If you are single, do you ever think to yourself, why oh why doesn't a guy ever want me enough to fall in love with?

[SoleSource]

No guy I have met online ever seems to want me, unless for chatting or quick sex.

I do not do casual sex relationships so I never get to meet them as it is quickly established by him that is all he wants and he will never fall in love with me....

What is wrong with me????????

I'm not pushy etc

I have the book - He is Just Not That Into You..

I jusdge people not on race, colour, creed, status but on if they are an asshole or not.. the last guy obviously is an asshole! I deserve better..

I do not go to a chat site looking for a date. Just start to find one person interesting then find out what they are really like then his intentions. Online dating put me off after bad experiences but I will try it agagin this year at some point.

"Twinkle -comments like that about people with ASD are offensive."

Oh, I'm sure Twinkle only intended to insult men and not 'people'....

You said in your post that they will never fall in love with me. Maybe you are putting desperate vibes out by what you say and the way you say it.

No the opposite Milly. Honestly. Just online friends right from the start unless we meet and something develops from there.

Sole even with online dating, I've tried POF in the past, match, smooch you name it, there was such an overwhelming amount of dicks that just wanted a shag and so many that would send a message just saying, "Hi" POF particuarly drove me barmy, just the sheer amount of messages a day was unbelievable to get through. There's defintely more men on them sites than women surely. I do get why you think that do as I often do. and I know it's wrong but I have never had a man REALLY fancy me or make me feel like he is so in love with me. I would 100% say it's not you, it's just so hard to find. I'd still rather be single than with any of my arsehole exes so I always try bear that in mind when I feel like you are at the moment.

After he establishes his true intentions Milly... just sex based relationship and after chatting to two guys they reveal their true intentions and it just feels that a guy will never fall in love with me. Pretty self explanitory

Yeah I will date at the end of the year after I start my OU course ... be in a better position when I am busier :)

I multi dated between 2006 and 2007. I met two guys I stayed with for a bit but they were just users... and I was quite vulnerable back then. Nowadays I know what I want. I'm never desperate with guys. Ugh.

I think I'm single because I have a face that says 'talk to me and i'll rip your nuts off'. I'm working on it though.

The only guys who seem to want to date me are those who know me well as they have progressed passed the unapproachable face

No guy will ever love me is just a phase when I am feeling sorry for myself and dramatic.

Some guy will love me deeply soon as I am lovable :)

I know its controversial but I have found The Rules very helpful in the past. There is an up to date one now that covers online dating and texting. Might be worth a look. I don't consider it game playing. I read the original Rules with an open mind and realised that the book was actually about teaching women to not give too much of themselves upfront and to build your self esteem and weed out the bad guys.

IME a lot men on these dating sites lie and say they want relationships when they are trying it on for casual sex. They just don't want to put their photos on a sleazier site IMO.

The internet means you can cast your net wider but also means you encounter more assholes, too.

Keep hunting, there has got to be someone genuine out there somewhere.

Thank you Milly :)
I think that by using the chat site after a bad heartbreak in 2008 and since then staying away from dating to for self improvement has been a good lesson too.

Do I Google The Rules?

How about Cherry Norris...?

cherrynorris.com/datingproducts/

If a guy wants you he will climb a mountain. swim a river to get you so says Dr.Phil...

That is very very true Sole ...if a man wants you, you will know about it . He will make sure you do.

www.amazon.co.uk/New-Rules-digital-generation-bestselling/dp/0749957247/ref=sr_1_2?s=books&ie=UTF8&qid=1390330961&sr=1-2&keywords=The+Rules

The Rules tells you to never accept less than a man who persues you, calls you, makes dates with you in advance, treats you amazingly well and whom you never have to second guess and wonder.

That book looks good :) Also the ones that put they are just looking for fun may as well just put "wants a shag" on their profile, always really obvious to me. :/ Why can't someone just sweep us off our feet in the streets eh?!

I have 2 friends who met their DP and father of their DC online so hopefully there are still some good uns out there Sole â?¥

My ex wanted me and made sure I knew it quite uickly .. we were together for twelve years.

The online faffing about I quickly put an end to now. No games anymore..

I deserve better :)

Thnak you MIlly I shall buy that book yayyyyy xxx

If you're going to do online dating, the sites that you pay for are better than POF and the like - although there are still some wankers, the majority are weeded out IME.

What you going to study this year with the OU Sole?

O also the original
www.amazon.co.uk/Complete-Book-Rules-Time-tested-capturing/dp/0722539746/ref=sr_1_4?s=books&ie=UTF8&qid=1390331533&sr=1-4&keywords=The+Rules

is worth a look too. That's the one I bought originally about 10 years ago

Men don't notice me enough to realise that I exist never mind enough to fall in love with me! I don't know I think because I am not attractive then there isn't that initial spark which makes them actually want to get to know me.

Internet dating sounds scary!!

I cant identify with the post but SoleSource i think your fab and I dont know why they aren't queuing up.

I think you're ace.