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Calling all those with an eternity ring.....

80 replies

wanderingclanger · 18/12/2013 21:21

What is the protocol here - did you ask for one? Were you presented with one when you least expected it? I am too embarrassed to raise the issue and we've been together a long time (25 years) but if I don't do anything then by default nothing will happen...I realise that there are more important issues out there, but I'm just curious and it's easier to ask you lot than any RL friends!

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IsItMeOr · 18/12/2013 22:10

I chose both of them btw. Couldn't cope with the idea of DH spending so much money without knowing I loved it - and neither could he.

For many years I had DH and several friend's DH's persuaded that there was something called a maternity ring Grin.

notonmyplanet · 18/12/2013 22:13

I'm another 10th anniversary, I did drop hints as to what I'd like though

Greatdomestic · 18/12/2013 22:19

I got one for my 40th, a total surprise.

My DH told one of my friends he was thinking of getting me one and she very helpfully suggested exactly what I would like Grin

cjel · 18/12/2013 22:33

I got mine when we hadn't been together long, not even 20 and I told him it meant that we weren't engaged just serious!!!!!

alemci · 18/12/2013 22:39

when I had my first dc

Casmama · 18/12/2013 22:46

First Christmas after we were married I looked in a jewellers window and admired it so he bought it. To be fair it was less than £300 and we didn't have kids so spent a bit more on Christmas presents than we do now.

wasabipeanut · 18/12/2013 22:48

I dropped enormous hints after DS1's birth and got one as a 1st anniversary gift 3 months later! I remember DH popping the gift bag on DS1's lovely little fat wrist!

Came from the same shop as engagement and wedding rings and I love them all more than ever 6 years on.

WoodBurnerBabe · 18/12/2013 22:54

My engagement ring is an eternity ring, I love it :-)

Mmmbacon · 18/12/2013 23:02

Dh was taken aside by my dm and informed of tradition when ds was born, few weeks later I was presented with eternity ring on my bday,

Dh is not thoughtful in the present giving department so appreciated the tip from my mum, and so did I

LRDtheFeministDragon · 18/12/2013 23:08

Grin Like your mum's style. I must get someone to 'inform' my DH of 'tradition'.

OP is this a possibility - you could get a friend or relative to let him know what you might like? Then at least he will feel secure spending out on it.

Newlacesleeves · 18/12/2013 23:14

Mine's was a surprise 40th birthday/ 10th wedding anniversary present

oldfatandtired1 · 18/12/2013 23:52

I got mine (no hints) for my 50th birthday 3 years ago after 21 years ago. He left me for his secretary on Valentine's Day some 14 months later. I haven't worn it since which is a pity as it's a pretty ring. And can't really give it to son's girlfriend as it's somewhat tainted.

oldfatandtired1 · 18/12/2013 23:53

After 21 years marriage, that is! Blush

Stupidhead · 19/12/2013 05:43

I ended up getting one after three children and me having to ask for something, anything! Because I'd given my all to raising the children and supporting him it was kind of bittersweet - he was EA. In the end I finally left and sold it in an auction and used the money to pay for a school trip :)

My now partner has bought (surprised me) with a huge Tiffany engagement ring, it's so big I won't be able to wear a wedding ring and I can't take it off! So I think (guessing as he mentioned it) when we marry I'll have an eternity ring on my middle finger beside it.

IDismyname · 19/12/2013 05:54

My engagement ring is also my eternity ring. Shot myself in the foot there, didn't i??

NCISaddict · 19/12/2013 06:25

I asked for one, after all my engagement ring was his Granny's and my wedding ring was my granny's so my eternity ring is the first ring DH bought me, I reckon he got off lightly.

GhettoPrincess001 · 19/12/2013 06:30

I was always sceptical of people who asked for an engagement ring for their birthday.

What did I ask for on my 40th birthday ? An eternity ring (which I got). Hey ho !

WoodBurnerBabe · 19/12/2013 06:30

I think my DH is rather smug about killing 2 birds with one stone as well! But he did spend A LOT of money on it...

SirSugar · 19/12/2013 09:02

took DP to jewellers. Job done. He knows I always have to be with him for jewellery purchasing, just to be certain Grin

spanky2 · 19/12/2013 09:08

I showed dh what eternity ring I liked before we got married . Subtle ...

spanky2 · 19/12/2013 09:09

I did give dh a male child and was pg with another male child when he gave me the ring .Grin

Aquariusgirl86 · 19/12/2013 09:10

In a conversation dh and I decided he would get me one after we have our last baby and have all kids initials engraved. Can't do that til we know all their names :-P

Contrarian78 · 19/12/2013 09:19

My Wife turned 30 a few months after our son was born. She asked for an eternity ring, having previously said that she was due one:

  1. on our first wedding anniversary;
  2. after the birth of our first child (a girl);
  3. after having been together (but not married) for ten years.

I resisted all of those, but I did have one made a for her birthday not as she maintains becasue of the birth of our son which she absolutely loves. It wasn't an eternity ring (so she harps on) but she wouldn't swap it! She's even taken to wearing it in place of her engagement ring which annoys me a bit if I'm honest

GhettoPrincess001 · 19/12/2013 09:20

spanky2 - does nobody say, 'son' anymore ?

SMorgauseBordOfChristmasTat · 19/12/2013 09:21

First one on birth of first DC. Second (more expensive) one for 60th birthday.