The Brave Babes Battle Bus - Walking In A Winter Sober Land!

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Hello Brave Babes, I'm Mouse :)

Welcome to the 'Bus Of Fun' (now you've come of age!)

This is a thread for those who want to give up drink completely, or are maybe thinking about doing controlled drinking, or cutting down slowly, with a view to quitting or not... it's up to you.

You know your limits, you know what is required, it's in your hands. And only you can make it happen.

Whatever your goal, you'll find support here. Always.

There will be talk of drinking and those who fall off the Bus (arse over tit) will post about it, so if that is going to jeopardise your chances of complete sobriety, then maybe the DRY thread would suit you better, as they are complete abstainers. :)

That said, this Bus is happy to have you no matter what, as long as you can cope with chat of drinking, nights out/in, failures, cyclical drinkers, etc......

Everyone has always been welcome here and shall remain to be.

No-one is ever turned away. EVER.

There are no hard and fast rules, other than the support here is unconditional, it may be in the form of tough love at times, but it's always meant with the very best of intentions.

There are two sayings that we like here -

1. • The Vulnerable Need Our Support, Not Our Judgement
2. • Alcohol Fosters Inertia

The rest kind of happens as the posts appear.

I hope that's okay with you all.

You'll find the last thread HERE, THAT WILL LEAD TO THREADS BEFORE IT, SOME HISTORY

And the original and real, truly heartfelt reason that we are here in the first place is HERE. A VERY SOBERING READ

The Bus may be 'mythical', but the support is real, honest and will help you to achieve what it is that you seek, as long as you are honest with us, but mostly, YOURSELF

See you soon. x

'Staying' not stating.

Just wrote a massive heartfelt post and bloody lost it, had a booze soaked New Year and I'm going to have to stay sober whether I like it or not (dh and dd sick of my alcohol induced weeping and sleeping ) I have come to understand there are many many triggers and my life is stressful but it's the life I have so I'm on day 2. It's not been the start to the year I'd hoped for but reading your posts has shown me it can be done, well done everyone!!! guggs my dd is 3 and sounds as wild as your boy and it's a big trigger for me, she often doesn't sleep til very late at night so I sympathise with your post. My love to all of you xxx

I love your posts Spanna, I am really pleased to hear that your friend is making a slow improvement too. Not sure about the worty thing - maybe morphing into witches is part of the detox process!! I will keep an eye out for green tinge and pointy chin happening . Well done for avoiding the pub, these first few days are definitely the hardest - dh and I are scratchy with each other and I am sure we are both just struggling with the booze.

Drive cleared and am now knackered but I think fresh air and daylight was good for my head. Hope you enjoyed your massage Ma, sweet, wow those pennies are soon going to stack up and a holiday is a brilliant goal, hope try and relax a bit today and ignore some of those chores, ignore old saggy tits (WW) too, think of waking up without the hangover.

Hope everyone else is well xx

X post with you baby. Good to see you and well done on day 2

Day 8 and my mood has disappeared under the floorboards somewhere. I am not that tempted to drink but after a few days worth of migraines and not getting much done I am feeling pissed at myself.
I realise that is daft of course and at least I can see what is going on this time. Still, has anyone got any opal fruits?

Baby I'm on day two as well! It will be worth it, I found DS really difficult when he was little (11 now, and a nerdy little delight), but the more I drank, the worse he seemed to get!

Beaches I think I have almost forgotten what fresh air and daylight are, would some lovely bright frost weather be lovely?

I'm all out of opal fruits but I have one last chilli penguin if that will help MrsF?

Thanks sweet, I know it'll get easier but at 42 I really find it tough, she's sometimes up for 15-19 hours straight, I guess my drinking has allowed all my routines to slip so I'm back on the case, I also have a 14 year old who seems to hate everything I say or do but I know my drinking has been a big issue for her so it's suck it up time for me. I hope that in getting control of myself and my home then everything and everyone will settle down!!! I am joining slimming world and am lucky to be a member of a lovely club with a pool and a gym so I have all the tools to succeed except my anxious, frightened mind, sorry me me me xxx

OMG Beaches I was wondering why I'd started to get bristles on my chin I thought it was just my age Oh no worty thing and bristles - what next????

Baby oh yes the composed message and bosh it's gone, just as you get to the end. Well done on Day 2, keep going remember how good it feels to be clear headed etc

MrF Day 8 is amazing (that's as far as I've got on the bus caved on Day 9) Keep going you can do it, your mood will lift and your motivation will come back. My house is a tip I have done very little but I've got to Day 3, struggling but I'm in and not going out

I will probably keep prattling on this evening, as saggy tits is tapping me on the shoulder and whispering about cold white wine. She is such a bitch

Baby ditto here with DD1 (14) nightmare and so rude and then lovely again mostly hates everything about me and has very strong opinions about my drinking

Pesky kids!!!

