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someone has sent dh a valentines card

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LoveUall · 11/02/2014 16:32

And it wasn't me... I'm so flippin fuming. It came in post yesterday and we been racking our brains who it may be. He thought it was me winding him up at first he's really amused by it and made a big deal of it on fb asking who it was, which I told him not to its giving whoever the attention. I'm really freaked out by it. I know by his reaction he's not got a clue who it is we've thought of a few people who may of sent it for a joke but they've denied it. They knew our full adress apart from last part of postcode and they know his full name. Maybe I'm over reacting but really annoyed by it. Card wasn't anything special was just a basic hallmark 1 and handwriting deffinately looks like a females. It was his birthday last week and and been comparing handwriting on his cards but not come up with anything.

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MostlyMama · 11/02/2014 18:06

That was to DrNick

CatAmongThePigeons · 11/02/2014 18:11

Ooh I would be driven to distraction trying to figure out who it was from.

My H would shit a brick if he got an anonymous card in the post, he wouldn't know what to do (apart from enjoy the ego boost)

forumdonkey · 11/02/2014 18:31

This reminds me of something my friend did about 10 years ago. A bit of background...her then DH (now ex) often came home and tell her bits and pieces about his married best friends affair with a married woman. Now she knew DH's friend very well, his DW not as well but they would always talk when they bumped into each other, but she took the view 'none of her business'.

One night after her DH had been on a night out with his best friend he was a lot later than he'd said he was going to be but excused this on not being able to get a taxi. Unbeknown to him, as he was making his 'taxi excuse' she had seen him get out of a car up the road with 2 women in it. To add to this she recognised the woman as someone she knew from her work from about 10 years before. All the little things her DH had told her about the woman his friend was having an affair with eg, her first name, her kids ages, her DH's occupation etc all fitted with who she knew and she was the OW- she was not happy. DH confessed that she would bring her friend out and his friend would take him out and thats how they would meet to go out for a drink - a nice cosy four some (although she didn't think her DH was with the womans friend)

It is said revenge is a dish best served cold but after waiting about 3 months valentines day arrived, my friend sent the friends OW's DH (are you keeping up??? ) a valentines card through the post. Her thought for this was her poor cheated on DH got an ego boost and his cheating DW would have something to think about.

RudyMentary · 11/02/2014 18:35

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bigboobsbertha · 11/02/2014 18:48

Blimey I would find that hilarious.

but I am secure in my relationship so maybe thats the difference.

sykadelic · 11/02/2014 19:16

My husband plays WoW and told me about this new guy in their group who was a bit of a moron. A few weeks later I logged on once as him because he was running late and the message "hey sweetie" popped up. I knew who it was immediately and told my husband about it.

I don't know why the guy thought it was funny. I thought it was so stupid of him to even joke about that and if I didn't know my husband (and the game and ALL the other people in his group really well) I'd've been furious and I honestly don't know what I would have done...

So I understand why this ticked you off. I see no reason for someone to post a Valentines unless they're either trying to be funny, or stir trouble.

happyscouse · 11/02/2014 19:29

Everyone who says they'd find this funny..would you send one as a joke? I dont know anyone who would therefore I don't blame op for being unsettled thinking about what sort of nutter would!

needlesswidow · 11/02/2014 19:32

yes I would feel the same OP. Sending a card seems to be claiming ownership in some way, it seems disrespectful, like that person feels they are entitled to send a card, even though they aren't because they aren't his wife!

Mojang · 11/02/2014 19:35

I wouldn't be thinking affair but it would upset me. It would upset me to think that either someone wanted to cause problems or was having a laugh at my expense.

HerdyHerdwick · 11/02/2014 19:45

Someone sent me a Valentine's card on V Day 4 years ago. I've always assumed it was someone who thought they were having a laugh. It's really not funny.
I definitely wasn't having an affair or an EA or even flirting with anyone, I'm too old and knackered for any of that
Some people have a warped sense of humour and think it's funny to do this.

DCRbye · 11/02/2014 20:05

I do send them to friends for a joke! Only single friends though

Doha · 11/02/2014 20:24

I got a valentines card sent to me at work 2 years ago. It freaked me out. I certainly have been lo
oking a little differently at my patients since then. YEUK !!!

DrNick · 11/02/2014 20:25

I'd be stunned that anyone has ANYONES postal address this day and age. I couldn't even tell you some of my family's house numbers

DrNick · 11/02/2014 20:26

I'm also thinking of all the thousands of "stunned I've discovered an affair" threads on here by "lovely" husbands. From women confident on their relationships.

But hey

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LoveUall · 11/02/2014 20:30

Thanks for your concern dr nick, I know it happens but I have no cause for concern affair wise for a start if he's not at work he's with us. And I guess anyone can get a postcode if they know the area your in, the last part of postcode was missing just area code, but they knew house number and street

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DrNick · 11/02/2014 20:30

Well that's true.

nic104 · 11/02/2014 20:36

My dad received an anonymous card every year for the last 15 years of his life and they weren't from my Mum, she just laughed about it though, never did find out who sent them.

MistressDeeCee · 11/02/2014 20:41

Id be really annoyed. But I think its just a troublemaker wanting to wind you up & cause trouble between you & DH. Just ignore it, if someone's that silly then more fool them. I know some people will think its trivial tho but it really, really isn't. Its not a nice feeling to know someone doesn't wish you/relationship well and wants to attempt to spark your DHs interest as in someone is out there who knows him & fancies him. Im not surprised OP doesn't feel good about this

hickorychicken · 11/02/2014 20:45

Wow thats not nice nic10. One is a joke, 2 maybe but FIFTEEN? Now that would really get to me.

RudyMentary · 11/02/2014 21:08

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mummytime · 11/02/2014 21:37

The brother of a boyfriend I had in my early twenties, sent a Valentines card anonymously to the wife of the Pastor of his Church. They never knew who had sent it (although all the young people did) and it caused some friction in the church.

So OP do you know any teenagers who would think it was funny? (Only likely to have sent it if they think he is "old, gross and safe".)

Hormonalhell · 11/02/2014 21:40

He may have got someone to write it and sent it himself perhaps? Maybe to make u jealous and of course it's working and I'd be the same

Bitofkipper · 11/02/2014 21:41

I wouldn't worry OP. Sounds like a man, they haven't even got the date right.

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LoveUall · 11/02/2014 22:24

Lmao yer I said its 5 days early, 1st class stamp too so splashed out :)

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LoveUall · 11/02/2014 23:05

DH wanted to know where card had gone to show our next door neighbour, his ego has been made so big. Our neighbour has joked its his wife apparenyly she's always perving on him out of the window giving me a wink as he spoke. Wondering if its them for a joke he is a jokey jokey kinda guy but he would know postcode

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