The Brave Babes Battle Bus - Walking In A Winter Sober Land!

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Hello Brave Babes, I'm Mouse :)

Welcome to the 'Bus Of Fun' (now you've come of age!)

This is a thread for those who want to give up drink completely, or are maybe thinking about doing controlled drinking, or cutting down slowly, with a view to quitting or not... it's up to you.

You know your limits, you know what is required, it's in your hands. And only you can make it happen.

Whatever your goal, you'll find support here. Always.

There will be talk of drinking and those who fall off the Bus (arse over tit) will post about it, so if that is going to jeopardise your chances of complete sobriety, then maybe the DRY thread would suit you better, as they are complete abstainers. :)

That said, this Bus is happy to have you no matter what, as long as you can cope with chat of drinking, nights out/in, failures, cyclical drinkers, etc......

Everyone has always been welcome here and shall remain to be.

No-one is ever turned away. EVER.

There are no hard and fast rules, other than the support here is unconditional, it may be in the form of tough love at times, but it's always meant with the very best of intentions.

There are two sayings that we like here -

1. • The Vulnerable Need Our Support, Not Our Judgement
2. • Alcohol Fosters Inertia

The rest kind of happens as the posts appear.

I hope that's okay with you all.

You'll find the last thread HERE, THAT WILL LEAD TO THREADS BEFORE IT, SOME HISTORY

And the original and real, truly heartfelt reason that we are here in the first place is HERE. A VERY SOBERING READ

The Bus may be 'mythical', but the support is real, honest and will help you to achieve what it is that you seek, as long as you are honest with us, but mostly, YOURSELF

See you soon. x

Wine win, chocolate fail. Ah well one out of two

Will ad socfish and mama to the list.am mning in bed on tablet and haven't figured out how to copy and paste.
We're amassing quite a team here...strength in numbers. Any more to sign the January pledge?

Where's baby? She was excited about January, come on babe .

I am having a wobble already... I am four hours behind you lot so I am at the witching hour now. Snow storm, both wood stoves burning, wine in the cupboard, BIG whispers.

The thought of the bus and all of you determined babes, each in their own determined place in the world is the thing that is stopping me.

Oh and guggs waving Pom poms in a leotard

Seriously, thank you everyone, for being there. X

Beaches ignore the WW, come on babe kick her in the tits Be strong babe you know you can do it

Soc don't be lonely over that there pacific we're all here. Have you taken over the driving of the lovely Gerald yet? We need you who's navigating?

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Thanks spanna, not sure I can kick 'tit height' though, hope she is a short arsed witch or I may pull something! Feel better after four bars (small) of chocolate , think the diet may have to wait a day or two. How are you today?

Think we are all supplementing booze with food just now but that's ok becausbecause while we may be eating we are not drinking. Right across the world,the babes are beating the shit out of the Ww!

She has tits down to her waist, you'll be fine. You can work up to the diet, right now our bodies are craving the sugar from the booze one day at a time.

Not that good here. Heard from my friend last night and her partner was improving, doing as well as can be expected over critical bit etc. She came home went back to hospital today and he's had a really bad night. They've done another scan on his brain and they've not seen this kind of devastation since the initial stroke in a long time So they've said he may only have a few days. He is like a GF to my DDs and DD2 has been really upset and is asking if we can go and see him tomorrow

sorry you did ask x

Oh Spanna I am so sorry to hear that, that is terrible news. Just when it seemed that the critical time had passed , I will send all my positive thoughts to you and hope that there is some turn around for him. So difficult with the girls wanting to see him too. Xxx

(Love that WW has old saggy hag boobs!) I may have a chance of getting my leg up to that level!

I'll kick her in the shins and then you'll definitely reach them

I can't decide what's best.. if I get the chance to go to hospital tomorrow do I take my girls so that they see him or not? It's a difficult one, as they are all so close, if he does die and they haven't seen him? or is it best to leave it and see what happens? any advice?

Yep, I'm driving and that WW is going to be flattened....well and truly road kill.

Chocolate is good. Much better for you than wine.

Difficult one. Have you seen him? How is he looking, are there a lot of machines? I suppose I am trying to weigh up how upsetting it may be to see him looking so venerable. There is no right or wrong answer to this one, have you got a gut feeling about it?

