The Brave Babes Battle Bus - Kicking The *Wine Witch* Into Touch, Because Enough Is Enough!

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Hello, tis me, Mouse :)

This is a thread for those who are worried about their drinking habits towards alcohol, or/and drugs.

Even if you think that you are drinking more tonight than last night or this week than last, come and have a chat, find a seat, we don't bite!

We are a supportive Bus, full of very different posters, from various backgrounds. Some of us drink in moderation, allowing ourselves the odd glass or two as a treat, or just because we're in control of our drinking for that day.

One Day At A Time.

We have those who abstain completely, and those who wake every day to Day 1 and hope with all of their hearts that they can, and will, make it to Day 2.

If you've followed our journey to date, you'll know who most of us are by now :) and we kind of have two 'sayings', that sum up who we are -

1. • The Vulnerable Need Our Support, Not Our Judgement
2. • Alcohol Fosters Inertia

That said, we will not have any bashing of support groups, such as AA or Community Support Teams or even your own GP.

This Bus is a place for honesty, sanctuary and safety, something that has taken four years for a number of very special, very lovely, very honest and caring Babes to establish.

So, come find a seat, grab something warm from the supply cupboard at the back of the Bus as it's going to be cold tonight! Brrrr!

And, if you'd like to read back over some of our history, HERE IS THE LAST THREAD

And, HERE IS WHERE IT ALL BEGAN

We hope to meet you soon :) xxx

Morning all. Some gold positive stuff on here this morning.
Will be going for some AF days again and see how it goes. The thought of that doesn't worry me as much as it would have done previously,so that's progress.
Where is la belle Dame? (Sans merci)

Isinde I read that in january, totally gripping, I'm planning to read it again.

Day five but no boing yet. Had a bad nights sleep but that was more to do with stress from h than anything else.

Hello everyone.
Sunday evening here. No real urge to drink after that god awful hangover yesterday. I'm loving the "play the movie to the end". The end is always awful.
My councillor also said I must practice pausing and this works well with imaging the whole sorry saga and waking up in the morning with nothing but regret.
Have a good Sunday babes.
xx

Going to try today for AF, had issues with him friday night kicking off, shouting at kids dd left ahh jeeze it never ends.

Good to read back what iv missed

How's you ma ?

Hi I have ventured here for a look from the other' tread. I'm doing abstinence after a very much too long Hx of far too much wine. Day 6 today. Have tried (and tried and tried) to drink in a controlled way and I cannot

this One said "Ooh let's get a bottle of wine" ONLY after she had canvassed the other 3 (THREE!) drinkers at the table and ascertained that they would have a glass if she ordered a bottle shock - my usual style would be to order a bottle if there was only 1 other wine drinker and then hope that she did not fancy more than one...

rang such a huge bell with me I almost spat my diet coke out...

Hello to Sorcha and Blathin welcome to the bus

There are loads of inspiring posts and amazing women here, sharing their experiences, success and being honest about their struggles.

Christmas cake is done and smells divine.
Got to sit down with dh and talk money - a major cause of stress-but he is watching the football. As always, his priorities are in order.

Thanks for the reminder Ma, Christmas pudding now underway.

Hi Sorcha, glad to see some crossing over of threads. Think there is a lot of inspiration and thought provoking stuff on both.

Stay safe and strong everyone xx

Ma presents bought and wrapped, cake made - you are so organised

Afternoon, tis me, Mouse

beaches - it had been a long day so I was trying to wind down. :)

Ma - you're ace, I've done my Christmas cake....... it's last year's x 100,000,000! Lists are written and most things will be from .com because I just can't cope without my crutch/es now so juggling bags and a purse and basket and crutches is impossible!! So well done you xxx

IsinDe - I hope my my post last night didn't upset you. xxx

Welcome Sorcha - I hope you will succeed in your quest for sobriety, it's not easy but just knowing you're not alone, ever alone, can be the biggest help of all when you're lost, not knowing how to beat a craving so bad that you would do ANYTHING to get a drink. We've all been in that torturous hell. Good luck xxx

Faire - great to have the real you back! How are YOU?

I drank whilst we were at our lovely friend's house but not as much as I have previously....... I allow myself to drink whatever was put infront of me when away etc but I noticed that I'd hardly even had half of what would normally be consumed...

I just didn't fancy it. A good thing! :)

Back to school and a bit of normal tomorrow so bath time for the fish soon.

All Brave Babes - I hope that you're all okay,

Back later xxx

evening babes

welcome sorcha

Sigh

Well alcohol control is better. Yet another evening spent at in-laws without drinking. I have not had a drink in front of them since CHRISTMAS - that's 10 months! It gets to the stage now where I don't even need to come on to the Bus and mention it, because it has become automatic.

Still struggling in other areas though. I've twice now cancelled going out with friends - not sure if that is to do with alcohol or not. I could have gone and not drunk, but found it hard to get my head round that. It just seemed easier not to bother. Am becoming quite insular

Tonight... well I have some wine, but have a cold and don't feel like drinking. But am anxious about work tomorrow (take some Kalms instead maybe?) and DH is really pissing me off.

Would it be terrible of me to book him onto an anger management course?! I've checked, it's £145 for a one-day course

Ach, just writing this down has helped. BTW my plan to sleep better last month (Noctober: Nocturnal October) didn't really happen - I have to work as hard on this as on not drinking.

Wish I could get dh on an anger management and negative/misery course.
I am sick of walking on eggshells waiting for the next "issue" to kick off.
He needs to get out of residential childcare because he can't cope with it any more, but says he can't do anything else, has no transferable skills...just being completely passive instead of proactive.

ma it's hard, isn't it. And the negativity becomes catching.

It's frustrating because I try so hard to overcome my issues (anxiety, alcohol) with relaxation, hypnosis, drugs, herbal remedies, joining the Bus etc but he just says why should he have to change his attitude? Umm, because you're not happy, you idiot?!

Men really don't want to think about self-help. that would be like admitting their weaknesses!

Day 5 having major wobble mind keeps telling me to nip the shop for a bottle before X factor just had sugary sweets to see if that helps !

Hang in there this day 5 is fantastic....but wouldn't it be good to see day 6? Wake up pleased with yourself? Good luck xx

Thanks beach made it through by the skin of my teeth thanks for your support so glad I didn't give in to the ww day 6 in the morning wahoo

Well done this, touchdown!

Well done this it really is worth hanging on for grim death through those feelings, and then appreciating the relief when you come out the other side without having had a drink.

Who remembers 'The Drill' (for times such as those) - have a bath, get your PJs on, brush your teeth with really strong toothpaste, TWICE, take a big glass of water and get into bed with a book. It takes a really big effort from that point to be arsed getting up out of bed to go to the shops. You may lay there wishing you'd gone earlier, but those thoughts will pass and when you wake up in the morning you'll be delighted that the Drill was the winner.

I feel like an eavesdropper. Thanks for the wisdom.

sad - never an eavesdropper lovely! You are so welcome here! Keep posting lovely xxx

I'm away to bed as my pain is way higher than normal but tomorrow is a whole new day, albeit very early

I hope you are all safe and sound tonight........

Sorry not to read back in detail. I'll be back (Arnie mode ) tomorrow, stay safe Babes xxx

Thanks Venus good advise the sugary sweets seem to help too xx