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Popped my internet cherry last night!

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CornishandPasty · 01/02/2014 16:49

On a dating site IM thing. It was really rather fun! He was very articulate and wrote ever so well (sexy but not smutty)....and did most of the typing :) as he knew I'd never done it before.

He gave me his phone number because he wanted to chat on the phone and swap photos (I didn't feel comfortable with that and obviously didn't give him my number). However afterwards Blush he said he'd like to meet up in RL and for me to text him if I felt the same. It was a really sexy experience but I'm really in two minds for meeting up .....although his photo is quite nice. I'm single.

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ImperialBlether · 01/02/2014 19:54

Gin, what's odd about a thread about cyber sex?

EirikurNoromaour · 01/02/2014 21:50

Cyber sex got replaced by sexting I think. And gin why the Hmm?

AmazingJumper · 01/02/2014 22:00

Why on earth would you not meet up with him?

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CornishandPasty · 01/02/2014 22:24

jumper....do you think I should?

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tallwivglasses · 01/02/2014 22:29

I expect one or two of us Mumsnetters might be mildly interested in the outcome...

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CornishandPasty · 01/02/2014 22:33

double dare me!Grin Grin

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knowledgeispower · 01/02/2014 22:59

I'm sure to lose all credibility saying this but. ..
A few years ago I had an online romance with an American guy and he flew all the way over here to go on a date with me...meeting for the first time! Then 2 months later paid for me to fly over to be with him! The whole experience was wonderful, it only ended due to the distance but I have some amazing memories...he was gorgeous!

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CornishandPasty · 01/02/2014 23:08

knowledge why on earth do you think you'd lose credibility? its a lovely tale! I just don't get why od has such a stigma....not like picking guys up in clubs and pubs. I have no problem with going on dates, and seeing if there's that click. I'm just not sure about this one (would it be all about the sex and not much else?) I don't know. need to think about it a bit more.

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TalisaMaegyr · 01/02/2014 23:10

Oooh I used to love a bit of sexting before I was with DP. Many a lonely night spent in fun and interesting ways! Grin

knowledgeispower · 01/02/2014 23:15

I agree, I think prior to this I'd always seen myself as level headed but my RL friends at the time were really worried incase he was a knutjob!

I'm glad I took the risk and we are still in contact now occasionally :-)

The whole experience was fantastic and I don't regret one second ;-)

I understand what you are saying in your situation , maybe you could suggest speaking on webcam? If he won't then I'd be cautious. If you do meet up just take measures to protect yourself :-)

AmazingJumper · 02/02/2014 01:55

Double dare you.

If he looks reasonable from his photo, and he turns you on, I just really don't see why you wouldn't.

It sounds like it was all reciprocated so nobody could claim he was being 'inappropriate'.

The people saying 'ooh, he was cutting and pasting so he could get your phone number and a shag' seem to be thinking that you might not want that. Why would they think that? Odd. Maybe you do, maybe you don't.

Obviously there is probably a higher chance of sex after a first date (is there no acronym for that?) in this situation than otherwise - but so long as you meet in a public place and say something before hand to make it clear it's not a done deal then it should be fine. You can see if you have the same sort of chemistry in RL.

I would and I'm naice.

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CornishandPasty · 02/02/2014 10:49

thanks Jumper. ...I totally agree with you - makes perfect sense. Got chatting with him again last night Blush

He 'mentioned' he'd slept with over 100 women. Confused

Now if I was sensible that would put me off. Grin

In honesty it really puts me off, but part of me thinks he'd be an incredible shag Wink

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AmazingJumper · 02/02/2014 11:39

The significance with this is not that he has slept with 100 people, but that he has chosen to tell you. He's basically saying that he isn't looking for a serious relationship.

If you're happy with something based on lust, then I would just use condoms and go for it.

BuzzardBird · 02/02/2014 11:52

Many men you meet in bars 'cut and paste' their chat up lines too IYSWIM?

I actually think he is more likely to be a crap shag if he has spent his adult life having one-night stands. IME men only get good at it when in long term relationships where they really get to know a person's body. I think it would all be about 'him'. But hey, as long as you are safe, there is no harm in finding out Wink

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CornishandPasty · 02/02/2014 12:34

Jumper and Buzzard.....I'm going to have to consider this one, definitely play safe if I go for it, could be interesting Grin. And not consider this one available for serious relationship material!

To be fair he said he'd calmed down now and done most of back in the day when he was in his 20's......he's early 40's now. I think alot of guys go through a promiscuous stage in life, if they can....just some choose not to tell us.

I'll keep you posted! ;)

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iamonthepursuitofhappiness · 02/02/2014 13:26

Why not have a fluffer to spice things up a bit? If you want to meet him and you both want no strings hot sex then it's a win:win surely? Obviously if you are hoping for a relationship or start developing feelings for him and he does not feel the same then you'd have to rethink but you are a grown woman - go for it!

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CornishandPasty · 02/02/2014 13:31

Pursuit....you sound like my kind of girl ;) YOLO! he he :)

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ALittleStranger · 02/02/2014 13:37

Interesting thread. On the Dating Thread it's often speculated why men send cock shots and try to initiate sex chat, and whether it's ever reciprocated for them to think it's worth it. And behold...

It wouldn't occur to me to sext as part of online dating. For me OD was just a way to kick things off, and the rest of dating is conventional. I really wouldn't want to meet someone having already sexted. This is because the odds of not feeling a spark are so high I'd rather not go into it with that expectation. Plus I think most men who I would be interested in (even casually) would get that it's not really the done thing. My boyfriend loves sexting but he'd never have suggested it before we'd met.

And for getting my rocks off when single and home alone the wank bank is rich enough. But I guess signing up to POF is cheaper than ringing one of those late night phone lines if you need external help.

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CornishandPasty · 02/02/2014 14:01

Thanks Stranger, I guess its a horses for courses, each to their own and don't knock it till you try it type scenario. Not sure the sign up fee to this one is all that cheap to be honest, never tried POF, I've heard a few tales though.

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AmazingJumper · 02/02/2014 14:54

People are being weirdly puritanical on this thread. Confused

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CornishandPasty · 02/02/2014 15:13

jumper....I agree!Hmm

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Allofaflumble · 02/02/2014 16:47

He could be fun but definitely not LTR material - you would never trust him near a computer!

iamonthepursuitofhappiness · 02/02/2014 18:55

CP, POF is reknowned for this kind of thing and its free so might be worth you checking out Wink

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CornishandPasty · 02/02/2014 19:07

Ha ha excellent! good one Pursuit!! No thanks.....I'm quite happy with the lovely selection of men I have on my site of choice. Professional, intelligent, funny, articulate and prepared to pay a fee to meet someone special. Oh and of course not forgetting the occasional classy but sexy, not low grade smutty - (there is a difference and that's why its a turn on for me) guy.

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AmazingJumper · 02/02/2014 19:57

This thread's a better advert for internet dating than the usual that we get on here Grin.