Calling all those with an eternity ring.....

[wanderingclanger]

What is the protocol here - did you ask for one? Were you presented with one when you least expected it? I am too embarrassed to raise the issue and we've been together a long time (25 years) but if I don't do anything then by default nothing will happen...I realise that there are more important issues out there, but I'm just curious and it's easier to ask you lot than any RL friends!

Fisrt one on the birth of my first Dc, I did have to tell him it was traditional to buy one and that I expected one.

Second one is actually a "dearest" ring, as its what DH calls me through gritted teeth when he is cross with me, and he got the idea to get me one when he saw one being sold on "Flog it" as he thought it would be an apt present.
I had to hint heavily for the first one but 30 years on the idea came from him.

Thanks everyone - the conclusion seems to be (as I suspected) that heavy hints / random visits to jewellers are required.... Congratulations to those of you whose DHs worked it out by themselves though!

I found mine in my stocking on Christmas morning - it was a complete surprise, absolutely lovely and it made me cry! I was pg at the time so maybe the hormones were making me emotional.

It made the usual socks/toblerone/hair gel in DH's stocking look a bit crap though!

I just used to say 'when I get my maternity ring..It will complete the set/ look lovely with my other rings / similar hints' It was done in jest and hubby used to say 'no money honey' back to me! Anyway, he was suddenly seriously ill and hospitalised about a year ago, and I nursed him back to health. Obviously as you would. But for various reasons it brought us even closer together. It was a tough, tough time. Anyway, when he got better he took me to the shop and said he wanted to get the ring for me. For us it's a reminder of our vows for better, worse, sickness, health and our eternal love ;)

I've never heard of this either, so it's not just the dim men!

I was promised one after dd1, then my dh came across a few bonuses at work, and it was mentioned then, and what the budget was...it still hasn't happened :( I've had dd2, and we moved countries, and back again since.

DH rang me at work yesterday and asked my ring size. He always buys me jewellery for Christmas/birthdays, but it's never a ring.

I bought one for myself

I got mine just after the birth of DC4 earlier this year, to symbolise our completed family, plus it's also our 10th wedding anniversary year. We went back to the jeweller where we got our engagement and wedding rings (along with tiny weeks-old DD in the car seat!) and got them to make it to fit with my other rings (which are a curved shape). It's yellow gold with 17 little diamonds and I absolutely love it!

I bought one for my for her Christmas after first son was born. Not an expensive one as money was tight. Around five years later, jobs improved so bought a new prettier one.

We've had our tenth wedding anniversary. No ring. I've had a male child. No ring.

Hmm.

I may pop out another baby and buy my own. Would have to be made to fit round my engagement ring anyway.

My mum got one for my parents' silver wedding - I imagine heavy hints were dropped. On the same finger she already had her engagement and wedding rings and a ring my dad gave her when I was born so she's slightly running out of space...

Still waiting....

Still waiting....

I'm fed up asking, so will probably end up getting one for myself. He has bought me other jewelry though, just not an eternity ring

Still waiting, three children later, tenth wedding anniversary next year. We can't really afford it. Giving through treatment for breast cancer - maybe I should get him one, he's really been my rock. That's so not the sort of thing I say...

Still waiting.

After 12 years of marriage, about 19 years together and (just) 2 boys...

He isn't very good at picking up on subtle hints. I will need to tell him, and tell him exactly which ring I would like.

I got mine when we had our first born, I wasn't expecting one as I had no idea they were given then, when I was at school girls got them as a commitment ring before an engagement. I suspect MIL told him to buy it.

First wedding anniversary. His suggestion.

There are some lovely stories here...perhaps I'm not just being sentimental after all, and a material possession such as a ring can come to represent a strong and happy relationship (or lack of...?) Discuss..

I've just produced a son and heir for my DH - so did ask where my eternity ring is..... Trouble is the one I want is not cheap so have to wait till we've finished renovating the house.

Personally I think an eternity ring is more important than carpets and a working bathroom but DH does not agree with me!

I was given one after DS2. I had asked for one previously but not around that time... Looks like he's just putting off buying me an engagement ring I think (cynical? Me? Never)

I've just asked for one for xmas he's had three boys out of me !

Well...my mum gave me my gran's old one...assume that doesn't count? I won't be needing another one anyway, it's gorgeous!