Calling all those with an eternity ring.....

[wanderingclanger]

What is the protocol here - did you ask for one? Were you presented with one when you least expected it? I am too embarrassed to raise the issue and we've been together a long time (25 years) but if I don't do anything then by default nothing will happen...I realise that there are more important issues out there, but I'm just curious and it's easier to ask you lot than any RL friends!

We were very poor (still are in some respects!) when we got engaged / married. DH always promised an eternity ring when we were more settled. Got it just before the birth of DC1.

I was very specific in its requirements when we talked about it, wanted a classic set 5 diamond ring. Currently not very fashionable in jewellers as they all seem to be diamond band types. So I was even more pleased that he remembered and it's beautiful.

I was given an eternity ring the first Christmas after DS1 was born. When DS2 was born shortly before my birthday, DH got me a ring that sits with my eternity ring with both boys names inscribed inside. There's room for one more name...

I didn't get one, though had a nice engagement ring and quite a lot of pretty jewellery from my husband during our marriage. However, since we got divorced I have bought myself some beautiful rings I love. Hell, no one else is going to buy them for me so why not?

I suspect that your husband probably at least needs to have a clue that you'd like an eternity ring before you get one, unless he's a real hearts and flowers sort of bloke, and even then it's a big wodge of money so the timing has to be right.

The idea of receiving one for your first baby always surprises me as at that point we were limbering up to be pretty skint until I returned to work so splashing out lots if money on jewellery wasn't really on the cards. Obviously depends on your personal circumstances though.

I would like one as the engagement ring that we were able to afford wasn't quite what either of us had in mind (though it's lovely and I wouldn't swap it for a huge rock now) and husband has mentioned it, but I think I might be waiting for our 10 year anniversary (7 down, 3 to go) as he keeps hinting about doing something special for that. At the end of the day though it's just jewellery, nice to have but you can't force someone to buy one for you.

My wife asked.