Lying cheating whoring husband

[PPaka]

Marriage is a sham
He is just a pathological liar
He's saying he won't give up, wants me back
Can't live without us
Will kill himself
Meantime he's still texting some woman

I cannot believe what he has done to this family

I'd never really had a relationship before dh
And now I really don't see how/where I would meet someone
And that's assuming I actually want to
Right now, I'm disgusted
Oh, and I'm too old

I think I'll just get a dog, they're loyal !

Thank you

You're not too old!! I know a woman who remarried at age 80, to a man age 82!!! If you love dogs, I do recommend getting one, as they are so loving and so happy always to see you when you come home. But you can't see the future from where you are right now; no one can. You have to just keep taking small steps to make your life better, and one day you will look back and see that you have indeed made it better.

Father is still chasing his contemporaries. Have you any idea how embarrassing is to see the seventy plus year old ex girl friend of your father approaching at the same time as the seventy plus year old current girlfriend - both with grandchildren and purposeful expressions.

I hope that made you smile, but it's true. You are never too old to be in love (or embarrassed by your parents).

Wishing you luck!

Time will tell I guess
Husband went out with some friends who are in town
He's still out with them, I assume in their hotel now, and still awake
Great, what sort of a state is he going to be in?
I feel like telling him to stay there, but I'm going out torriwfir my girls Xmas lunch

And what am I supposed to tell ds
Daddy stayed out with his friends all night?
He's just said to me, when you get in the shower, get daddy up, he thinks he's here!

So he came in, wasted obviously
Said he's in 'self destruct mode'

PP he is just trying to control you again. So what, if he's in self destruct mode anyway, it's no business of yours. If you ignore him you will find that he is just full of hot air.

Go for your lunch and have a lovely time. Who is going to be looking after ds?

The lunch is tomorrow
He's supposed to be looking after ds
If he lets me down I'll just take ds with me
It's only a pub lunch

Just had ds crying because he wanted 'some family time'
He wants to wake up his daddy
I don't want him seeing him in that state

Oh shit

Obviously I have extracted all the sympathy/empathy I can

Will move on now

Sorry you are going through all this OP. Things will only get better once this man is out of your home and a smaller part of your life.

Hope you have a lovely lunch today with your DCs.

How are you getting on PPaka?

I'm ok
At my parents now with ds, so having a nice time.
He was still insisting we could work or out and I'm not seeing any sign of him looking for a flat so I think I will have to deal with that when I get back.

Still the possibility that he could resign and/or not come back. Because he's a coward
But again I'll deal with that if it happens

I think he's probably out on the town, having great fun.

So
He bought me a Cartier watch for Christmas

He thought that would do the trick

Christ alive he really doesn't get it does he? He obviously doesn't know you or care about you - except the status he gets as being 'successful' at a marriage. Marriage failure just isn't in the script.

Ppaka you sound so sad. This man is a loser, please allow yourself to grieve for the loss - not of him, but of the relationship you should have had - and then move on with your lovely DS.

You are a warm, intelligent woman and a caring mother and you deserve so much better. There are a lot of decent men out there.