Advice please ! Is this moving too fast

[Tia2005]

I met this guy 2 weeks ago this sat I've met him when I was out and I've met up with him 1 other time we talk on the phone everyday , he's says he loves me and wants kids with me and to marry me , he's told me a lot about himself he says he gets injections for stress and he says the doctors said he's got mental health . I just think this is moving too fast I told him that and it upset him I need advice please

[Charlie50]

Please either ignore any further contact or only contact to say you have or are going to report him to the police. I know others have said this. Please listen to them and yourself. Schizophrenic or not he is acting in a strange and threatening way towards you. Ignore or actually report him. You don't need this stress for another minute.

[forumdonkey]

Does he know your full name OP? Is there any chance he could trace you?

You have met in one one night out and been on a date with him and he's behaving like this - keep yourself safe. Make sure your Facebook is private etc

[Tia2005]

Yea he nos my full name :(
He's texting of another number now saying take things slow and he was moving fast and he's gonna be single now forever now I can't turn my phone off I need it I've not called 101 they might think I'm wasting there time

[TeamSouthfields]

Please run.away! please

[forumdonkey]

How many texts and voicemails has he sent you and over what time period OP. In that context you may think it worthy of a call to 101

[Lioninthesun]

No, this is a huge red flag. If you don't run then make sure you take everything VERY slowly. Find out as much about HIM (meet friends, colleagues etc) as you possibly can before letting your heart get involved.
I would suggest running though.

[Lioninthesun]

Sorry, missed second page. FFS, I need to do things more haste less speed today!

[JaceyBee]

Listen. You cannot waste 101's time. It is the police non-emergency number. Were you to call 999 now then yes you may be wasting their time but this is what 101 are there for. Call now. And do not reply to any texts from him.

[CogitoErgoSometimes]

The 101 non-emergency number is a good suggestion if he proves to be overly-persistent. It's not a blue flashing light situation but you may benefit from police advice if he keeps harassing you. He may be known to them already. I hope he gets the message and leaves you alone.

[Aussiemum78]

He exhibits a lot of abusive characteristics.

Wanting to marry a virtual stranger, wanting sympathy/over sharing, making you responsible for his well being and insisting on control of the situation (telling you that you are still together).

Now as far as potential stalking goes, you need to do one thing - send one message this is plain and simple "please do not contact me again". Then block on Facebook, block on phone/email if you can, avoid any mutual friends or places for at least a few weeks and tell any mutual friends (if applicable) that you want no contact with him. Every contact will fuel his behaviour, you need to starve him of any contact at all. He may even do things like google you, your friends, your sporting clubs, your family. Cut off anything you can, and report to the police any problems.

Don't bother trying to talk or reason or plead with him, it will make things worse.

[Aussiemum78]

I did have a stalker when younger btw so I did try everything (it went on for two years) and only complete contact starvation worked - even running into a neighbour of mine, or passing my car in the street was enough to kick him off again.

Reasoning with him will be perceived as "workin toward reconciliation" in his head.

[Aussiemum78]

Oops forgot to mention, can he google your daughters name to find out her school? I'd check ASAP.

[forumdonkey]

How are things today OP? Did he stop contacting you?

[RollerCola]

Hope you're ok OP, try not to get freaked out by this. I would definitely just ignore everything he sends now, but keep it all just in case it does get too much and you feel you need to report him.

[EirikurNoromaour]

Text him one more time saying 'I do not wish to hear from you again. Any further communication will be construed as harassment and reported to the police'
Then do it. He's not rational, he's controlling and scary. You don't owe him a damn thing.

[Tia2005]

Well still getting messages he's sayin now he will give me space and he don't love. Me he just thought he did I think he's just sayin what he thinks I wanna hear

[pictish]

as far as am concearned we are still together unless you say other wise.

Really? That's interesting. How does he propose to force you into a relationship with him that won't end until he agrees?
Nice theory.

Ignore everything he sends you and DO contact 101.

[pictish]

Text him one more time saying 'I do not wish to hear from you again. Any further communication will be construed as harassment and reported to the police'

I actually agree with that. One final clear and cold as a bell text. Then not another word to him, except via the police.
He's utterly bonkers. Get firmly rid of him.

[Logg1e]

OP, Well still getting messages

Have you contacted him at all since your first text?

[SandyDilbert]

have you replied to him at all - are you going to speak to the police about it?

[ToffeeOwnsTheSausage]

Send the leave me alone or I will contact the police. If you don't want to send that you need to ask yourself why.

[SeptemberFlowers]

Has he stopped texting you now ?

[SweetSeraphim]

Has everything been ok since last night?

[Tinkertaylor1]

do not meet up! My ex used this line loads,

'i agree we need to split, i just want to talk it through with you and finish on good terms, one final meet up''

it was bullshit, he just used it to beg - then turn nasty