If you are single, do you ever think to yourself, why oh why doesn't a guy ever want me enough to fall in love with?

[SoleSource]

No guy I have met online ever seems to want me, unless for chatting or quick sex.

I do not do casual sex relationships so I never get to meet them as it is quickly established by him that is all he wants and he will never fall in love with me....

What is wrong with me????????

I'm not pushy etc

I have the book - He is Just Not That Into You..

Are you looking for someone to fall in love with you on the Internet?
Do you have other ways of meeting people?

Nothing's wrong with you Sole. Stop giving others so much power over you, good people don't want it and bad people will use it against you.
You are a decent person worth loving. Know that. Don't allow other people to tell you otherwise.

No guy I have met online ever seems to want me, unless for chatting or quick sex.

Perhaps that's what most guys online are looking for... (that you've encountered thus far).

It may not be any reflection on you, simply what they're after.

Well, do you really want them?

No I'm not looking for someone to fall in love with me on the internet. I'm not insane Kelly!

No ways of meeting new people yet other than the internet but like finding a needle in a haystack....

No of course not. as I said in my OP Just frustrating to come across fakes all the time.

I'm with you op

I just keep telling myself it will happen. I will get my happy ever after and fall madly deeply in love and get married and live happily ever after

Sending "it will happen" vibes to you op

Yeah I think it will happen for me too eventually - whether I meet them online online first then reality after a short time chatting or at University or some other place.

One guy has just told me he was only ever my friend as he wanted to shag me but could never fall in deep romantic love with me.

Honestly men!!

His loss

Nothing wrong with you - it's them with the problem. There are nice men out there on the Internet. Where do you meet them (what sites?).

A chatsite, been there 4 years and only ever talked to two guys offline. On the phone etc.... I tried online dating years ago and that was much the same.

Think maybe online dating would be better. Depends in the chat site, too. Swingers forum may not be ideal lol.

It is a none sexual chat site. If I don't have casual sex then I wouldn't be on a swingers chat site, No sex chat allowed or immediate ban.

I think I'm being selective but they turn out to be fakes

Just teasing -

LOL

I have had enough

But I am so happy to feel I know what I want...

Here's to my future and see what kind of nice guy it may bring

I shall need to sort a few more things out in my life this year. Work, a course :) before I go on a dating site again.

There is nothing wrong with you - this seems to be typical of online dating IMO. When I did online dating for a (very!) short time I mainly had married men looking for a bit on the side contacting me or a couple asking me to have a threesome with them. I'm not joking!

Have you ever tried speed dating?

Twinkle -comments like that about people with ASD are offensive.

I cannot say the blokes have ASD but the guys online seem to be in the main emotionally unavailable and overly sensitive. The last guy was a loner and a bit odd.....although I was under the impression this could be changed via him being more sociable of which he was trying to be..

It's really horrible to suggest that people with ASD are dislikable particularly when there are quite a few parents who post on mumsnet who themselves have ASD and who have kids with ASD.

Many of the men I came across had socially unacceptable horrible opinions like supporting the BNP. Some people are just not nice. To suggest they must have ASD is unpleasant.

That was to twinkle btw

I agree lottie :(

My DS has severe Autism.

How old are you?

I am 39 years old.

I agree a dating site would be better than a chat site. The chat thing is just an invitation for casual relationships.

I did plenty of internet dating and generally believe you have to kiss a lot of frogs before you find a decent one.

When you meet someone through friends/work then you already know they're in the right context for you, you have something already in common. With internet dating you don't have that link, so the chances are more remote that he'll be The One.

But don't give up, there is nothing wrong with you, there is nothing wrong with them, there was just something wrong with the two of you together!!!

The more dates you go on, the more likely you are to meet a nice one, and the better stories you'll have.

Like the guy I went on a date with who ate food off a discarded plate at the table next to us. Or the guy who brought his ex wife along to vet his dates. And there was the weird clingy guy who I couldn't escape from and the bar staff helped me climb out of a window at the back so he couldn't follow me rich tapestry of internet dating!!