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Is this really a THING that people DO???

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Strawberrykisses · 27/10/2013 06:30

I am in a new relationship with man I've known for a long time. Until I got together with him I never had sex on my period, and when I mentioned this to my friend she looked at me aghast, as if I was weird. I didn't think it was that common, to have sec on your period. I've clearly led a sheltered life.
Now I've relaxed into the relationship a lot and I'm now comfortable having sex on my period, which is awesome, no more crossing a week off the calendar and feeling frustrated.
ANYWAY. I have my period. Last night in bed my partner told me he wanted to go down on me. I was slightly Shock, but he was totally relaxed and serious and said "it's alright, it's called a strawberry kiss". I declined.

Is this really a thing that people do???? Strawberry kisses? Really? Hmm

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LordPalmerston · 27/10/2013 10:03

That surprises me. Coil. Pill. Whatever. Think of the money you save

LordPalmerston · 27/10/2013 10:04

Lol. Don't think refusing to lick someone's arse is prudish.

No. You're a bit avant garde. Go you ! ;)

MrsWolowitz · 27/10/2013 10:04

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HettiePetal · 27/10/2013 10:04

Plus. Stop with the periods guys. There's really no need

Or any need for you to read it, really Hmm

LordPalmerston · 27/10/2013 10:05

Im exhorting you to embrace the joy of no periods.

Stravy · 27/10/2013 10:06

I don't mind periods. I do mind fucking about with hormones.

BenHer · 27/10/2013 10:07

I wouldn't be deterred from doing a bit of clitotoral work but Im afraid I'd be keeping well clear of the punnet...to adopt the OP's terminology!

HettiePetal · 27/10/2013 10:07

Actually - I like having periods. For about 5 days beforehand I am so horny I hardly know what to do with myself*. Wouldn't give that up for the world.

*Actually, yes I do.

Heartbrokenmum73 · 27/10/2013 10:08

Ffs, how many more non-vanilla sex threads are going to pop up?

I thought this board was 'Relationships', not 'Oneupmanship In Weird Sex'.

There's a lot of this stuff about lately, only right that people a) question it and b) are dismissive of it.

Oh, and I'm not a prude, just tired of the Daily Fail brigade trying to goad us all into proving they're right!

But yeah, let's have more threads on rimming/period oral/swinging, shall we? Never mind the people with genuine problems who are being overlooked for this nonsense.

Scarletohello · 27/10/2013 10:11

Quite from a guy I once knew,

"You don't really love your partner if you're not willing to lick their arsehole..."

Would you?

Scarletohello · 27/10/2013 10:12

Meant to say " quote". Bugger!!

Stravy · 27/10/2013 10:12

Grin at Hattie

There is something appealing about the rhythm of it. I wouldn't want to live in one of those places with no discernible seasons either, even though they might technically have 'better' weather.

SarahBumBarer · 27/10/2013 10:13

Jesus! MrsM I'm glad you mentioned clots. I remember having a horrified convo with a friend IRL about this - she was talking about a friend of hers who is happy to do this and my friend's comment was "I mean, for god's sake - there are chunks" It is one of those phrases that has just stayed with me and I do a sort of grimaced chuckle every now and then.

Not for me thanks but as with all things if it is between 2 consenting adults...

nicename · 27/10/2013 10:17

That's put me right off my breakfast (toast and strawberry jam).

SarahBumBarer · 27/10/2013 10:19

What board would you suggest was appropriate Heartbroken.

Those questioning this thread: Do you think that sexual differences/inhibitions/preferences do not cause issues in relationships? Do you think that women who have been out of the dating game for a while do not have queries/nervousness about whether they are prudish and whether what is "normal" has evolved. Do you think it is not useful to learn that "normal" should only ever be about what you are comfortable with? Should your problem reach a particular level before you are allowed to post on the relationship boards? This is actually the kind of topic that my girlfriend's and I discuss (admittedly usually after a wine or two). Is it really so odd that it should make it on to MN?

NoArmaniNoPunani · 27/10/2013 10:19

I'd be keeping well clear of the punnet...to adopt the OP's terminology!

Grin brilliant

NachoAddict · 27/10/2013 10:19

No thanks not for me. If you like it then go for it, its not illegal.

WeAreEternal · 27/10/2013 10:26

No no no no no. And no.

I think DP would do it, he has no problem with period sex, but I just wouldn't be comfortable with it.

I'm lucky that my periods only usually last two days, so it's easy to just not have sex while I'm on.

Dahlen · 27/10/2013 10:34

Does it matter what we think? It takes two people's consent to have sex. If you don't want to do it, don't; if you do, do. It's not illegal, it's not immoral, whether it's commonplace is utterly irrelevant.

redundantandbitter · 27/10/2013 10:36

Leave tampon in. No probs. exp always very keen to give me oral sex. NEVER heard the term strawberry kiss . Though he did use the term Raspberry ripple... Anyway it was all new to be (v boring sex life previously)
And I lived it all. You don't like summat, don't do it.

KeatsiePie · 27/10/2013 19:02

I think the topic is perfectly valid and second what Sarah has said above.

payhisdebt · 27/10/2013 19:54

OP your BF sounds lovely

Donatoni · 27/10/2013 19:58

My wife must be a thousand times more prudish, prim and proper than almost anyone here because you're mostly all talking casually about oral sex as if it's perfectly ok to indulge in it, except during a period maybe.

My final attempt to get her to receive it from me was on an extremely wet and stormy night a few years ago. She told me she'd rather stand the whole night in the garden in her nightclothes in the howling wind and lashing rain than let me do that to her.
She has always found the very idea of it utterly disgusting and revolting. For a man to put his tongue down there is just plain filthy and depraved to her.
And she's always been equally disgusted at touching and masturbating me and ever catching a glimpse of what comes out. So she's made sure none of these things has ever taken place in this house, and she's never once seen my semen although we've been married for years.
She's very refined, likes Jane Austen and simply never swears no matter how annoyed she may be. It's just not in her nature.

I think she'd consider your, in general, fairly casual and accepting attitude to oral sex and touching men's penises as being utterly gross and too distasteful for words. What I tell you is absolutely true, believe it or not.
And yes, in case you guess, we have always had badly mismatched sex drives.

Original poster
Strawberrykisses · 27/10/2013 20:02

payhisdebt I'm not sure if you are serious or sarcastic... But in case you are serious, he is very lovely.

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NoArmaniNoPunani · 27/10/2013 20:07

Wow your wife sounds like my nan. She told my mum a few years before she died that she was too old for sex and if grandad wanted any of that he'd have to sort himself out. My mum suggested she could do that for him instead. Her response was 'I'm not touching that! I have to prepare food!'

My family probably overshares!

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