not sure marriage can survive this. would yours.

[scottishbelle78]

Baby number 4 wasn't planned. (D) h has already hurt me by saying in an argument that we should have aborted her. Well tonight it was dd2 school play. I took all 3 dc (including baby who is 13 months). As the baby was noisy I txt dh to come and get her once he got home from work. He was in a mood when we got home because the play was lomg. He basically called baby a f*ing brat that I didn't even want in front of other dc who are 10 8 and 6.
At the moment I can't bear to be in the same room as him.
Could you see a way forward from that?
Thank you

I don't think you should think along the lines of the damage having already been done. It doesn't sound like a one off, so it's likely to happen again at some point, it's just a matter of time. But you can still take action to make sure it doesn't happen again.

What's his view on what he said? Is he deeply ashamed? The details that you have posted read as though he just doesn't care.

Need to find some time without dc to discuss. Last few nights have been crazy budy so he has been in bed before dc and I have been up late with baby. Hopefully have some time to discuss at weekend