The Dating Thread 68.

[Bant]

Support for everyone, dating online or in real life.

No judginess, no shoutiness. Nuff said.

Waves at everyone........

Dont you look smokken hot and svelte you cow. No wonder geeky is smitten! Happy to hear it's all been resolved. I'm sooo keeping EVERYTHING CROSSED for you two, I've got a good feeling about it all! 9 days...........

Lies I've been secretly planning my cosmetic procedures which I hope to have done by year end! I'm hoping to see, wait for it, drum roooollllllllll DR CURVES hahahaha! That's his "stage name", I know what you're thinking, which reputable surgeon has a stage name, well this one does, he's renowned for his work in the USA.

Pow HIS LOSS! But much respect for him being honest with you. Good to see you are looking outside the box, you just never know......

Lies you know what, FUCK THE NEGATIVITY, ENJOY IT, ENJOY HIM! No one has ever died from a broken heart, we are all testament to that, so YES, LOOOOOVE LIKE YOUVE NEVER BEEN HURT BEFORE! Did you have an orgasm for me though??? I'm dying a painful slow death........

OneDay if only he had the balls to just tell you, if indeed that is the case. No worries, NEXT!

Re:Yesterday's ridiculousness, sorry I can't resist, but I'm truly appalled that individuals can behave in such a manner online, what must they be like in RL SHUDDER! The whole gang mentality, low blows, lies, underhandedness, JUST WOW! I now have zero respect for the parties involved, their individual MORAL/ETHICAL COMPASS' must be seriously skewed, so much so that I couldn't with a clear conscious accept the apologies.

Hansel it can get rather tedious, I tend to dip in and out.

I've had to tell a guy I've been chatting with off Tinder, that I'm just not interested anymore, he's snooze inducing with great looks, that's not enough. I need someone I can chat with after getting him naked!

The detective went quiet, then reappeared last night, conversation ended when I asked a rhetorical question. I keep looking at his pix, one pic he looks very handsome, the others he's rather plain looking. I actually mentioned to him that he looks VERY different in all his pix, he replied "I know?"

Today I've chatted to some army guy who lives close to me, we have a shared interest in gadgets and all things apple, he's already asked for a date, the thing is I'm just not in the mood to actually meet up with anyone. I'd rather just go to gym, concentrate on this Dukan diet (dinner dates have a way of disrupting my healthy eating regime), plus Mr Wales is still in the picture. So maybe a bit of time out is what I need, and I think I'm being selfish in not being honest with these guys and telling them I'm in no particular rush to meet. Knowing me, next week I'll be back to wanting to get all dolled up etc, SIGH! Maybe it's PMS...........

Dont are you sorted on the lingerie front?? I've just been drooling over some beautiful stuff I've seen online, reasonably priced too!

This is sold out in my size, I've even phoned some stores, SOB....

www.bouxavenue.com/ebony-bow-plunge-bra-pink--mix/100660-20px

BUT I see they've brought back a red version:

www.bouxavenue.com/ebony-bow-plunge-bra-red-mix/100659-40rx

I'm also loving this, www.bouxavenue.com/tori-lace-moulded-plunge-bra-aqua/100155-75aq

I love the bright colours SWOOOOOOOON

Just a quick catch up and marking my place. I have pages and pages to read, you lot really can natter.

My weekend with Mr Zany led to the end of our very brief liaison. I went to his on Saturday night armed with lots of pre cooked food and we bought lots of alcohol - mistake! I finished off making the food and we had dinner, cuddled up on the sofa watching crap TV. Firstly; I had to ask for cuddles, I had to go to him for kisses Anyway, things began to get heated. I began to see things in him I hadn't seen before and I didn't like. Next thing I knew, he popped to the loo, not to return. I ended up sleeping on the couch!

Sunday morning, the atmosphere was tense to say the least, so I picked up all my bits and bobs and left. He hugged and kissed me, said he would be in touch later. I swear, I have never felt so much relief putting the key into my front door. I just dropped everything and sank into the armchair with pure relief. A little later I received a text, all over - I was elated (how wrong is it to feel that way?)

