Is my dp taking the piss or do I need to relax?

[Shellywelly1973]

Dp has one weekend off a month. He goes out on the Saturday every single month. He never asks me to go out with him.

This weekend is the last weekend hes off work before our 4th dc arrives. The house is pigsty & im incredibly stressed about it. I work full time. 30 weeks pregnant with dc6. 2 dc with SNs.

He's been off 3 days now & done sod all. He hasn't even got up with dc or done anything with them. He's done one job in 3 days that took about 2 hours.

He's in the bath now. He hasn't said anything to me but he's obviously going out.

Do I need to calm down & say nothing?

Or am I justified in being really angry & insulted by dp thinking about himself & not helping with dc or the house...yet again!

He's being a twat. I'd have drowned him in his bath by now (mind you I'm not in the best of moods).

Yes I would be really angry too, you need a break as well.

Yes I would be really angry too, you need a break as well.

Yes I would be really angry too, you need a break as well.

Yes I would be really angry too, you need a break as well.

Oops sorry about that

I second drowning him in the bath

Why do you tolerate this ?

Your responses have made me laugh like a mad lady!!

Im so mad I want to kick him, lazy, fat bastard...
I don't ever go out but I swear to god after thus baby is born im going out every weekend he's off!

Why do I tolerate it?

Pregnant. Sekf employed. 2 dc with SN. Mortgage. No family. No close friends....

Excuse typos on phone!

you are having your 6th child and your partner goes out on a Saturday night and doesn't help you?

I hope there's something good that keeps you with him

Sorry- your 4th child. All DCs his? Same response.

You deserve better, shelly. Your kids deserve a father that gives them a better role model to aspire to.

Get yourself ready and ask where the babysitter is. When he's all shocked tell him you assumed he was taking you out.

He is taking the piss & you don't need the the stress of a fuckwit for a partner.

Has he always done this?

He can't be all bad, as you've gone on to have 4 children with him knowing what he's like?

Plan a few nights out for yourself after the baby is born.

Of course he is taking the piss! Does he not even do you the courtesy of actually saying he is going out? What a rubbish husband and father.

I read the post about why you tolerate it - but could life be any harder without him around? He sounds tap all use.

No I was married many years ago & have 2 grown up dcs.

I don't drink or like pubs so generally I really am indifferent to dp going out. This weekend was about getting major big jobs done in the house. Hes due to have a big op in January & the baby is due in January.

I'm furious with him. I've told all the jobs will be done but he will pay the tradesman. I refuse to do it all...

No I was married many years ago & have 2 grown up dcs.

I don't drink or like pubs so generally I really am indifferent to dp going out. This weekend was about getting major big jobs done in the house. Hes due to have a big op in January & the baby is due in January.

I'm furious with him. I've told all the jobs will be done but he will pay the tradesman. I refuse to do it all...

Wtaf? I'd have put my coat on and shouted up to him "I'm off out now. Don't wait up." And gone out (most likely to wander round a supermarket until closing).

If it's ok for him, it's ok for you.

Whilst he's in the bath, leave him written instructions to look after the children and tidy up the house, because you are off for the night. Then jump in your car and book yourself into a hotel for the night away from the self-centred arse. And don't feel guilty you are only giving him a taste of his own medicin.

I'd be tempted to get dressed grab the car keys and say to right love I'm off out don't wait up n sod off for a drive n a coffee somewhere x

Omg.....what an absolute arse!!!!!!!!!! Unreal!!!! Why does he go out every Saturday he's off?? When do you have a Saturday night together? I think he should be looking after you...30 weeks preg with dc6....blimey!! He should be making you a nice dinner, running your feet and making you a nice cuppa...he should be running you a bath! Jeez. What a piss take!