So this week I shagged my ex husband

[MozzchopsThirty]

Discuss!!!!!!

Discuss what ?

That is disappointing to read. I didn't post much but in the past I felt you were strong, needed a shot of confidence and now shagging him was so not the right thing to do.

Why did you do it?

I'm very cross about the past participle abuse on this thread.

I think this thread should be about past participles, so we should discuss those. We can go off topic with apostrophes if you like.

I did or because I can't imagine ever letting anyone else near the dcs, can't ever see me being with anyone

I thought dating him would be a great idea, I don't want him back, he doesn't want to come back but we still love each other

Does that make sense??

Feel totally fucked up tho

arguments your refusal to even acknowledge vaguely, or to vaguely acknowledge, the split infinitive debate leaves me wondering incredulously, or incredulously wondering,at your neglect to inflame vehemently, or to vehemently inflame, the pedants' passions. Shocked I am.

mozz, did alcohol play a part?

Nope it was Monday night and I was completely sober!
I have no excuses
Planning to do it again too ??

My counsellor has urged me not to do anything til I see her

Your counsellor sounds a bit voyeuristic.

If you're all churned up about it, why go back for more? Wouldn't it be easier to have a short-lived disconnected dalliance of a frisky nature with someone new, exciting and totally benign? They don't have to meet your children and it might be rather good fun. Like eating a deliciously decadent box of chocolates in one sitting, rather than picking at an old wound till it festers, sores and turns gangrenous.

I already did that

Eat the chocolates or shag the decadent and benign plaything?

I guess you 'shagged' him to fulfil a need or a perceived lack. Can you define what that lack is? Do you feel fulfilled now?

If your counsellor texts: 'Pics or it didn't happen' what are you going to do?

Dont know anything about your situation but I think most of us have a "last shag" at the point where its really inadvisable. Generally though, once they have become an "ex" there is usually a good reason for that and, if you get back into it again, its wont take you long to remember why it finished in the first place.

Now sex with someone new and exciting...... I do have unreasonable moments of envy (in my generally happily married life)

Some people just cannot be helped < shrug >

My thoughts exactly AF.

Ditto.

Don't know any back history but there sounds some.

If you received ,help , support and advice on here to leave then you sound a bit of a dick bragging about it.

Your going to look an even bigger duck when it goes tits up .....again.

Clearly that was supposed to be dick this wine is good

Off you go then

I'm not bragging

Shagging your ex is hardly commendable

What do you want out if this thread!

Finger wagging?
Black slapping
more advice?

Using discuss as your post is lazy and indulgent

Unless she's Mother Theresa. Shagging Mother Theresa is commendable even posthumously.

Be honest (because 'commendable' is an interesting word) are you doing this - against your better judgement - because there's a scenario in your head where after half a dozen 'shags' he declares his undying love and you give him the brush off? Because, if it is that, it ain't gonna happen. Instead, you'll be clinging to his knees while he drops a post-coital Kleenex in YOUR bin and announces he 'can't do this anymore' because he's moving in with a 25 year old Russian speaking kindergarten teacher, called Celeste, whose father owns Costa Coffee.

Trust me. This will NOT end well.

As the OP doesn't seem to want any advice (already decided she is going to do it again) it appears all she wants is attention.

I want to be called Celeste.

Not so I can move in with OPs ex, I must add.

I am called Celeste. My dad owns Costa Coffee . I am going to take the nail scissors to my new man's penis when I get back from being adored by the children today.

I will use schnapps to numb things a little, and clean up the gore with my waist length white blonde hair, but I cannot tolerate him sleeping with his former baggage . And all because I went to the theatre with Serge!