I decided from then I was going to take some time on the couch for reflection, it seems my spidey senses are not working as they should be. However.... Suddenly Mr OMG text me. He asked me to tell him exactly what he does wrong and he would fix it So, I told him. So far a whole 24 hours later he is doing all I ask. He is going through a very bad time at the moment, I knew about this from dating but had forgotten, but even so is being a genuine sweetheart. I have not seen him, I still need some alone time, but it is my birthday on Saturday and he has asked to see me for an hour or so. He can't be away any longer, and I do know this is true. So, I am taking things literally day by day, with no expectations or even hope, and in the meantime am firmly on the couch.

Sorry for the epic post, will catch up and then join in again.

pow haven't heard from Mr BBC since Sunday actually, we left it that we would go out next week as I was busy all this week & weekend. Hmm might text him and see if he died. Sorry to hear about your LD guy! Fingers x'd for Mr Thursday.

Hansel I get the jaded-ness with OD. I don't know how long I'll be able to keep up my enthusiasm for it....breaks are probably needed from time to time hey.

To be honest I find the behaviour from Mr MusicTeacher today just incredibly rude! Taking someone else on my date! He could at least have just given me the tickets so I could go to the play with a friend, and he could have taken the other girl somewhere else. I suggested the play when he said lets go to the theatre, as I've been meaning to see it for a while. Anyway. I sent a snippy reply and then blocked him whilst I could see he was typing back. Delete!

Anyway. On the horizon I have first dates with Mr Camera on Friday, and Mr Registrar next week. Chatting with a few others that I would happily meet. Saturday night going out to a singles party with some of the people I met at that disastrous speed dating evening! Tiger and others who wondered why some of us multidate - this is why! So I really am not wallowing when people treat me like sh1t, or dates don't go well, am instantly distracted. Also had a wonderful lunch and shopping afternoon with a friend. Next please!

Deliberately x-post. Hey! I would say sorry to hear about things with Mr Zany not working out but sounds like you're quite relieved anyway!

Don't meant to say good to read that things seem calmer with geeky now - what is he going to do to deal with his jealousy?

Deliberately that sounds a bit of an odd evening, was he not happy to have you there then? His behaviour on the night sounds very bizarre.

Oneday you got the right attitude, cast thy net wide!! I just can't seem to find enough potentials to do the multi dating even if I wanted to!

Hi all,

Powpow and OneDay, sorry to hear your dates didn't work out, but if they've both got multiple dates lined up (hope I read correctly), you're probably best off out of it anyway. I know multi-dating is the norm for lots of folks now, but it just doesn't sit well with me. I'd like to think I had someone's full attention, if only for a short while!

Interesting, and good, that they both explained themselves though - I think that's quite rare in OD (unless you met them in RL?).

Anyway, it's so good to see so much dating activity going on here! Onwards!

I am always sad to see this thread end up in a slanging match. As I have said when I first started posting, I began reading from around thread 16, so many of the names who were back on Monday I feel I know so well. I hope they will come back, including OWW and Miranda who are gloriously loved up now.

One day and H&G I think the alcohol mixed with the comfort of being in his own home allowed his true colours to show. Up until then I had no idea of the hidden side to him, so would rather know now then later on if feelings had become involved.

I forgot to say Bant I would have been more than happy to give your profile the the 'once over', but have not tried Match or any paid dating sites. Scrooge

It's still very early days for me on POF but so far so good and I need to thank those who advised on the last thread me to clarify my nothing serious profile status with an it's early days but hope to be open to more soon as its helping to avoid awkward misunderstandings

Anyway one thing I have noticed is that I get as many cancellations as I get dates and the current most popular reason is back problems which it occurs to me is a pretty handy excuse

I don't really mind as long as I am given enough time to rearrange with friends and not appear like they are 2nd prize

I did mind one date being cancelled at fairly short notice because it was raining :-)

Sorry for all the typos there

Dreaming that sounds like an awful time with Mr Zany. I'm glad he showed his true colours before it had gone further, but of course not glad at all that you ended up in that situation. I think fate decided you deserved a bit of good luck to make up for it, and along came Mr OMG except a new and improved version. Vive la difference! Hope you have a lovely evening with him on your birthday.

"Gloriously loved up" is an excellent description

Cancelled due to rain BurtNo? Good grief, I have read some reasons for cancellation, that one takes the prize! I always gave consideration to the reason for cancelling or postponing. For example, if a date had children and had to cancel due to an issue with the DC that was fine. A hamster dying or a snotty nose got a delete.

OWW Wonderful to 'see' you and actually exchange posts. I read all about your dates before the lovely Alpha and could have kicked some of them for you.

