The Dating Thread 67

[MasterP0]

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HERE'S TO A FUN FILLED, LOVE FILLED & SEX FILLED 2014!!!!

Who knows knitted and you're not going to get to a definitive answer from guessing. Opinion is divided on generic messages, personally I'm not offended by them, just as I'm not offended by someone who walks up to me in a bar and starts a conversation with something generic. OD is a numbers game and a bit of efficiency is therefore required IMO. If you like the look of him just start chatting and if you feel affronted or disinterested down the line, well stop.

Waves @ Knitted...... What Stranger said! Good luck, keep us posted.

Hansel - Ikea for coffee is the worst date location I've heard of!!

Lies that sounds amazing!! V jealous!

Master same here re getting ready. I spend about 2-3 hours on getting ready on the day of the date = makeup is at least 1 hour, 1 hour all in for hair, then another 30-40 min generally fannying about finding shoes and accessories etc. That's not to mention the days leading up to DTD, with exfoliation, shaving, moisturising. Bant and the other men on here - take note of all of the prep we women do for you :)

Here, mine did text back earlier offering to make dinner for me on Wed and generally being sweet, so we will see, only time will tell as to whether he's multi-dating or not. Def going to ask him out right on Wed.

Flora - it's nice when they do that, re Mr 6 Kids being nice about not taking things further. I guess we all appreciate it if others are straight with us, rather than going AWOL or just not responding to texts etc

Knitted - personally, I wouldn't bother responding if they've sent a generic message/anything devoid of mentioning something about your profile in particular. I thing it's just lazy, but that's just me.

tigerbear It was very grim, plus he was at least a good eight + years older than his profile. He must have been rubbing his hands in glee when I agreed as he knew he'd get to cash in the vouchers!

Don't, I think you should be wary about your Geeky's drama. I don't understand his problem. You had a great night, got drunk, talked about having a child together in future and now he's lonely and miserable because you ran into your ex. Furthermore he can't stand the names of any of your former men even being mentioned as he is so jealous. I know you are besotted, but please remember that you have only known him a few months and you are getting in way too deep too quickly. As Master says, he needs to man up. What is all the fuss about? Don't bend over backwards to make excuses for him when he is behaving like a twat.

I hope you can sort it out but it mustn't just be on his terms. You don't need a relationship at all costs. You need a relationship which will make you happy.

I committed to someone too soon before and it was a huge mistake...

Hi knitted! I tend to instantly delete generic messages unless there is something very interesting in their profile. I'm not offended by them but it's more a case of if I have 10 messages and 5 of them are ''hi gorgeous'' I'm probably not going to take the time to reply to those, but to read the ones from people who are personal and have something interesting to say. But everyone approaches things differently :-)

Bloody hell how do you all spend an hour doing make-up???

Don't how are you doing tonight?

OneDay, I agree. An hour?! My makeup takes no more than 5 minutes and doesn't seem to repel anyone.

One Day my eye brow ritual takes FOREVER as I have to have them perfect, then the eyes, I think that alone takes 10min, longer if I'm going for the winged/flick, then I do highlighting and contouring, it IS a looooong process that I like to take my time with as my makeup needs to be flawless, which makes me feel GORGEOUS! It works as I'm ALWAYS complemented on how well my makeup is applied!

In my previous life I was a makeup artist! I just LOVE it! I'm a girly girl, hair, nails, makeup, perfume, some might say high maintenance, I don't think so! I just derive ALOT of pleasure from the entire process!

Hansel - what a complete knobber!!

Dont I have to agree with Melanie and others on here, I'm afraid.
Not just re how Geeky is acting over your ex/any exes, but about the talk of babies so soon. Like Melanie I committed to someone way too soon last year and didn't realise that the red flags (that I didn't realise were red flags at the time) were HUGE i.e., him telling me he wanted a baby with me after only 5 weeks of being together, him proposing to me after 6 months of being together (even though he had never been engaged, married or had any kids before). It all seemed hugely romantic at the time, and we had the same 'never felt like this before' notion you do with Geeky, but it ended in tears.

I'm not saying this will happen for you, but just beware and tread carefully.

Master - same here re the makeup - I love the whole ritual of putting it on. My eyebrows are my main focus too - they're rather thin and overplucked from years of abuse, and I have to spend ages shading them! For me, I also like to create a 'look' to go with my outfit, I can't have a 'one size fits all' makeup.

Well, the last time I had a date, it took me maybe 10 minutes in the shower, I had my hair cut the previous day although tbh it needed one anyway. 15 minutes for a shave to do it properly. Iron shirt, then 5 minutes to get dressed, put on aftershave etc and done.

However, I'd argue the point - you don't do all that for us, you do a lot of it for yourselves, to give yourself confidence. We notice whether you look nice or not but shaving under your arms? exfoliating? We really don't notice that unless the date goes off incredibly well. It's good to look good, but a lot of it is about making sure you're not worried that your eyebrows are sticky-outy or you're wearing lime green with peach (or whatever)

In my case, at least, I see if someone looks good, or if they look like they've been dragged through a hedge. Having not exfoliated - well I wouldn't even notice.

Tiger oooohhhhh SNAP!!!!

