What's that? Oh, my line in the sand!

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I have got used to my husband shouting at me - sort of. I have learned to live with it. BUT.....

My daughter rang me yesterday to say that she was very sorry, she can't take Friday and Mon/tue off as she has a huge contract at work, she will be at the family do on Sat/Sun though. I saw her on Sunday, she was very tired and working too hard.

I finally told my husband tonight about her call and he just started shouting. My line was him calling her a liar, selfish and not thinking about him. I won't repeat the whole conversation but I am now shaky and sad, this is new territory for his rage.

sorry to hear this. Very glad you are protective of your DD. What is your next step?

He sounds horrid. How long has he been this way?

It's easier to get angry or just to 'see' it when it's directed at someone else isn't it? Especially someone you love and care for and have that protective instinct.

You say you 'finally told him', so you expected him to kick off?
Is everything all about him?

How long has he been like this towards you and why are you putting up with it?

Ah, so the entire planet revolvés around him does it?

Glad you've found the courage To stand up To him. Hope you are okay and safe.

It's very common for women to tolerate all kinds of abusive behaviour towards themselves but, for some reason, when the exact same behaviour is exhibited towards their DCs, it's suddenly unacceptable.

Glad you challenged him and hope you have the good sense to reject this person.

Thanks for your responses, I'll be able to respond when I get to work.

holeymoley, yes I did expect him to kick off.

I need to work out what to do but it won't be until after Christmas. I'll keep thinking.

It won't be a very happy Christmas for you if you are trying to keep a lid on his rages though. The knot in your stomach is something you can well do without.

Have you told your daughter or a friend how you feel?

He sounds horrible and you deserve better than this