Yes, I think seeing the back off Mr Zany and the new improved Mr OMG may be some karma or whatever anyone wishes to call it. I am taking it exceptionally slowly with OMG and waiting to see. In the meantime, I am on the sofa, glass of wine in one hand, chocolate in the other and MN on my lap!

I would get really fed up with cancellations too Burt - for one, it's bad form and secondly, unless you actually go out and date people then there's not much point being on a dating site. No idea what you can do about it though.

Good to talk to you too Dreaming . I think I had twenty dates or so before I met my lovely Alpha and blimey there were some funny 'uns. Most of them, though, were fine, nice blokes but just not for me. I still get messages off LM every now and then but just ignore him.

Have to go and get some chocolate now, you've started me off!

Gosh - what an odd date with Mr Zany, dreaming. Glad Mr OMG seems improved. Maybe it's meant to be.

Master that lingerie is gorgeous. I am tempted!

One day we had a chat about retrospective jealousy and he agrees that although it would his preference if he'd been the only man in my life ever, I'm also 33 and that would be weird.

God-I sent him a pic of my dress during a text conversation. It's twenty minutes later and he's not replied. What if he hates it?!

Although. He may be driving/playing table tennis.

dont I have no hopes with OMG, I am just letting things play out.

I find it odd Geeky finds it hard to accept you have a past. Personally, I would be more concerned if a wo/man of 33 didn't have a past. It seems slightly irrational. Have you spoken to him about it?

New underwear is for me a real boost to my own femininity. It matters not a jot that my date is unlikely to see it, it makes me feel good. As for things like dresses, I wear what I like, what suits my shape and is totally age inappropriate appropriate.

Hi all, nice to see some people from past threads back. I only post now and again but usually try and keep up with everyone.

Still seeing Mr Kinky now and again, but he's strictly to pass the time with until someone special comes along. I have a couple of potentials I'm chatting to, though with one his shifts and my job and childcare it's proving tricky to find time to meet.

Don't- glad things going well with Geeky. Though I'm afraid I'm with those who thinkhis jealousy is something to be concerned about. I met my ex when I was about your age, and he too wished he was my first, how perfect that would be etc etc. He was lovely, charming, keen etc. And then once I was pregnant his jealousy was hideous, he was very abusive, and also seemed to have issues about women/sex. Hopefully Geeky is nothing like that, but I do think most people assume and expect that people they meet will have exes and this is normal and not something to get upset by.

splish he does accept I have ex's. He just doesn't like hearing about them. He is honestly so gentle and kind - I trust him completely.

Well I guess most people don't like to hear too much about their partner's exes, so that's fair enough

Had a look at your pic Don't Gorgeous

I have been with my chap R&R over a year now. I have lots of family shit going on, but he is still here. Been a bit of a learning curve for us both.

He is a keeper

Alpha and I nearly met twenty years ago, both used to live in rhe same place. We have wondered how things would have turned out - maybe we'd have had twenty more happy years together. Or maybe we wouldn't even have liked each other, maybe we're only right for each other at this stage in our lives.

What I'm getting round to saying is that there's no point being jealous or funny about exes, we're only who we are and where we are in life because our past, exes and all, has brought us here to this point. And without our exes and the way things panned out, we wouldn't be here dating or in new relationships. Or quite old ones ha 49

Hope Geeky is okay about things now Dont and it goes okay when he meets your dc.

R&R and me were in next door classrooms over 30 years ago and yet our paths never crossed. Strange how things pan out.

I don't think it would of worked out for us back then, we were both very different people.

It's the here and now that matters.

Oww....what you say is so true.

Can i ask...both Mr 4 and i have said we would like to date but nothing serious..me because my EA ex left me 6 months ago and him because of more tragic circumstanes with his gf over a year ago.

However, it has become a bit more than that and ive realised im happy with that and he said the same. However tonight he said he was struggling with his past and wasnt sure he wanted a relationship right now. He wants to be with me (and be exclusive) but cant promise me how he will feel and didnt want me to build my hopes up too much.
What to do???!

Flora Follow your instincts! Advice in any forum, not just MN is ten-a-penny. People give it with the absolute best of intentions, but in this case, you know the man much, much better than we do.

My thoughts would be to take it as it comes, enjoy each others company, don't put any pressure on him. Quite often, when a man tells you something, listen, he is telling you how he feels.

Not an easy one, and no fantastic advice, but I do hope very much time is your friend with this situation.