The Dating Thread 68.

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Support for everyone, dating online or in real life.

No judginess, no shoutiness. Nuff said.

Hi Jarlin. It was me! It's on the way - there's no furniture in there now (I put the bed out a few weeks ago for the rag and bone men and the council took everything else.

I have the paint, the new bedding and some accessories. I just need to do it now. It's going to be lovely.)

I really want it to be a stinky boy free zone. Fortunately, themanI'mseeing has impeccable personal hygiene. Never known a man like it actually! So I might let him in...

Hello it doesn't sound dodgy then, or a real dealbreaker....everything else sounds good....I guess the only other question is how do you feel about him? Does he give you butterflies?

Jarlin making me blush. I have the advantage of being in a big city, and in my 30s so I guess a greater selection? I'm not sure about your text to be honest - I feel it may be a little too direct, if the reason that he's been so reticent because he's shy, or has an issue (body hangup or erectile dysfunction for example) it might just scare him away? Bit too much pressure? I think I'd go with making the move myself - creating the opportunity, diving in for the snog....and then address it face to face if he is literally pulling away. But that's just me.

I get the reading things into the amount of x's though. I think Niceguy and I were competititve x'ing via text last night. He ends with a single x more than I do. (I'm not an x'er usually). I said goodnight with 3....he replied with 4.

folk glad you're feeling better...how's it going?

dont how's the post-dirty-weekend comedown?

Think I cross-posted a little there!

Can't wait to decorate my bedroom and knock the wall down in to the box room to create a boudoir

Me neitherm Ivedunnit, but without knocking walls down.

Off white walls, pure white broderie anglaise bedding, eau de nil painted furniture, unnecessary cushions and throws, candles and things, a nice rug and fresh flowers at all time.

Not even my children will be allowed in there other than for the initial unveiling!

I'm going to join in with the decoration excitement! Got a Morroccan theme planned for my new bedroon- lots of purple, jewel colours, silk cushions, candles, brass lanterns etc, so excited! My Pinterest board is going crazy

Hi all,
crow the Moroccan theme sounds gorgeous. I might decorate my room - feeling all inspired!
jarlingeeky did like the dress. :)
oneday I'm feeling ok, I saw geeky yesterday, but I'm already missing him desperately. I'll see him on Saturday now. I'm cooking for him. I can't cook - but I have a recipe that my friend says is foolproof!

Yesterday though, I said to him that I'd got used to him being around and I hated not seeing him. He said, jokingly, 'well what do you want, for me to move in?' I went silent and he said' that's a yes isn't it?' I just said that what I want and what is actually sensible are two different things. I don't know what to make of that little conversation really.

Ooh these new rooms all sound exciting. I love having my own little flat. I've got the afternoon off before date with Niceguy tonight (does this count as 3rd or 4th?). I may be cleaning the flat and tidying up myself....you never know right ?

Jarlin I hope it's not the ED thing.....although, don't know how much you followed the thread but I recently had a short thing with a guy who had issues that way (and he was nowhere near 50, in fact he was quite a bit younger than me) and, I was kept quite satisfied!

Jarlin me and Alpha got off to a slow start too. I think it was about three months before we dtd. He wanted to move slowly with things, slower than I would have done - I was a bit nonplussed at first, didn't know if he fancied me etc but it turned out there was a good reason so I was happy to wait.

I don't regret it at all, in fact I see it as a huge positive as we got to know each other properly first and I think it gave us a really solid foundation.

It was well worth waiting for too

I'm going to see the man I'm seeing this weekend. I'm stopping over for 2 nights. I normally only stay for one to give me chance to get things ready for school/work next week, but I've had to get ahead of myself this week!

I know I had a wobble earlier in the week but I'm feeling a bit happier about it all now.

Jarlin that realising you can find other people attractive is massive, isn't it? For me, it wasn't about finding someone other than my ex attractive, it was about being able to be attracted to anyone at all.

Oh geeky won't be moving in for at least a year. He's only just met the dcs. I guess I was sort of pleased that the conversation indicated that he sees that in our future.

Inviting you to a wedding is definitely significant, Jarlin

Ok had my first day date on Friday bit awkward but ok (I expected that for a first date)-it ended with him asking if I would like to see him again I said I would He tested me to check I got home ok then he texted me again Saturday morning -we had a short chat. Then I tested him Sunday morning another quick chat then nothing since.

He is moving house on Friday. Would it be worth sending him a text then saying I hope the move goes well and to let me know if he wants to meet up again?
And why has this made me feel a little bit like crying?Met him on line and we chatted for a few weeks before meeting

To be honest, I wouldn't text him again, Mm. It can be disappointing when you get a disappeared like this but it's nothing you've done, just one of those things.

Best thing to do is get back online and rustle up a few more possibilities. It's always good to have a few at the chatting stage then you're not left floundering if a date doesn't work out.

I'd also say meet up sooner, a week of chat, two max, is enough. Stops you building it up in your head too much beforehand, which is very easy to do.

Wise words. Thank you

Update on Niceguy.....Perfect date last night (3rd or 4th depending on how you count it). Dinner, movie, drinks in a swish bar.... sleepover at mine definitely a very good night. Next date was planned for Sat night but we don't want to wait that long so he's coming over after work on Friday.

Can't stop smiling this morning. I fear I will be very annoying to work with today!

molly I agree, I would hold off. Remember the rules..... It's all bullshit till it happens! You are the prize!

Oh Niceguy and I had a bit of a chat about multi dating.... prompted by the fact I noticed a missed call from another guy that I'd told I wasn't interested in. Niceguy cancelled on another first date he had planned after he'd met me. He said there'd have been no point .