DH is going away on a work trip next month. Long haul for 10 days. Was initially him and a male colleague, now they've decided to take two juniors, one of whom is female and very beautiful.
They are planning, for the sake of economy, to rent a two-bed apartment. The plan being that him and his colleague take a bedroom each, the juniors take the sofa beds in the living space. However, he's not known for his ability to stand his ground with arrangements like this (simply in the sense that when someone else bagsys the better bed they tend to win), so who knows how it will end up. Great apartment, gym, jacuzzi on the roof.
I'm pissed off. I'm aware that on a spectrum of possessive to couldn't-give-a-shit, I guess I tip over to the possessive side... but really, it's a rare occasion that I feel like this.
My issues are, to begin with, this is not what I signed up for. Until I went into hospital with my first child, we'd never spent a night apart. The trips away began with one weekend conference a year, but now are numerous trips away, including these longer stays. He has control over the trips he goes on, although I accept that professionally there is a benefit, so there it is. I am also grizzly because I never 'get' to do this sort of thing. I annoy myself with this one, because it's not like anyone can stop me, but I miss my babies SOOO much that it outweighs the advantages. So I'm not jealous of him going exactly, but more that he can detach himself enough to do it, iyswim. It limits my own professional development and it means that DH does not have to deal with the apartment sharing, jacuzzi sharing situ in reverse because my life is not so glamorous. Oh yes, and I'm jealous that he's going to spend 10 days having lots of fun with a beautiful woman while I am dishevelled and covered in baby snot.
I could put all this stuff aside if they had a more professional accommodation, a hotel with a separate room/bathroom for the female junior would be fine. It's the two bed apartment which is really fucking me off. But apparently they've looked and this isn't an option due to cost.
WWYD?