Hi,long time lurker, first time poster.
I don't want to go in to the detail of my relationship on here, it would take too long, but suffice to say we've been together a long time, and have two small children. I love him very much and he's a great dad. When it's great it's great, when it's bad it's horrible.
He is verbally and emotionally abusive and quite controlling. He admits he has an issue, wants to change, will seek help etc, but hasn't as yet.
We've been trying to work through our issues and while I to the most part have stuck to my side, his (to get counselling) has not yet been touched. While I've stuck to my side (mostly to do with being better organised domestically, some of which I think he had fair comment about although not in the way he chooses to comment iyswim) things have been a lot better. Not great but better.
But today after a few days of bad illness when things have slipped at home I've had it with both barrels again. There's too much detail to go into, including issues with my family that we both have but I don't confront for a variety of reasons but suffice to say I feel like I have suddenly realised this won't ever change. I don't want that life for me, as much as I love him, but I don't want to break my kids away from their dad.
Can it ever change? We used to be so great together. And I guess I wanted to know, for those that have left an EA relationship, what was the tipping point for you?
Feel like my heart is breaking and I have no where to turn.