Is my dp taking the piss or do I need to relax?

[Shellywelly1973]

Dp has one weekend off a month. He goes out on the Saturday every single month. He never asks me to go out with him.

This weekend is the last weekend hes off work before our 4th dc arrives. The house is pigsty & im incredibly stressed about it. I work full time. 30 weeks pregnant with dc6. 2 dc with SNs.

He's been off 3 days now & done sod all. He hasn't even got up with dc or done anything with them. He's done one job in 3 days that took about 2 hours.

He's in the bath now. He hasn't said anything to me but he's obviously going out.

Do I need to calm down & say nothing?

Or am I justified in being really angry & insulted by dp thinking about himself & not helping with dc or the house...yet again!

A waste of oxygen, Geoff? Seriously? The op posts how they have happily organised the division of labour in their relationship and you deduce that?

I'm all for men actively parenting in a shared role, but to be absolutely blunt, if two people Ina relationship have sorted out what works for them, and that they are happy with, that's their business.

They are just different people, and the op has the rage. In a few months, they will all be back to normal.

They can discuss redistributing the domestic chores if they wish, but the op has been happy with looking after the domestic front thus far. In the same way that those who have a different set up, where the sahp is the father, are happy with the set up. Relationships work in many different ways, the fact that theirs has been happily working for 14 years with him having a different list of responsibilities doesn't make him a waste of oxygen.

His personality means he's a bit more lassez-faire about chores, but it's not a hanging offence. The jobs just need to be done.