The Brave Babes Battle Bus - Stepping Into Christmas With Sobriety On Their Minds.

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Hello, tis me, Mouse

This is a thread for those who are worried about their drinking habits, relationships with alcohol, and/or drugs.

Even if you think your intake has gone up more today than the last or this week than last, come and join us on Gerald, the amazing, always room for more, fully stocked with glorious treats and donned in his Christmas Decorations, Bus!

We are a supportive thread, full of very different posters, from various backgrounds. Some of us drink in moderation, allowing ourselves the odd glass or two as a treat, or just because we're in control of our drinking for that day.

One Day At A Time.

We have those who abstain completely, and those who wake every day to Day 1 and hope with all of their hearts that they can, and will, make it to Day 2.

If you've followed our journey to date, you'll know who most of us are by now smile and we kind of have two 'sayings', that sum up who we are -

1. • The Vulnerable Need Our Support, Not Our Judgement
2. • Alcohol Fosters Inertia

That said, we will not have any bashing of support groups, such as AA or Community Addiction Support Teams, or even other support threads, posts like that will be reported if the need arises, so 'Orange Paper supporters' don't waste your time please :)

This Bus is a place for honesty, sanctuary and safety, something that has taken almost four years for a number of very special, very lovely, very honest and caring Babes to establish.

So, come find a seat, grab something warm from the supply cupboard at the back of the Bus, it's filled with (non alcoholic or narcotic) delicious, luxury treats and HUGE fluffy quilts, plus anything else you might need to help YOU get through YOUR day a minute, or an hour at a time.

And, if you'd like to see where this all began - This Is The Reason We're All Here, The Original JWN Thread

And This Is Our Previous Thread, With Links To Those Over The Past Few Years

We hope to meet you soon :) x

joey we often leave less important jobs til the weekend then we all pitch it and scrub the house, top to bottom (well, clean, tidy and hoover at least).

I have not ironed a single item since we moved to this house, six years ago and no-one has noticed. If someone needs the odd thing ironed they do it themselves but most clothes are fine with a good shake and hang it up straight away.

Dh does a mini shop at the weekend to get enough for a couple of days and I do a big shop straight from work on Tuesdays. I take the dcs and they run round and get most of it for me whilst I wander up and down the aisles. Our record is in and out in 15 minutes

Everyone makes their own packed lunch either the night before or in the morning and we have a rota for use of the shower/bathroom/kitchen so we don't trip over each other.

Get a slow cooker. You can bung some diced meat in with a bought sauce and leave it to simmer all day. So easy for those days when you know you'll feel tired.

Get everyone to help and it's much, much easier. And make time for yourself. Housework will always be there, if you need a break take it.

I'm I hope you are safe. Everything will get sorted in the end, just take all the support offered and come back to let us know how you are, when you can. Thinking of you x

I'm when you say he's coming back later, will you be ok? Has he been aggressive towards you?

Im you've got to as you need to keep a clear head and focus on what needs to be done and to acting normal when he drops your dc off later. Worry about everything else later. It's essential that you get away to a safe place - be careful honey about posting anything that might identify you. Best of luck x

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i'm, this is my first attempt at posting a link. Hope you are ok for now. When is he coming back with DC? Remember you said the drink made you weaker when dealing with him? Just one little reason not to pick up now. Take it minute by minute if you need to. Can you get out of the house for a bit, a walk might help clear your head? Thinking of you babe.
mouse we're all thinking of you too. Hope you are able to eat a bit & sleep a little.

Still feel quite rotten today. Hangover has pretty much gone but my stomach feels quite tender - like my internal organs are swollen or something. Another reason for giving up - as I get older I feel my body takes so much longer to heal and I end up with 2 day hangovers.

I'm riddled with guilt - about drinking and also now for eating crappy food last night. Just feel really down.

Writing just to get it all out.

Thankyou all sorry to not name check
Thanks for link mama
Rural things got really bad three weeks ago I don't know where to turn
Just don't know what to do on my own with so many dc I can not get to Wales

dancer go easy on yourself honey please give yourself an easy time you drank you ate crap forgive yourself lovely today's a new day x

Im hope you are okay... don't forget to breathe

thanks faire and beaches

yes it is a daft thing to be worrying about, working a few more hours! I know it's pretty trivial considering some people have larger families and stressful jobs, or even two jobs, or studying and working.

