Does anybody know the practicalities of this?

[Loveyouthree]

"D"P and I live together in a rented house, both on tenancy agreement. When we moved in it was for tenants in employment only... I'm a SAHM, so had to have a guarantor (my dad, who doesn't speak to me anymore. Doubt he'd do it again!).

So what are my options? I need to leave DP. Don't know how cos I'm the weakest person that ever existed but at least im trying to make a plan. This house is PERFECT for the kids, but I understand I may have to move. Would I get thrown out if dp left? As he is the employed one?

But if I had to move, how the hell would I be accepted for a house on benefits with guarantor?

I'm going to have to stay with him because of the above, even though he's done some pretty unforgivable things. I'm angry that he gets away with it all the time.

Womens Aid are very familiar with repeat patterns of abuse. They know that abusive men often seem like 'saints' to begin with. They know that women who have been in abusive relationships once can be a victim of another. They will not... if this is what you're worried about.... accuse you of having made your own bed so you must lie in it or anything daft like that. You are in an abusive relationship, you are suffering acute anxiety, you fear local reprisals and you need help .... please call them and they will take you 100% seriously.

0808 2000 247

They will help you, you have done nothing wrong, you are in danger. You have to seek help.

Thank you so much. I might actually ring them this week... He's working away too x

Going to start a new thread, thanks everyone.