how would you feel if your husband brought a sex toy and you found it?

[hudsonriver1]

I dont know how I feel.

Hubby brought me some ann summers underwear for my birthday in november and I was just clearing out his wardrobe and found the invoice with 'tenga eggs' on it so I looked it up and its a male masterbater? I haven't spoken to him yet but how would you feel?

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"...Joking aside, in all seriousness, there is something in his sex life that is not being fulfilled. It is as simple as that"

Simply astounding. As soon as you marry or are 'involved' with someone, it seems you have no individual sexuality left, and your sexuality as a human being must now revolve completely around that other person and you are not allowed to enjoy or practice anything sexually on your own.....

Tell us, does this mean we are just not allowed to masturbate when in a relationship?...or is it only masturbating while using aparatus that means we are supposedly 'unfulfilled' by our partner?

Yeah, women having to endure internal stitches and faecal incontinence in order for wankers to get their orgasm is just side-splitting eh?

Surely some of those women must be willing participants though? I can't believe that they are all forced to partake in the degradation of making porn (I do understand that some are for various reasons). Some women have been very open about being involved in the porn industry.

I personally would be tempted to call him down for breakfast in the morning and to have it stood there in an egg cup on his plate.

Why would you want to humiliate your husband?

Joking aside, in all seriousness, there is something in his sex life that is not being fulfilled. It is as simple as that.

Or he just likes to have a wank - just like virtually every other man on the planet.

Where are the tickers?

Now this is an unusual thread.

OP's managed to get a full line in Porn Myth Bingo into her last post and there are two men disagreeing with one another on a Mumsnet thread.

Let's go for a full house eh? Any of you know a friend of a friend who was an Oxbridge student while doubling up as a lapdancer/porn star/escort? Or maybe we'll see a reprisal of 'hubby and I skype amateurs and check they've consented before we wank'? Surely someone will come on frothing that she just lurves the sex thing and isn't a prude?

Nah let's not, that shit is getting real old.

I think the pro-porners at least took a break over christmas, how nice of them.

If it were me, I'd be asking him if he'd used it, and if so, how it felt, and why hadn't he mentioned it or shown me the website or bought me something. But I know not everyone has the same views about these things as me, and in any case, I think the secrecy would bother me.

Whatever anyone's views on porn, I do think paying for it is unreasonable - if you think it's okay to use it, there's surely more than enough free stuff out there?

Shame...there's still time for a redaction of the 'Do you shop at Primark/have an iphone/buy cut flowers/eat cockles/go to nail-bars?' refrain.

I wouldn't care and I'd see no reason to discuss it. I don't tell my DH when I've bought a new vibrator, partly because it's not actually his business, and partly because he couldn't give a crap anyway. If he left the receipt lying around it's not like he was keeping it some big secret anyway.

Not sure how much tenga eggs cost, but I do sometimes add some cheap toy to my cart to get free shipping or to be able to use a discount code, so if the tenga eggs are cheap or rounded the purchase up his 'excuse' seems perfectly plausible to me.

I think it's lying about it? That would concern me most!

I would never tell my boyfriend if I bought a vibratory. Why does he need to know!

I did once hand deliver my ex husbands fake vagina to him at work. Walked into his office and fucked it at him across the room.

He fucked me over in court that morning so deserved it.

He can do what he wants

Imagine if a woman brought a sex toy and the man started questioning why. He’d be flamed!

DP and I have an active sex life, OP, but I still use my toy every now and then.

I would tell dp to fuck right off if he told me I must tell him how my masturbate.

I'm sure the op's husband has wanked himself into oblivion by now given the age of the thread

"we are over that that now and are married"

With respect it doesn't sound like its over at all as he seems set on compartmentalizing part of himself sexually, away from the marriage.

Where is the toy now and do you guys but them together?

I would have no problem with other half buying toys but there seems to be a lot of mistrust and secret keeping going on here.

Six!! Year old zombie thread.

Zombie 🧟‍♂️

Who the hell dredges up 6 year old threads?!!!

*Responded on autopilot mode 😂