So on Saturday night I told him that I had been for relationship counselling and read most of the thread to him.
He said he will sort it out.
Someone mentioned about seeing a counsellor and how they would ask each week 'what have you done to move closer to your target this week' so we're having a similar chat each night.
So far so good.
I can't thank you all enough for your responses, you have quite literally changed our lives.
Much much love to you all xxx