Was this rape? Sorry if sensitive.

[sillymillyb]

I was talking to a friend about how her partner was raped by her ex - he often used to wake her up having sex to her.

It just made me think, my ex used to do this to me. I would often wake up with him inside me - which I hated. He knew this (it used to make me cry) especially as he wouldn't have sex with me when he was sober / I was awake.

It was an abusive relationship in other ways, but I had never thought of this as rape as we were together. I'm totally fine, please don't feel you need to offer support - I'm just a bit confused!

Was it rape or was he just a bit weird?!

Ps was going to name change, as a bit sensitive, but had a few glasses of wine and it seems less important now!

Imagine if you'd woken him by shoving something up his arse. Would that have been ok?

I think the problem is that some men think it would be amazing to be woken up with sex, so they can't make the leap why women might not like it?

That might excuse a first time, but not other times after being told the other person doesn't like it. Even so, it's one of those things that should not be tried without asking first (when the person is still awake).

Personally, waking me up for anything other than an emergency is a big no no. Let alone to find out someone was having sex on me without my knowledge.