I only have one child, and one dog (and one husband )

My housework standards are already pretty low, but DD will be responsible for letting the dog out when she gets home 2 days a week on her own

I've already told them that washing will not get done unless sorted (I refuse to separate out dirty nickers from tangled tights!) it's just all those little things...

And you may be right, the extra work may mean I actually sleep better because I'm proper tired out? I just hope there aren't any stupid rows between DD and DH.

I'm have you tried the Salvation Army for a place.
I managed to unload all the hundreds of dads unwanted Christmas decorations on them today. We will have the sparkliest hostels in the UK!

You ok i'm?

Im hope you are safe honey, thinking off you x

joey your DD will probably love being independent two days of the week, she could chuck some jacket potatoes in the oven and have tea ready for when you get home.

Mouse don't know what to say, sending love xx

faire a weekly shop in under 15 minutes? . Do you have actual flames coming off your shoes?

Hope all other babes are doing ok x

Beaches thank you for asking after me glad you're still there over there, scenery must be good

Mouse I am so sorry for your loss, I'm glad you were with your DM and you were there to say goodbye (that may not mean anything now but later in time it might)

Ma I could really do with a green opal fruit, where are they babe? sending you loads of strength and happiness

Nuff you are such a wise woman

Soc babe you are only human (WW is a nasty, no good twunt) and it 'was' a habit you can and will get back on track you know you can do it x

I've been crap and way off the bus. My house is now under offer (if my Twunt of an X had actually paid 'anything' I wouldn't be in this position ) I thought I'd found somewhere (did second viewing and we all DDs and I could see potential) only to find out on Friday pm that bloke I want to buy from - place he wants to buy is probate and flat is worth less than the mortgage outstanding.

And then agent says (this is Friday pm)'your offer is by no means the highest' URGH WW has got me good I hate the bitch

Sorry for banging on Hello all of you Brave Babes XXX

Well there are three of us beaches and the dcs zoom around getting everything. I just mostly get the meat, veg and salad. If I did it on my own it would probably take an hour.

Spanna sorry that the house sale is going too well, it's such a stressful time. Don't overdo it though, you will rotten tomorrow x

I've eaten a bag of popcorn and three catherine wheels. Ooops. Ah well, back on the diet tomorrow.

No, you won't rot tomorrow, you will feel rotten...

Hi babes, I haven't read back properly but I just want to share a few things I have learned. I have managed several alcohol free weeks not so long ago and the changes in my life were incredible. I lost weight, my wrinkles faded sooo much, my energy levels soared, my house looked lovely, I cooked lovely meals and rekindled friendships and went back to being funny mummy and I LIKED MYSELF. Why I thought I could moderate is beyond me but just weeks after all of these benefits I ended up in hospital with a horrendous Crohn's attack which I'm told was brought on by not looking after myself, wine makes my depression worse then I don't eat properly, stop excercising, then start to feel ill with crohn's and don't leave the house and you guessed it drink more wine. After a horrendous week in hospital literally passing the lining of my stomach out I truly realise what life I choose. I don't want to scare anyone just help you see both extremities, the good, the bad and the ugly, love to all you precious and wonderful babes out there x

Nuff I've put the breaks on and won't rot, all good. tea with sugar and back on the bus please

I'm ok but carnt stay here need a safe place I'm waiting on wa in morning ma I will keep them in mind thanks x

Day 6 over with luvs to you all

babyj good to hear you sounding more positive. I hope you're feeling better today.

I'm getting nervous about work (although not actually sure why ) but I haven't had a drink!

Hang in there Im, you're doing great.

baby so sorry you had to go through that, it sounds horrible. Will you make a full recovery if you stay off the booze and looks after yourself? It's got to be worth a shot, surely?

Well done joey, I would say you're bound to be a bit nervous, it's a big change but after a while it will seem normal x

joey good luck at work, I have been a stay at home mum, worked part time and full time during parenthood, I was by far the most organised working full time, you will surprise yourself at what you can do, believe in yourself and good luck. im big hugs to you, everything will be ok x

Im Just wanted to add my support and send you strength, agree totally with isinde do what you know you need to to do. You are doing brilliantly at kicking the WW into touch and you can do this. You and DC will then be safe and with others. Life will start to get better.
Take care, xx

mouse, thanks for letting me know about your mum. I'm just popping on here to send you more love and hugs. Take care of yourself my dear.