Lot's of good things to motivate you Baby, I find the gym is great if I can get there! I was really lucky with, DS, I know, he slept through from six week, but, never napped after he was a year old (& only for 40 mins at a time before), so I can empathise with the relentlessness. As for the 14 year old, going to build myself a garden office and hide down there for the teenage years!

Day 4 here and apart from waking up with a banging headache (where is the justice ) I am great. I'm really tired but I suspect that after two weeks off work and then going back to nights, along with the inevitable detox it's just something I need to get through.
We are supposed to be meeting a friend in the pub tomorrow which should be interesting TBH I have worked and lived in pubs for so long I have little issue with being in the pub and not drinking, it's the afterwards that will be a test as I feel I need a reward for not drinking while out.
Anyway I have been pottering. I'm not a potterer by nature but I find that by constantly doing something I am distracted.
And DH hasn't had a drink yet or even mentioned it. For a lazy weekend indoors this is unheard of :)

Bob well done. Headaches and tiredness are very common in the first week. Why not buy yourself a really nice piece of cake to have when you get home from the pub, that can be your reward

I know it's a little early to declare day two a success just yet, but I find mid afternoon my danger time when I'm not in work, and I have grown up DSS visiting shortly, so I'm going to bow out for the evening and wish you a good, sober night

Hello babes, and thanks for the name checks and encouragement. Sat with a lime and soda now, still want a drink cos other half is being a total arse. Been at the footie all day then come home moaning cos I let ds go out with friends, and criticised the cleaning I did and asked why tea wasn't ready. I know lots of other babes have a much worse time, but between stress at work and miserable git at home, I only feel happy when I am with my friends or alone with the kids. Or at the gym or asleep. When I make a huge effort he doesn't notice and I feel resentful, and when I think bugger it and give up we just argue. Aaagh! Sorry for the rant. You are all doing so well, don't want to bring the thread down, just bad case of post Christmas blues.... Hope all you babes have a nice evening planned...

hope you are not bringing the tread down, it is good to have a rant sometimes! especially when miserable gits forget how lucky they have it and behave like twerks. You are doing really great

at chin bristles, Spanna I think I may have been a witch for ages ah, the very special joys of ageing!! It's no wonder we all drink drank

MrF I sympathize with the migraines, just getting through those days is an achievement. 8 days is great, hope that mood rises from the floorboards soon x

Haha, thanks beaches. He has definitely been a total arse over Xmas,even the kids think he is a grumpy git. Doubt he would be here if I didn't pay for everything.

Spanna and baby my dd is only 10 and she disapproves of everything I do. If I embarrass her now she will have to walk round in a permanent strop when she is 14 as it will only get worse!

Well done to all the dry January babes out there - think it will be a very early night for me tonight!

It's official I love Copella Elderflower and Apple juice, it's delicious

As Baby said, pesky kids but we love em

Hope imagine that you are a really good friend of yours. What would you advise them to do in your situation?

My X of 20 years never paid for anything on the day to day.He occasionally put his hand in his pocket for birthday presents He did work. He left 4 years ago (just after I'd stopped work to do a degree) so had no money except for student grant etc. After initial shock of him leaving, he has had no contact for 3 years with our DDs. It's been tough I know now that the relationship would never have worked in the long term - he was too damn selfish. that turned into a rant (sorry)

One day at a time Hope x

beaches how did your snow clearing go? I had no idea about the snow storms because my kids rule tv for a quiet life I haven't seen the news, just showed my kids the pictures in the net x

Im children always seem to rule the TV, at least they do here too! We have cleared away the drifts on the driveway so we have access to the rest of the world again, we didn't lose power and the roof stayed on so not bad for us. Sounds romantic but actually a nightmare for those who needed to get somewhere. Anyway, I was thinking about you and wondering how things are going in Im world

Thanks Spanna. If I were my friend I would say to throw him out. (as some of them have done). But on a purely practical level with my crazy job and crazy hours it would be hard to cope. Dd starts high school in September, and I should know what's happening at work by then, so just a case of hanging on till I can re-evaluate, but yes, selfish just about describes him. And a few other adjectives but I won't go on...

Yes snow has something nice about it for about a day or so but it is disruptive, glad your ok.

Trying desperately to relax while cartoons rule and Nerf gun bullets skim my head

Well my plan is to go down to the housing office on Tuesday and make a homeless application I have got a worker going with me to help me and help with dc's.i have herd nothing from the SW two weeks now since she was here last, iv got a wa worker if I need her too, me not drinking is the best thing for me to not ingage with him iykwim.

Sounds like a good plan I'm and well done for not drinking babe

I'll second that, it sounds like you have a good plan of action. SW sounds a bit rubbish, perhaps now the holiday season is over things will improve there. I really hope things move quickly and easily for you babe and very well done on the not drinking. X