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Same room swinging

126 replies

snares · 26/10/2013 21:11

That is having sex with your own partner (and not swapping) with another couple in the same room.
Me and DH are curious and find it erotic. Looked at a UK swingers site and saw adverts full of people with their bits out and faces on display. We're interested but are worried about how unsubtle some of these people appear to be.
Has anyone had any experience of mild swinging like this or could it be a ghastly mistake and find yourself in the company of some over eager couple ?

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lottieandmia · 27/10/2013 10:42

'As long as you are aware of the likelihood that some poor sod in his parents' box room is furiously wanking over it.'

Personally this wouldn't bother me in the slightest - there are no pictures. And if he can't find something more interesting to wank over I feel a bit sorry for him tbh!

Pagwatch · 27/10/2013 10:42

And I see what you mean Lottie

But the OP should too be aware that posting innocently and anonymously at this moment is risking a certain media interest and the attention of hoards of people who have just arrived here post penisbeaker etc.

It's not the same board it was three years ago [gimmer face]

Pagwatch · 27/10/2013 10:44

Just checking Strump Smile

I am not trying to piss people off. As I said I just think posters are peculiarly exposed at the mo.

Strumpetron · 27/10/2013 10:44

randall oh give over if I meant anyone specifically I would have named them. In fact I very rarely read names just posts. There was quite a few comments actually.

RandallFloyd · 27/10/2013 10:45

Alright, keep your hair on!

Strumpetron · 27/10/2013 10:45

Yeah you're right pagwatch I think I'll save my sexy time thread for another day Wink

Pagwatch · 27/10/2013 10:46

at 'give over' and 'keep your hair on'

I love mn.

Strumpetron · 27/10/2013 10:47
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WhoNickedMyName · 27/10/2013 10:47

OP if you're genuine and serious then set up a profile on somewhere like fabswingers.co.uk and use their forum and chat room to ask about this. You'll get a more helpful response.

You'll find plenty of like minded couples on there, though you're not going to find anyone that'll want to meet up in their home (ever), or at a hotel until you've been talking online for a while and most people want to meet up socially a few times first too, to make sure you're all attracted to each other and are compatible.

RandallFloyd · 27/10/2013 10:47

I know, it's like an argument from a 70's sitcom Blush

Strumpetron · 27/10/2013 10:48

I do love a good 'give over' you should hear it in my Wigan accent.

RandallFloyd · 27/10/2013 10:49

I'll be your June if you'll be my Terry Strump Grin

Viviennemary · 27/10/2013 10:50

I thought it was about indoor hammocks.

Strumpetron · 27/10/2013 10:52
Jolleigh · 27/10/2013 10:57

Grin I reckon if there's a bloke having a furious wank over this thread in his parents' box room, he needs it pointing out to him that he's seriously underestimating the wanking potential of the internet.

Pagwatch · 27/10/2013 10:59

I love Terry and June. So awful it's a classic.
There must have been an episode where much embaressment and confusion arose when Terry misunderstood an innocent use of 'swing'. If there wasn't, there should have been.

RandallFloyd · 27/10/2013 10:59

Good point well made.

LividofLondon · 27/10/2013 11:25

"...Why would anyone feel the need to report the thread?..."
No idea Confused Honestly, this is the internet; it's very easy not to click on a thread and very easy to click off it without drama if it's something you don't agree with or have no interest in. Branding people trolls just because they have alternative views or tastes is rather silly and narrow minded. Besides, even if a thread is started by a "troll" then provided it's not attacking anyone why should it be removed? It starts conversations, which often reveal useful information, which is exactly what forums need.

Snares I don't share your tastes but I can understand them. After all, many people enjoy watching porn as a prelude or as an addition to sex, so having a live couple having sex in the same room as you and your partner is only really one step up from that isn't it. Good luck in your search.

lifesgreatquestions · 27/10/2013 11:28

Someone reviewed MN in the online papers Friday. Headline "Just shagging". Made it look like all we do is talk about sex. The Just shagging thread is for conception, refers to sex as the primary method for baby making and is not an erotic thread. I wonder however if the sudden surge of sex-based threads was motivated by this article? I wish I could link it but I don't know how.

Personally, I prefer porch swings.

PottedPlant · 27/10/2013 12:40

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SolidGoldBrass · 27/10/2013 13:28

Swinging Heaven is also a good site to look on. I would suggest that you try a few swingers' clubs - they are generally nice and laid back and have a house policy that no one is expected or obliged to do anything they don't want to do. When I used to go to these clubs a lot, I sometimes met couples who were totally monogamous but found the atmosphere in the club turned them on - they'd spend the evening in the club and then go home and have sex.

BenHer · 27/10/2013 13:38

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morethanpotatoprints · 27/10/2013 15:39

Not sure about your Wigan accent Strump, but there's an area just outside famous for its doggin car park.
perhaps you have heard about it if you are from this area.
Not tellin yer how I know.

Strumpetron · 27/10/2013 15:47

morethan I've heard of quite a few round these parts, doggers all over the show! My dad caught a few at it when he was taking the dogs for a walk Shock

Mmm very curious as to how you know now Wink

JaceyBee · 27/10/2013 15:50

I'm glad you came on here SGB, I thought you'd have some actual sensible advice, a lot of the 'advice' on this thread seems to be people just making judgemental comments on something which they know nothing about.

I've been looking on swinging heaven and at clubs rather than private meet ups as I thought it might be a bit more anonymous and less intense. I don't suppose anyone knows which ones have a good reputation? I'm in the south west/Wales area.