The Brave Babes Battle Bus - Walking In A Winter Sober Land!

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Hello Brave Babes, I'm Mouse :)

Welcome to the 'Bus Of Fun' (now you've come of age!)

This is a thread for those who want to give up drink completely, or are maybe thinking about doing controlled drinking, or cutting down slowly, with a view to quitting or not... it's up to you.

You know your limits, you know what is required, it's in your hands. And only you can make it happen.

Whatever your goal, you'll find support here. Always.

There will be talk of drinking and those who fall off the Bus (arse over tit) will post about it, so if that is going to jeopardise your chances of complete sobriety, then maybe the DRY thread would suit you better, as they are complete abstainers. :)

That said, this Bus is happy to have you no matter what, as long as you can cope with chat of drinking, nights out/in, failures, cyclical drinkers, etc......

Everyone has always been welcome here and shall remain to be.

No-one is ever turned away. EVER.

There are no hard and fast rules, other than the support here is unconditional, it may be in the form of tough love at times, but it's always meant with the very best of intentions.

There are two sayings that we like here -

1. • The Vulnerable Need Our Support, Not Our Judgement
2. • Alcohol Fosters Inertia

The rest kind of happens as the posts appear.

I hope that's okay with you all.

You'll find the last thread HERE, THAT WILL LEAD TO THREADS BEFORE IT, SOME HISTORY

And the original and real, truly heartfelt reason that we are here in the first place is HERE. A VERY SOBERING READ

The Bus may be 'mythical', but the support is real, honest and will help you to achieve what it is that you seek, as long as you are honest with us, but mostly, YOURSELF

See you soon. x

Well done im your sounding strong tonight, go you xxx

Gosh, too many posts to comment all but they made me smile. Whoever asked who drives Gerald during the day...it used to be silver but she doesn't drop in much these days.. so indie takes over unless we can hide the keys!
faire is generally sober so we can trust her with the keys.
Had a fabulous massage..mmmmm HMMMM! Also had a good chat about life and the direction I want to go in and the person I want to be. He is a lovely empathetic person who actually talks a lot of sense and gives me encouragement to make changes and tackle challenges. I suppose wearing only my knickers and a slick of essential oil makes me trusting
Day 4 done. All good

Thank you all. Chocolate in any form is always welcome :)
My mood has improved and I am managing to ignore the cider still sat in the fridge. I think it will help once the kids are back at school and I get back into a routine - and know what day it is!

Thanks spanna lovely feeling positive tonight

How you doing honey?

Thanks for the support baby and beaches

ma

MRF well done and I totally agree about the dc going back to school not long now x

Im Very happy to hear you so in control and making promising moves here. Just hope housing and SW get their arses in gear as well. Look out 2014! Imdoingthis is doing this! Get out of her effing way!

And I drive the bus early morning after Soc. While you all get your beauty sleep, the night workers of NYC take control. Dont wake up too early as I drive the bus the wrong side of the road.

Buckle up babes it's going to be a bumpy ride tonight where are we going why ?

I'm glad I found this bus thanks why I feel better now I have decided what to do I have spent so long unable to make desision.
I'm back

And I'm thread hogging posting a lot

I personally cant hear enough from you, Im.

Tonight we are going to a very beautiful city, where I used to live. Its called (no joking) The Peoples Republic of Cambridge, MA. As you enter the city limits the sign posts welcoming you to the city read, " Violence Against Women is not tolerated here". (Seriously, this is what they say). It houses Harvard and MIT. We will be having chowder and lobster rolls.

Still no alcohol here but DH is tapping along to the music and it is making me irrationally murderous. Have so far resisted the urge to a) open a beer or b) murder him but I feel it's time to head up the wooden hill

Sounds like a place I dream to go it sounds perfect why I'm also hungry now I have read ' lobster roll' I had a crab roll at Christmas it was yummy my cupboards may have some cheese and crackers instead.

bob keep with it you have nearly done the night tonight? (Have I got your name correct) I think you should do C, and go to bed you will be full of regret if you choose A or B

Hi sorry to butting but looking for some info. Am on a dryathlon. Partly because I need to reexamine my drinking habits and know I need complete abstinence to break the cycle but also for health reasons as I have been feeling lousy. I roughly drank about 5-9 units per night but over the Xmas period it was more, prob 10-12. Tonight I am feeling really dizzy andi wondered if anyone else had this when abstaining. This is the 4th night off the alcohol and I've had a sore shoulder. I THINK that is muscular as I have an 18 month old and its hard to rest it tho am worried it could be pain from within. I went to the drs surgery a few days ago for an ECG but they werent worried an I came away with being told to take Zantac for a month. I do feel weird tho- like I'm not quite there. Is this just alcohol withdrawal? Thx in advance for advice.

