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Lied about chocolate - this is so pathetic

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carrottop · 13/07/2006 21:33

This is so pathetic but it makes me so angry. Dh bought me some chocolates a few days ago. We ate a few of them and we were going to have the rest tonight. i opened the box and saw that one was missing. I asked him if he'd eaten it and he said no. i said "i know you have" and then he guiltily said "yes". Why the f**k does he lie about a chocolate - just makes me wonder what else he lies about! i'm fuming now. How do i deal with this one. it's not the first time i've found out he's lied over trivial things

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carrottop · 13/07/2006 21:35

it seems even worse as we've been throught a difficult time recently and i've been very anxious which he knows about. I've been making a big effort to deal with how i feel and then he lies to me. I'm so hurt

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kama · 13/07/2006 21:36

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SoupDragon · 13/07/2006 21:36

Get a grip - it's a chocolate. There are worse things

Tell him that you don't mind about him eating the chocolate or whatever trivial thing it is but the fact that he lies about it bothers you.

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carrottop · 13/07/2006 21:37

That's exactly it - i couldn't care less that he'd eaten it - it's the fact he lied again

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JessaJam · 13/07/2006 21:38

I would lie about nicking a chocolate...thsi doesn't mean I am a serial liar...it means I feel a bit ashamed for being unable to resist a chocolate, especially that belong to my other half, and that I might be a little worried about the reaction (not that DH would divorce me for nicking a chocoalte, but would probably tease me mercilessly!)

r-e-l-a-x....

Norah · 13/07/2006 21:39

some people just do lie - I do ! it's just part of my psyche !

i told a bloke at work that i had a granite work top the other day - no idea why - i just said it - he was impressed too ! i've always done it !

kama · 13/07/2006 21:39

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Tutter · 13/07/2006 21:41

are you a bit of a rabid mentaller like my good self?

if so - he's probably just scared you'll blow your top. FIL lies about little things ("did you turn the heating on?" "no" [wild eyes]) cos according to DH he's shit scared of me. i have that effect on some people unfortunately.

Pennies · 13/07/2006 21:42

?????

Thomcat · 13/07/2006 21:44

Take a massive chill pill mate. The word trivial is the key word here. Jesus if you get so angry over small things like this no wonder the poor fella lied.

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carrottop · 13/07/2006 21:46

he just came in to apologise and i said it's not the fact he ate it , it's the lying i hate. he said i was treating him like a naughty school boy and told me to shut up - well isn't he behaving about one!!?? just hurts more than it would do becuase of all the anxiety issues and all the effort i've been making. Just feels it's all been thrown back at me

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Tutter · 13/07/2006 21:49

seriously - don't argue with him about this any more

you'll feel like a fool in the morning

it's just a peanut cracknel, not like you've caught him having an affair

wannaBe1974 · 13/07/2006 21:50

erm ... is this for real? seriously it's a chocolate! if you're getting that wound up about the fact he told a little lie about having eaten a chocolate then imo you are massively overreacting. tbh If I had a box of chocolates I'm not sure I'd remember exactly how many were lef and be able to recognize which one oas missing?

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carrottop · 13/07/2006 21:51

But if he lies about this, he could lie about anything. makes me feel so anxious

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Tutter · 13/07/2006 21:51

i smell another rat

Tutter · 13/07/2006 21:52

feck this place is crawling today

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carrottop · 13/07/2006 21:52

What do you mean "smell another rat?"

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Pennies · 13/07/2006 21:54

I would dump him without hesitation. Can't believe anyone else would suggest otherwise.

Trip trap, trip trap, trip, tap.

Tutter · 13/07/2006 21:54

come on are you new and foolish

or a mate of plumduff and jazzi?

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carrottop · 13/07/2006 21:54

So you all think i'm overreacting?

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wannaBe1974 · 13/07/2006 21:56

of course you're overreacting. it's a chocolate!

Pennies · 13/07/2006 21:56

Not at all. Your's is a totally measured and understandable reaction. he is lucky to have you.

Charlottesweb · 13/07/2006 21:57

Imagine having to apologise for eating a feckin chocolate sweet? It's not as if he punched you in the mouth and has to say sorry.. chill out and learn to pick your arguements...and after all, he did buy you the sweets didn't he?

My god, even I would say no when asked if I ate a sweet... don't we all, spesh if it was asked in an accussing tone of voice.. Just my opinion mind you...

Who was it said about the granite worktop?? I say I have chinese slate on my floor... they're just pale grey tiles

wannaBe1974 · 13/07/2006 21:57

lol pennies

warthog · 13/07/2006 22:00

well, carrottop, i'd also feel a bit miffed tbh. but that's because i know my dh just doesn't lie. so if it were out of character i'd wonder whether my whole perception was wrong. but it is a trivial incident. have you ever caught him lying about something important?