The Brave Babes Battle Bus - Walking In A Winter Sober Land!

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Hello Brave Babes, I'm Mouse :)

Welcome to the 'Bus Of Fun' (now you've come of age!)

This is a thread for those who want to give up drink completely, or are maybe thinking about doing controlled drinking, or cutting down slowly, with a view to quitting or not... it's up to you.

You know your limits, you know what is required, it's in your hands. And only you can make it happen.

Whatever your goal, you'll find support here. Always.

There will be talk of drinking and those who fall off the Bus (arse over tit) will post about it, so if that is going to jeopardise your chances of complete sobriety, then maybe the DRY thread would suit you better, as they are complete abstainers. :)

That said, this Bus is happy to have you no matter what, as long as you can cope with chat of drinking, nights out/in, failures, cyclical drinkers, etc......

Everyone has always been welcome here and shall remain to be.

No-one is ever turned away. EVER.

There are no hard and fast rules, other than the support here is unconditional, it may be in the form of tough love at times, but it's always meant with the very best of intentions.

There are two sayings that we like here -

1. • The Vulnerable Need Our Support, Not Our Judgement
2. • Alcohol Fosters Inertia

The rest kind of happens as the posts appear.

I hope that's okay with you all.

You'll find the last thread HERE, THAT WILL LEAD TO THREADS BEFORE IT, SOME HISTORY

And the original and real, truly heartfelt reason that we are here in the first place is HERE. A VERY SOBERING READ

The Bus may be 'mythical', but the support is real, honest and will help you to achieve what it is that you seek, as long as you are honest with us, but mostly, YOURSELF

See you soon. x

Welcome marvellous and well done for posting

ma oh I hear you, hen. DD back to school tomorrow, and had a meltdown today as she found some forgotten homework. And please tell me how you stopped your DH and DD2 from killing each other, because I am so fed up of mediating between them.

Hi to all my lovely sisters in arms. Today has been a good day, was up very early making smoothies for my newly health concious 14 year old dd then no sooner was she out the door little dd came in causing the usual am carnage a 3 year old can. Managed to get dd to crèche and swam 30 lengths, came home and done lots of long overdue calls and emails. Had a lovely stir fry for dinner and drank lots of water, never even thought about wine til after 8 this evening and that was just to think I hadn't even thought about it IYSWIM. So the house is calm, I'm calm and everyone seems happier when I'm not "on the sauce" I think I'm just a better version of myself sober and that's good enough for me. I know every day won't go this smoothly but the thought that it could is enough for now. Sending warm hugs, my half Italian dh had just cooked a huge tray of better than sex Lasagne and I'm sending you all a piece xxx

Anything at all is a saving marvellous whether its glass,mls or mouthful. Count every tiny reduction as a victory.
alias its shit isn't it. You are the meat in the sandwich and supposed to agree with both of them. Whichever one you side with you will be in the wrong. I walked out a couple of nights telling them both I couldn't cope any more. In the end, dd lived part time at grandmas a couple of nights a week to give us all breathing space and to "get away from HIM". Don't know if that's an option for you?

glad I am not the only one with a kitchen habit
So snuggled down in front of TV at 8.15 struggling to ignore the call of the WWW when DT announced that she had book to return to Uni which is across town and would take her 2hrs by public transport.
So reluctantly I drove her there and back and by the time I returned the WWW had given up looking for me and has buggered off
I have also walked the dog and bought a new tumble drier on line.....I am absolutely knackered.
Isindie how was your night ?

Is anyone sleeping well yet?
So hard to get to sleep without any booze in the system. Am knackered and look like crap. I want a boing and I want it soon!

Morning All

Hello demented I've been going to sleep past midnight without alcohol. But then when I do drink I pass out at 8pm. Hopefully, as the days pass some sort of normal will appear along with that 'boing'. We're all going to be boinging around the bus being absolutely bloody annoying.

