So this week I shagged my ex husband

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Discuss!!!!!!

I text my counsellor and she asked 'was it good'

Twighlight zone moment ??

Why are we needing to discuss it exactly?

Er because I'm not quite sure what in doing!!

How do you feel about it?

do you have a current husband? (or partner of some description)

Depends on the background and state of your lives now I guess?

I would say that within the context of your dreadful relationship that it was a huge mistake.

However what is more important than what we think about it is what you think about it.

Well it's a bit hard without a bit of a back story.
Are you single? Is he single? Why did you split up? Was there any abuse? Do you have feelings for him or was it a roll in the hay "for old times sake"?

By your 'discuss' are you assuming we all know your back story?

Because we don't.

Is this the guy it took you so long to leave?

Your counsellor really texted that?

I remember your original threads. You don't seem too bothered by this turn of events, are you planning to get back together?

You're coming across as a real drama llama OP. I'm not sure you're intending to.

I remember the threads but not the entire back story.

Whatever the situation, it's probably a step backwards.

You appear to be very excited about it. Er......good for you?

I love the MN cold showers.

OP: sex with an ex is all too easy to fall into, as they are familiar and we share an emotional connection with them. It is also almost always a terrible idea (sets you back in terms of detaching and moving on).

What are you going to do to make sure it doesn't happen again?

texted

I suppose it is a very easy thing to do. As PP says there was anf possibly still is an emotional connection there.

I dont know your back story, but i suggest you think long and hard about where this may be going and whether you want it to go there or not.

Did you split up last year, I only ask because (particularly if you have DCs) Christmas and NYE are such landmarks, you may have cried in private and put a brave face on, or you may have felt strong and purposeful and past all the grief and worry.

Either way if there was ever a time you were going see how you felt with ex, "I am so over you, I am immune to any stunts you pull, I can sleep with you and not give it another thought" having survived Christmas, perhaps mid-January was the most likely time to test this.

If no thrird party was involved back then, are you both still free agents?

is this Facebook?

Comes across as a GCSE question.

Are you able to give more details of your situation OP?

DrNick As a linguist, I thank you for rectifying the incorrect past participle.

Am assuming you are the same poster as your username just with a different way of spelling it.

From what I remember you were unhappy in your relationship and it sounded like ending it was the right thing to do. Sleeping with an ex husband is relatively easy to do (have done it myself a few times) but it's not really a good idea. It also doesn't mean you are getting back together with them.

How do you feel about it?

I sort of think it's like a dog going back and eating it's own vomit. Not that I'm calling you a dog, OP, just that there's a great deal of sense in the old adage 'better out than in. Plus, you might get worms.

Blimey read this post.... Imagined myself shagging my ex & the dog & the vomit option seemed preferable (like a lot more preferable).