Lovely new man-but heres the bad bit..

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met a nice guy on a dating site..after a few disastrous dates with others..we had a lot in common and I was attracted to him..he invited me out to see a band a few days lately and after a lovely evening..he walked me home..he is 46..he seperated from his wife last year who he was with for thirteen years..she was ten years younger....

He told me he fancied me and wanted to see me again..all looking good..he leaned in to kiss me then proceeded to kiss me like they did in the old black and white movies!..pursed lips..just kind of wiggled his head around..I couldnt really kiss him back because it just wasnt possible..it was completely weird..that last time I was kissed like that I was 14!

so is this a really bad sign..he wants me to go round tonight..but if he kisses me like that again I will scream..and Im really unsure about taking things further..which is a shame because I really liked him..but it was honestly like kissing a piece of cardboard..there was no response..just pursed lips..bit of a damp squid..but he seems really into me..

At least he didn't kiss with his eyes open. what made me open my eyes, I'll never know but it creeped me the cluck out. He kept them open .. and then when I asked he said "I want to see you kissing me back" first and last date with that man. puke

Mmm interesting. Think eyes closed is generally acceptable... Sneaking a peak is ok but on a first date?? Sheesh

Sneaking a peek is what I did but his eyes were full on staring into my soul. I felt like he could predict my menstrual cycle after that!

Open eyes whilst kissing..definitely a deal breaker for me..

My exH was a terrible kisser at first, he sort of chewed on my lips and made them sore. Very odd but I successfully retrained him.

Current DP is a very reluctant snogger out of the bedroom, he does it beautifully but only when having sex. I found it very odd at first, wasn't sure if he fancied me etc, we had lots of dates but no snogging, then when we finally snogged for the first time we also had sex! (From first base to home run in one move!) strange to start with but then I realised that snogging all the time can just be really really frustrating so I'm used to it now.

I'm sorry OP but I have to say, the expression is damp squib not damp squid although damp squid sounds like a pretty accurate description!

It doesn't bode well if you want oral does it? But i would give him the benefit of the doubt if you like him. Take him to bed relax, it should come naturally.

SourSweets-Ahh I know it is..but once I had pressed post..I couldn't change it..mind you think squid probably was more accurate

Well Lucy..actually on Monday..he wanted to give me oral..and in fact did

Ooh memory!

Kissing can definitely be taught. Not a deal breaker but still a bit of a concern.

I wouldn't think too much into it he's probably nervous.

I agree . Kissing can be taught... What fun

Hogwash... That clip... Oh dear

yes bit shocked on that one as never even offered in the 18 years I was with H..I think nerves just been playing a big part all over for both of us..its been 18 years since I dated!

I went on a fantastic first date once, he kissed me exactly like that at the end. I didn't think he liked me BUT it was nerves and he needed to trust. Give him a chance ;)

^we were together 3 years, split in September and are now engaged..

I am definitely giving him a chance he seems nice, level headed and kind..I get the impression he has been hurt badly the ending of his marraige.

Def give him another date if oral sex is ok the menu he sounds nice !

Well we are going out again for a meal..he texted me saying I was lovely with reference to the OP I made..the kissing second time round was lovely..he is obviously just racked with nerves

Fabulous . Sounds v promising . Good luck .

good luck op..hope he's practiced on his hand for you

to the pp- My stbdh absolutely awful at snogging. I've tried to retrain to no avail. But he is the best fuck ever. His oral.. meh. His housework? Excellent..you win some you loose some.

bridget I could live with that

I think its a fair deal

I love my dh dearly, but oh god the man is an awful kisser. Once many years ago I broached this gently. I almost broke his heart and he refused to kiss, cuddle or shag for ages. I had to apologise over and over.