Gearing up for another day here. Yesterday afternoon was incredibly hard for some bizarre reason. Why would I want to get drunk on a bog standard Monday afternoon? Anyway, I made myself a HUGE plate of pasta and that kind of took away the edge, but it's a constant head fuck this "do/don't/do/don't/do/don't"

Ma same here getting to sleep is really hard. Do you have dreams that you remember? I remembered my dream after I'd dropped DD2 off at school and was like - oh yes that all happened whilst I was asleep, I don't usually remember any of my dreams, rarely

Yesterday was a real struggle with WW, today was better, even went to the pub to update a friend on friend in hospital, had a double lime, soda and a few drops of angusturis bitas (spelled wrong) - lovely and then left promptly

Soc mine is shall I/shan't I/ shall I/ shan't I Monday was always my blitz night (2 bottles, usually with a friend) My reward for surviving the weekend with my DDs

Baby you go girl with that swimming I completely understand the liking myself better sober, calmer house etc My DDs definitely prefer me like this (even though I've been a grumpy cow these last few days) less grumpy today mind

spanna it's bloody awful. I feel like having a lobotomy. I wish I could go to sleep for the next few months and wake up a teetotaler. That would be nice and easy.

Soc be strong, you know you can do it keep going babe We need you to drive the bus tonight Let's get the bitch and kick her ass or of course just flatten her

Beaches I've seen on news that weather is really bad over there -35 how you doing?

Yeah I told them I was taking the dog to get away from them! She's only 11 though, and starting secondary school has been hard. No excuses for DH though, he's a grown-up!

Evening all

Hi Marvellous, dementedma is right, every glass or mouthful less is a victory. Why don't you see if you can just have half a bottle in the fridge at one time, instead of a full bottle? Hide the other half outside, it'll be too cold and windy to go out and get it then and so you'll be less tempted. Thats if the wind doesn't carry it off first....

Well, this is day 2, and very proud that after an extremely stressful day, I haven't touched a drop :) I have a tendency to drink when I've had a stressful day, so proud of myself. Was a little tired today, kept on waking up last night, maybe the last of Saturday nights binge was still in my system (?), I don't sleep well when I have had a few, so hopefully some good snorefests are on the way.....

Not frozen solid yet Spanna but thank you for asking, it always feels good to be mentioned.

Here, it is old saggy tits time so I am about to drag myself into a steaming bath. I am sleeping like a log, no real trouble drifting off at all and then a slow rise back into consciousness in the morning. This is one of my favourite rewards for not drinking, I hope those of you struggling get to enjoy it soon. I am still pretty knackered though and a more than a little reflective today. Back in the game tomorrow with more energy.

In the meantime, love reading all of the posts, the ups and downs and the many victories over the WW. Great stuff babes xx

Hello beaches

I know what you mean about getting a mention. Makes you feel special.

stay warm.

indeed it does Soc.

Stay cool

First night Af here una while which has been by choice !
really enjoyed readin stories to dd without wanting to nod off. House is more organised and dc happier because I think I was a nicer person .
have offered to drive to a meeting tomorrow so that's tomorrow sorted also . feeling positive . X

Morning babes. Day 7 of dry January:)

Wow, I won't say this is easy, but the benefits! Last night instead of being unconscious by 9pm, I watched the final two episodes of Breaking Bad with DH, without having to pretend I hadn't fallen asleep.

Day five here I come.

Sorry should have said hi to anyone who hopped on board last night.

Morning Babes new, old, ancient or lurking

Day 7

Bloody hell, couple of days ago I posted about how much I had saved after not drinking for a day and a half. I just did it again, with a reassessment of how much I was actually drinking, rather than how much I kidded myself, even assuming I only drank at home (which I didn't) I am really ashamed to say that I was spending more, much more on wine a month than some families have to spend on food. Shit that is a disgrace.

Good morning babes, had a horrid night last, dh snoring forced me onto the couch and no wine sedation!! Not too worry day 5 and apart from wanting to eat my own arm, all is well in the world xxxx

Morning, thanks for the welcome. onlyway - will have a go at splitting a bottle into 2 and leaving one half somewhere else. Thanks for the tip.

Chucked away about a third of a bottle last night.

Will keep chipping away.

Morning babes. I came on last year when my drinking was out of control, but was really failing struggling, so left.

6 days AF today, something I could never manage before, and I feel great about it.

Can't help thinking I shouldn't start again come February, but till try not to think about that to much till nearer the time.

I've moved house, cut some old boozy friendships (drink buddies) and am finding this much easier than all the times before.

Lovely to be back on board! :)

BOING!!!

slept well apart from hot flushes until dh woke me up at 10 to 8, asking if I was planning to go to work today....I leave at 8!!
Well done marvellous and everyone who has done ONE WEEK!
one FUCKING week!!!