Hi i'm, you did have my name right but I have just de-Christmassed myself so I am back to plain old Crotch now :o And I haven't killed DH or had a drink, I have instead eaten a surfeit of Ferrero Rocher and changed the bedding

Hello there will Can't help too much about withdrawal as I was not drinking that amount (when I stopped at least!) but I do know that I have been waking with a headache and been really tired since not drinking. I think it was also a combination of the Christmas gluttony and being back at work but I will be seriously pissed off if this mythical "healthy vigour" doesn't make an appearance pretty bloody soon :o

To those of you feeling the aches and pains of withdrawl (that is what it is) eat frequently, plenty of sugar, vitamin B and lots of water. You will feel better, buy give it a week or so. Sleep will improve too, but it takes a while. Well done ladies, keep it going!

Ola....Me from downunder. Day 4 finished and I'm feeling fabulous. Slept so much better last night. Still feeling a bit rough and tired late afternoon (spot on wine o'clock) but anxiety has all but gone and generally feeling so much better.

Will post more of my exciting life later. Bet you can't wait.

xx

Morning beautiful babes

What a lot of fabulous posts,well done! Keep posting,keep reading,it gets easier and easier.After a while it becomes more of a choice then a craving,that can be hard too because for most of us the default status is: I feel angry/hungry/lonely/tired and I want a drink.Boredom is a big one for me.

So if you have battled your way through days 1-4 then it's worth thinking about taking up some new hobbies or making some changes. Sadly,I chose 'stuffing my face on chocolate' but how about getting out and seeing a friend? Going for coffee by yourself so your family don't drive you to drink yoga? zumba? take a degree,learn to draw.

You have begun to free up hours and hours of time which you used to fill by drinking and falling asleep. What else can you do? I went to meetings and for a long time,I loved them.

Be aware that massive changes like this can bring about mood swings. Remember what it was like being 13? Yup. Giving up something you 'loved' for many years can make you feel disappointed and sad for a while. That's normal and it passes.

Hi there Soc it's always good to hear what you're up to downunder Day 4 is brilliant and fab that you're feeling so good. Is it still scorching over there? The rain has stopped and so has the wind it's all a bit still out there, not sure how long that will last.
Day 4 for me today, these next few days are always my challenge, had to go to bed at 9pm to stop the WW torture then of course woke up before the crack of a sparrows fart

Good morning all Brave Babes

aarrgghh! I wanted to nc but ds has decided to jump on me

Xpost Guggs I was so irritable yesterday had to keep checking myself and taking a step back. DD2 asked me why I was so grumpy so it must have been bad. I think I may start running also in the process of setting up a new business, this is whilst I'm selling my house and buying another - thinking about all of that makes me want to turn to WW
This bus is helping me so much and is a welcome distraction although I'm probably driving all other babes mad

Hello will
How are you eating as why said eat lots of sugary things have some nice treats in,

crotch glad to here your DH is still alive and you had a glam night but fresh bedding is one of life's little pleasures IMO x

sober soc glad sleeps improved for me it has for me too I slept perfect last night and ds gave me a lie in x

Why thinking of you lovely x

spanna how you doing lovely?

beaches how's the snow ? Is it still falling ?

I'm feeling strong today got my house in order and dc back to school tomorrow, feeling so much better without a drink today

Waving at mouse baby joey ma MrF and everyone else reading or posting on the bus x

Morning All, it's fun to wake up and see the overnight support, feel like it's seeping into my dreams. Day three for me and feeling a bit better, headache better, sleep fitful, but at least I go back to sleep now, when I drink I wake up at 3am and that's it. Now I just have the worry about all the things I didn't manage to get done for work tomorrow because I was necking the wine to forget how stressed I was about the amount of work

Brilliant post guggs I'm not up to day 4 yet I started after but its good for me to sort of be prepared if you like and know what's coming!

There you are spanna was wondering where you where x

Good morning lovely I'm a lie in, what's that?? I'm envious of your house being 'in order' mine is a tip that I keep doing displacement activities to housework avoidance

I'm it's so good to hear your strength coming through - you go girl Keep going babe you can do it

Sweet oh yes that 3am waking up in a drunken stuper, anxiety and feeling like a gorilla's armpit, horrible the dread, remorse etc etc

WE DON'T WANT THAT we want to feel clear headed, empowered, focused, able to function with a positive mental attitude (God I'm starting to sound like a Councillor or something)

Spanna