Obviously I meant vulnerable

I haven't seen him. There will be machines etc my gut says that it will make more sense to the girls. I think When my friend showed him a card that DD2 made and read it out to him, he acknowledged that and she asked me to tell DD this. this was when he seemed to be improving. I think I'll sleep on it If in doubt don't do anything....I'm off to have a serious conversation with the universe.....

spanna can't remember how old your children are. When I was about 18 a family friend was dying of cancer in hospice and her husband strongly recommended that I didn't go and see her. I didn't really get it at the time. Still not sure what the right answer is, but at the moment I think in retrospect, it was probably a good call. Apparently she looked awful and he thought it wouldn't be appropriate for anyone young to visit. I can see where he was coming from. It's possible at that age I wouldn't have been able to cope and the image of her may have stayed with me in an unpleasant way for a long time. All I have now, is really good pictures in my head of her. But every person and situation is different. Sorry about your friend. xx

Thank you Soc x

Glad you're back in the driving seat

Hopefully the universe will come up with something . Take care lovely spanna xxx

Drive steady soc and be sure to re stock the chocolate!

I'm in.

Day 2 done and dusted. Can't sleep though

beaches Gerald is positively bulging with chocolate.

Its a blizzard in NYC, and -9.

Im drinking lemon with cloves and hot water.
Tell me of warmer climates Soc!

I love the warm weather, but doesn't NYC get blistering hot in summer?

That stupid alcoholic voice in my head keeps trying to persuade me that it's harder to stop drinking in summer because of lying next the pool with a cold glass of wine etc. But then come winter and that same fucking voice tells me another version of red wine and romance next the fire. All just a load of shite

But still I do love summer. Will buy some weird and wonderful non alcoholic drinks for the poolside. And maybe I'll lose some lard and look even more glam in my bikini.

Morning all. For those who have already had a couple of AF days - WELL DONE!!! Brilliant start to the year . For any others, it's not too late to have a fantastic Friday, a free Friday, a focused Friday, any sort of Friday you want really as long as it is without alcohol.

There are so many excuses that we can give ourselves: the end of the festive season; the last weekend of the holidays; the tail end of Christmas socialising; just finishing off the Christmas booze; the misery of another wet, windy, grey, rainy day..... but we have all been here before, we all know deep in our hearts that it is just an excuse.

You may be feeling strong and fighty and be able to karate chop the wine witch in half, or you may be creeping through the shadows trying to avoid attention holding on by your fingertips until you can get to bed. It doesn't matter. What does matter is that TODAY it really is worth getting through it without a drink, you are worth it.

There is a lovely quote by the 13th century Persian philosopher, Rumi:
"Come, come, whoever you are.
Wanderer, worshipper, lover of leaving — it doesn't matter,
Ours is not a caravan of despair.
Come, even if you have broken your vow a hundred times
Come, come again."

So babes whoever you are, even if you have made a vow not to drink and broken it a thousand times, come and join us. This is NOT a caravan of despair

That's brilliant venus I love Rumi

Soc that is so me! Cold glass of white wine in the summer, glass of red on a cold winter's evening.

Had a rubbish night's sleep but I know it's par for the course. Tonight might be difficult for me, I'm at work till late and as the shift ends everyone is always talking about going home to a bottle of wine and I'm working on sunday so the ww will be saying 'drink tonight, you can't tomorrow'. Oh well, I have no wine in and no intention to buy any.

Yes NYC gets blisteringly hot in the summer (plus humidity) but we also get cold, cold winters. Not Boston cold, but close.

Morning everyone, please may I climb aboard your bus ?
I've named changed but am a regular user sorry .
I have been drinking more and more wine after work for approx 10 years now , prob 3/4 bottle , but more worrying is that I now drink for the effect and am aware that if I can't drink because I'm driving or have other commitments I'm in a bad mood so prob there is some dependancy there .
If I can get past making the tea time I'm fine, as for me its the habit of pouring a glass and drinking it rather quickly when I get in and get the dinner on. All fine until about 2 hours later when I'm much more likely to be a grouch ! I don't like the way I behave and I'm aware that I'm hiding from a bad relationship behind this wine .
Anyway I'd like to try not drink during the week to start with and look forward to a glass at the weekend . I've done this before and it was ok but just can't get that first night in this time .Any tips very welcome !
Have read most of this thread and huge respect to all you on the bus already I'd really like to join you and reduce my alcohol intake and improve my relationship with alcohol x