The Brave Babes Battle Bus - Kicking The *Wine Witch* Into Touch, Because Enough Is Enough!

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Hello, tis me, Mouse :)

This is a thread for those who are worried about their drinking habits towards alcohol, or/and drugs.

Even if you think that you are drinking more tonight than last night or this week than last, come and have a chat, find a seat, we don't bite!

We are a supportive Bus, full of very different posters, from various backgrounds. Some of us drink in moderation, allowing ourselves the odd glass or two as a treat, or just because we're in control of our drinking for that day.

One Day At A Time.

We have those who abstain completely, and those who wake every day to Day 1 and hope with all of their hearts that they can, and will, make it to Day 2.

If you've followed our journey to date, you'll know who most of us are by now :) and we kind of have two 'sayings', that sum up who we are -

1. • The Vulnerable Need Our Support, Not Our Judgement
2. • Alcohol Fosters Inertia

That said, we will not have any bashing of support groups, such as AA or Community Support Teams or even your own GP.

This Bus is a place for honesty, sanctuary and safety, something that has taken four years for a number of very special, very lovely, very honest and caring Babes to establish.

So, come find a seat, grab something warm from the supply cupboard at the back of the Bus as it's going to be cold tonight! Brrrr!

And, if you'd like to read back over some of our history, HERE IS THE LAST THREAD

And, HERE IS WHERE IT ALL BEGAN

We hope to meet you soon :) xxx

Oops just got weighed. Five days of drinking about half a bottle a night, plus all the carby sugary snacks the next day and I'm two pounds heavier :( this really should be an incentive for me to do dry November, I don't want to put on weight before we're even into the Xmas season!

Annie, dry November sounds like a plan:)
Waves to all the other babes.

Just read back thank-you isinde for the lovely post yesterday,
I haven't been posting last day as I have my DD who doesn't live with me to stay over a night for Halloween Im so happy to have her its just fab.
The wine witch is still winning right now Im feeling like Im ready to batter her over her head with her broom very soon
ma hope your ds is ok bless him xx

I have been lurking, a bit.

I know I drink too much, and I cant even be arsed to namechange.

I drink about four bottles of wine on a good week, and five on a bad. The pattern is, about two thirds of a bottle, about six days a week, maybe five days a week.

Its nearer bad weeks at the moment, not because I am unhappy, but because I stopped smoking a few weeks ago.

Im always planning to stop/cut down, but never do.

It isnt good.

Morning tis me, Mouse

Welcome to you One :) it's fab that you've posted with such honesty. Never an easy thing to do! Dropping two addictions at once is bloody hard going, no wonder you're struggling. One of our very wise Babes once said that it was always best to start dealing with the addiction that was going to kill you first..... I think it would be the drinking but you're obviously found well one the no smoking front.

In a way, your replacing or increasing one for the other...... Not a huge way to cope really :)

So how can we help and what do YOU want to do about dropping, there's lots of us here, all at different stages as you know.

What's going to work for you TODAY? x

Purps - the person who Nemo is losing doesn't go into school, she just comes to the house to check his tube is ok, bring me medical stuff for him etc..... Did you think I meant his one to one at school?

I know it's easy for me to say but try not to worry about DD. She's going through lots with her hormones and it takes so much out of them with each surge they have. It's always the end of the world, the smallest things....

DD is 5' 8" and weighs 8ish stone. She's skin and bone with boobs but her hips are finally fillng out. I've always told her she's pretty, gorgeous, has a fantastic figure and after 3/4 years of me telling her, she's finally getting it. Maybe having a boyfriend is helping too....

It's heartbreakingly sad to know that your child isn't happy and you can't help. Just by being there, through the good, the bad and the downright ugly will help. I promise.

Ma the same to you lovely for your poor DS :( it's crippling not being able to take their pain away.... Big hugs xxx

Well done to those who've told the WW to get lost xxx

Thanks Mouse.

I think Im going to plan a strategy for the future, to stick to.

And Im going to limit my drinking over the weekend to a bottle in total, whilst I do so. And start reading this thread, which ive only kinda peeped at before, IYSWIM.

I think in my case, the smoking was getting to be a more damaging addiction, my lungs were terrible, and are better by far already, after five weeks.

And im going to go into town and buy a knitting pattern, havnt done that for 20 years! Will keep me busy and 1. off the wine and 2 out of the fridge (have put a few puonds, too, my size 14s are getting quite tight.

Isinde I'd love to lose three pounds in a week, I'll try to hold onto that to motivate myself. Not done well so far, I took the dds to the pictures and I've been dipping into the picknmix!

