The Brave Babes Battle Bus - Walking In A Winter Sober Land!

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Hello Brave Babes, I'm Mouse :)

Welcome to the 'Bus Of Fun' (now you've come of age!)

This is a thread for those who want to give up drink completely, or are maybe thinking about doing controlled drinking, or cutting down slowly, with a view to quitting or not... it's up to you.

You know your limits, you know what is required, it's in your hands. And only you can make it happen.

Whatever your goal, you'll find support here. Always.

There will be talk of drinking and those who fall off the Bus (arse over tit) will post about it, so if that is going to jeopardise your chances of complete sobriety, then maybe the DRY thread would suit you better, as they are complete abstainers. :)

That said, this Bus is happy to have you no matter what, as long as you can cope with chat of drinking, nights out/in, failures, cyclical drinkers, etc......

Everyone has always been welcome here and shall remain to be.

No-one is ever turned away. EVER.

There are no hard and fast rules, other than the support here is unconditional, it may be in the form of tough love at times, but it's always meant with the very best of intentions.

There are two sayings that we like here -

1. • The Vulnerable Need Our Support, Not Our Judgement
2. • Alcohol Fosters Inertia

The rest kind of happens as the posts appear.

I hope that's okay with you all.

You'll find the last thread HERE, THAT WILL LEAD TO THREADS BEFORE IT, SOME HISTORY

And the original and real, truly heartfelt reason that we are here in the first place is HERE. A VERY SOBERING READ

The Bus may be 'mythical', but the support is real, honest and will help you to achieve what it is that you seek, as long as you are honest with us, but mostly, YOURSELF

See you soon. x

Foxy lady! Enjoy your birthday and your new dress Why!

Day 6.

Belated morning to you all, why I hope you've got lots of lovely AF plans for today.

First day back at school for DS and back into the office for DH and I, stress levels rising already so tonight will be a real test of will power for me.

But today, I will not drink. Catch up with everyone later.

Hi everyone well family have finally left after being delayed by storm on Friday.
I have run out of excuses so Isindie you and I both on Day 1.
I am about to tip an opened bottle of champagne and bottle of wine down the sink
Will be back for some hand holding later

It's going to child protection meeting ;(

Stay strong, Im This is not necessarily a bad thing. Remember, sobriety is your best friend and last line of defense in this situation. Dont waver. This can actually help you get services moving.

Dont flinch. Lots of hand holding here.

I'm just be very clear in your statements:

• you are doing all you can to keep your family (i.e. you and the children) all together;
• you need safe accommodation for you and all your children (and you need it quickly).

Then concentrate on that. Ignore any cravings for wine, ignore any weakness or temptation to be with him. Neither of them are doing you any good, and if drinking leads you back towards him then see drink for the evil it is. This is not the fault of the system, it is not your fault. He is the one who hurts you, and wine is the softner that makes you want him, Throw them both out.

Thanks for the support I'm still sober for now
venus thankyou honey

why the SW was supportive and he is not allowed to go to the conference because of the dv, shes coming to see me Friday to give me her report before the meeting.

So far isindie yes she's helping so far x

How's everyone doing today?

chewing gum and doing lots to distract myself.
I find staying out of the kitchen helps as I only have to turn on the radio and start to cook and I get a massive craving.
Easy dinner tonight with very little cooking cos I love to cook

Hello lovely I'm how did it go today babe? sorry been running around today, I seem to have some vavavooooooom haven't had this sort of energy for quite some time
Day 5 for me today and I will not be drinking. Still having fitful sleep and really weird dreams

Why I hope you've had a lovely birthday - the dress sounds great

Isinde welcome back, very happy to hand hold tonight

Sober day 1 babe is really good also very happy to hand hold later on.

WW hour is upon us. Stay strong Brave Babes Kick saggy tits where it hurts and tell her to FO - she' s a bitch and will keep whispering just keep saying 'no bitch'

Sweet I hope you're feeling less stressed now - don't be tempted IT'S NOT WORTH IT x

Beaches how's it going babe? you ok honey? x

Sober I completely get the kitchen radio reflex! One word from Eddie Mair on PM . . .

Im, I don't have anything helpful to add except my good wishes for you! and a virtual supportive squeeze of the hand. Stay strong.

I got in from work and kept myself away from the radio finishing the post Christmas tidy; getting in from work is a real danger point for me - as is day four, because I deserve a reward, don't I? Stupid I know and I didn't give in.

The day just got worse at work Spanna, but you know what! the stress levels didn't! because my head was clear enough to just put my head down and plough on. Make the most of that energy.

Thinking I might give saggy tits a karate chop this evening, just to mix it up a bit.

karate chop Sweet

Sober I usually live in my kitchen and can't now as I have similar routine. That gettingtaking coat off and going straight to the fridge, getting that glass out of the cupboard - I almost did it without thinking

If the SW is on your side, that is a good thing. Finally, you may be able to get something moving here.
Remember: sobriety is your last line of defence.
Its a high stakes poker game and you are all in now.

Thinking of you.

Just checking in here, no wine tonight and I'm not really craving it either, which makes me think it's habit, more than anything else!

Those of you who have cut down to just weekend, sensible drinking, how much weight did you lose? I lost loads breast feeding, but since giving up and hitting the vino again, I've chubbed up :(

Quick check in, I'm going to go read a book in the bath - the silent wife - until the ww has passed. There's no wine in the house, I just have to avoid sending h to the off licence to get some. It's funny but I would never go in an off licence myself for wine but sending someone for me is another matter....

Evening all!
Day 6 nearly done and today I have eaten a proper breakfast and fruit, a proper lunch and fruit and just now a proper dinner. I love to cook and I just haven't been into it lately :(
In fact today I feel full of energy. I'm still tired but I have the get up and go that I had lost. The worst of it is that I didn't even realise that I had lost it
I have also started to drink the dreaded water and I think I must have been permanently a bit dehydrated which made me feel like crap. Only downside is the constant peeing- my buttocks have never seen so much daylight :o
Be strong everyone and massive sympathy to those of you who are having to keep out of the kitchen :(

Day 6 done but its been a shitter. Ds refused to go to school today first day back. Tried everything and ended up leaving him home cryi g while I stormed off to work one hour late.
Then tonight one of the fckin dds had borrowed my absolutely best pair of trousers - the only expensive,lined,dry clean only pair I own- and then chucked them in the washing machine. They are wrecked and I know its not much in the wide scheme of things but they were MINE dammit. Something nice which belonged to ME. And now is wrecked. I really really want wine. I am tired, headachy and cross. Being AF is not bringing me any joy!

I don't know where to start. I drink a bottle of wine a night and going to zero is too much for me right now. I'm intending to cut down to get comfortable. I might be on the wrong thread if this is geared towards total abstinence so do send me on my way gently if that's the case!

Tips to cutting down gratefully received.

Welcome marvellous. This thread is for everyone whether drinking, cutting down or abstaining. Is it an option to do alternate nights, or have a couple of fixed af nights?
Or can you drink less on your drinking nights? Open the bottle, and pour a glass full down the sink first to get rid of it if you can't trust yourself to leave some in the bottle

Thankyou dementedma, on the nights I decide not to drink I get very antsy and sleep fitfully so thought maybe cutting down would help. I could aim for 50% less but not sure I could follow thru for the weekend. 75% is more realistic so saving 250ml a night could be a starting point. Sorry, I get a bit fixated on the mls!!