he's constantly bragging about the ladies giving him extra bacon at breakfast. So we've sent a Moonpig card to him at the site address - with a picture of bacon and a heart shaped egg on it.

It'll give everyone a laugh on Friday - especially if he goes and thanks the canteen ladies!

ajandjjmum · 12/02/2014 00:23

hmc
I knew someone who sent herself a bouquet of red roses one valentine's day. Stupid woman put it on her card though, so her DH saw!!!

Covalone78 · 12/02/2014 07:50

With you hmc, I'll send myself one too. No insecurities in our relationship ;-)

Covalone78 · 12/02/2014 07:57

That said I did get one about 15 years ago whilst wed and haven't a clue who it was from - It's still pinned-up in my Study and around this time every year I wonder - OH thinks it's really funny. She sends her kids cards every year - Eldest is now 28! But then I guess we have a good bond and decent sense of humour.

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LoveUall · 12/02/2014 09:11

Really don't think he's sent himself it, he can't lie or keep secrets to save his life.

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LoveUall · 12/02/2014 09:12

Think now I've had 2 nights to sleep on it I'm not as bothered now, just really want to know who it was and why

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CynicalOptimist · 12/02/2014 09:25

If it was sent to arrive before Valentines Day I would suspect it was just sent as a joke......or a wind up

Take your revenge by treating it with the disdain it deserves and don't give it another thought

Thumbwitch · 12/02/2014 09:31

I got sent a VD card by a work colleague once, despite him knowing I was in a long term relationship. Before he sent it, we'd been on friendly (but not over-friendly) terms, chatted ok; afterwards he completely ignored me, blanked me totally. And then started an incredibly weird campaign of harassment, both at work and by sending letters to my home address.
In the end, because work seemed incapable of dealing with it, I got the police involved, which put an end to it. He did have bipolar disease, which may have affected the way he operated; but it got pretty scary.

Hope it's nothing to worry about and just some idiot on the wind-up.

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LoveUall · 12/02/2014 09:44

We seem to attract weirdos so I am bit concerned it is someone out to cause trouble but apart from 2 people I wouldn't put it past I don't understand why anyone would bother after all this time

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DonkeysDontRideBicycles · 12/02/2014 09:53

DH wanted to know where card had gone to show our next door neighbour, his ego has been made so big. Our neighbour has joked its his wife apparenyly she's always perving on him out of the window giving me a wink as he spoke. Wondering if its them for a joke he is a jokey jokey kinda guy but he would know postcode

That sounds very possible and knowing the postcode they might think it was a dead give away to add it.

SolidGoldBrass · 12/02/2014 10:08

Yet more evidence of how utterly fucking pathetic the monogamists are. All this angst and pants-wetting and threats over a card!
It will be a piss-take, which is no more than bucketheads like some of you deserve.

Ledkr · 12/02/2014 10:31

I'm a mono sgb I'm certainly not pathetic though.
Bit of a generalisation, like saying non monogamists are sad and scared of commitment.

WowserBowser · 12/02/2014 10:51

If it was an affair she would have to be pretty disgruntled to send a card to your home.

If it was an affair, he would have some front to post about it on FB.

Take it as a compliment and move on.

Lweji · 12/02/2014 11:11

Are you ok, Solid? :)

WowserBowser · 12/02/2014 11:23

'bucketheads'

LizLemongrass · 12/02/2014 11:41

It is fine to be single and i agree some people shouldnt be together and there's too much pressure to be in a couple..... but labelling "monogamists" pathetic comes across as having a really strong agenda SGB.

im all for the status of being single becomingore acceptable tho. Have been singgle for years and have earned my stripes as a single person. It has been so good for me. But i have no agenda to change OTHER people. Do u need everybody to share your views on monogamy???

irishguy · 12/02/2014 11:41

The OP says early on on this thread "this has given him a huge ego boost" as if that's a bad thing.

Someone sent him the card. Maybe he sent himself the card. Who knows?

But that comment, if it came from my DP, would be hurtful. You sound like you resent your own husband.

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