If the date progresses to DTD, then your makeup free face needs to look healthy, glowy, no pigmentation, underarms waxed, hedge trimmed or Brazilian, manicured and pedicured, glowing soft beautifully smelling skin.

It IS a lot of work! You're right though Bant it is about making myself more presentable, but in my defense I would still maintain all of that once he puts a ring on it!!!! Just like i work out and TRY to eat healthily to look FAB in my clothes and naked, I plan to maintain THAT too when he puts a ring on it!! He needs to maintain his good looks too! I didn't sign up for a beer belly (MAJOR TURN OFF)!!!

I've tried to spend ages on makeup and stuff before nights out, but end up looking like a clown so afraid it's a ten minute job from me too. At least I can tell myself that the morning after, my face won't look too different from the night before! Have to agree on outfit choices though, they're probably the most time consuming part of my getting ready ritual.

Signed up to POF yesterday without a photo to have a look, got 2 'want to chat messages' without even seeing what I looked like! Found someone who seems nice and relatively normal so sent him a message but convinced I sounded like a total dork

Well im back from date 1 with mr vw.... it went very very well..we talked , we laughed .. we ended up snogging in his car !! And we are meeting again tomorrow night !!

I agree with the make up ritual too , I was a beauty therapist previously and think grooming is everything !

Oh yes, there is TheCrows aspect to it. From past experience I do look to see whether a date is wearing what I'd consider to be lots of makeup - whether applied well or not, as I have woken up next to someone and the lack of makeup in the morning makes me realise I've just slept with someone I really didn't fancy without it.

Having mussy hair, eye-bags and morning breath is one thing, looking completely different is another. I'm aware I don't look my best in the morning either, but at least I'll look like a slightly grizzlier version of the same guy, not someone who's aged 10 years.

I decided to get off the sofa and try my hand at Online dating again. Who's on Match and wants to give me feedback on my profile (via PM)?

I was responsible for the baby talk more than geeky. He just asked if I'd have another one, as he thought he might want one. I have already been thinking about it - so my behaviour is red flag behaviour too.

He did over react - but he's worried about being in a tense situation with my ex I guess. He's been in a fairly abusive [her not him!]relationship in the past and he's gdamaged by it I guess. I have to let him learn to trust me. I can't leave him - so I've no choice. If it's all too intense and it ends, then that'll have to happen, won't it.

I am ok today. And 11 days!

Morning,

Crow no pic no chat is my other rule. Are you planning on putting up any pix???

Dippin YAY, remember the rules!

Bant welcome back to OD! I deleted my match profile! How many months did you sign up for?

Dont WHOOOOOP WHOOOOOP!

Today is my first day back at gym after 6 weeks off, I'm embarking on an actual diet, YIKES!!! I'm not a fan of diets, but it has to be done, once I reach target weight I'll continue with my Paleo lifestyle! I just need a KICKSTART! Aiming for 4 gym sessions this week, 6 weeks ago I used to do that without thinking too much about it, today I'm scared! Bootcamp here I come!

HAPPY DATING EVERYONE

yeah I put some pics up before sending thr message as I know there's more chance of him replying, however just logged on- he's the last person to view my profile but hasn't replied, hope he's just trying to think of something witty and charming!

Crow Or he just hasn't read your message! In the mean time email others, remember it's a NUMBERS GAME!

Bootcamp done and dusted, KILL. ME. NOW.

Dukan Diet Day 1!

Messaging someone else, I'll call him Comic Book Guy. He sent me a nice non-generic message, and has said I'm 'rather cute' he's very cute too! Nice little confidence boost if nothing else :)

Afternoon all :-)

Never got a chance to update as any time I logged on there were more posts to read so I've now finally caught up! Lies, I think you did extremely well to even get to date 4 without dtd so your srx fest was thoroughly deserved:-)

Flora, delighted your date was such a success, and there was you thinking about knocking od on the head ;-)

Waves @ all the newcomers...

well I met pofguy Saturday, we went for a nice meal and a few drinks...something has definitely changed for me though... I find I'm actually not too bothered about the whole pof debacle and even told him he didn't need to keep explaining and apologising! He assumed there was no way I'd want to spend the night with him but when the time came for him to leave I asked him to stay ( did I mention the sex is incredible?)

We had a lovely night together, long leisurely breakfast and I happily waved him off without the usual pangs of regret at knowing I won't see him again for at least a week... probably because I had Mr delicious on my mind! I met him last night and wow... he is seriously attractive.. we met at six for drinks and were thrown out of the bar at 1230! Lots of lovely chats and laughs and a little (but lovely) goodnight snog...he texted when he got home to say how much he had enjoyed and could he cook me dinner on Saturday! All in all a very successful dating weekend :-)

Master you put me to shame, between not only wanting to mind 4 kids AND enjoying it and your new fitness drive my admiration for you has deepened! Where do you get your energy??

Sorry to hear about your night Don't, those type of dramas can be so draining.. I can sympathise with you about the ex in a way...mine is nowhere near ready to know i'm dating! Maybe geeky feels that ex still has power over you and he doesn't like it...thing is though he's going to have to respect that things aren't always straight forward especially when there are kids involved.

I know you're in love and feel like its the real deal but presume you'd be holding off for quite some time before deciding to try for a baby!you will need to see how he is with your own kids first, living together etc to really know if it's for keeps.