Welcome Few, I think I drank that amount a couple of years ago. I cut back on my own, forced to as the hangovers got worse, but found I couldn't get out of the habit of daily drinking. Joining the bus has helped enormously :)

Ah, sorry Mouse, got the wrong end of the stick. Still, hope the 'newbie' turns out to be fantastic - you and Nemo deserve it so much. Is it purely a practical help or are you able to chat about Nemo and have a sounding board?

Thanks for the words about DD. A lovely friend was round last night (we took the 'horrors' round the estate to relieve my neighbours of their goodies!). She's a teacher of children the same age as DD. She also said not to worry. Apparently, the bad signs are when they are being really sneaky and ARE eating in front of you then disappearing off after meals..... DS does seem happier and I think we've got most of the problems ironed out. I'm pleased he knows that if he tells me/the teacher actions will be taken and situations improved. It's helped with him starting rugby and karate - just for the fact that those activities made him nervous to start with but he learnt he could overcome that feeling.

Feeling jaded and tired here but gearing up for Monday's Day 1.

Hi to Green, Joey, Ma, Guggs, Baby, Scary, Bugger, Rural and everyone else on the Bus fighting the good fight. xxxxx

Isinde I never knew there was a name for it. Yesterday I felt like therw was a fly around my head I wanted to swat, this annoying nagging voice. I really want to do dry November, to cut my drinking right back if nothing else, but I'm not sure I'll even get through tonight...

H is going on about getting me wine, I've said no but this is his way of being nice. He is trying to make amends as yesterday I was at work all day, the dds were with the child minder, he was at home and he did not lift a finger around the house. Same old, same old :(

evening babes

How about a nice list of delightful drinking symptoms?

Nausea,room spinning,sweating,crap sleep,talking bollocks loudly (might just be me),stupid ideas beginning to seem like a fab choice,stupid dancing- that IS just me,I know.

The following morning: headache,nausea,sweating,bad temper etc etc.

Does that help to put anyone off? I wouldn't even class that as a big night out and I didn't mention the guilt or anxiety or loss of weekend.Tell the ww to fuck off...

ma I'm sorry the hear that Ds is unhappy & school aren't being helpful. Does he like chess/ computer club type things? There should be a selection of clubs not just sporty ones.Hope he finds his way soon.

Lo there purple how is dd doing?

welcome to one, keep reading and posting it will help.Good luck!

Don,t know if I,ve been fooling myself for a while now. I drink 5 nights a week ,sometimes half a bottle but at weekends a bottle isno problem. I rarely suffer any hangover , if I drink enough to make me queasy I just throw up and feel ok next day,.I drink lots of water always. My health is fine and my weight is within the ideal BMI ( I work at it). I do cut down during the week and I want to cut it out but I always have the excuse that it,s not a problem and I deserve it. I love wine. I rarely drink spirits. Is it wrong not to want to go to a social occasion without a drink? Is it time for me (I,m mid 50,s) to cop on and wake up to reality/ Sorry if I may have inadvertently broken any forum rules.

Welcome one you are in a good place here.
Then guidance team met with Ds today and want to see him next week. He is FURIOUS with me.
Says he's doesn't need any help and everything is fine.....sigh did I do the right thing?

Just belted wine witch with sugary sweets and fuzzy pop was struggling for about 30 mins think its passed now !

Guggs, DD consumed her own body weight in Trick Or Treat sweets yesterday! Feeling relieved! Liked your list of 'drinking symptoms'. I agree with all you've written and - waste of money, guilt, anxiety and lethargy. It's a 'no-brainer'!!

Ma Damned if you do and damned if you don't, Lovely. So sorry he's cross with you. He's going through such a hard stage in life. A part of him thinks he should be able to cope with all this shit on his own but, the truth is, he can't. Will the guidance keep it low key? Can you convince him his 'mates' won't find out? For my part, I think you DID do the right thing. Letting him try and cope with it on his own would, I think, have eventually led to more heartache. Sending you hugs, this stuff ain't easy!!!

*guidance people

Had a bottle tonight. Will be interesting to see if I can repeat the 4 days AF next week.
thurso how are you?
indie how's things with do?

Off to bed.
Night all.

The WW has finally left. Had a real struggle today, not sure if it was Friday effect or the decision I made to have a dry November but whatever it was, it was a long and difficult fight. I started a row with dh, swore, sulked, humphed, and generally behaved like a spoilt brat. I resented him drinking, in fact I resented everyone and everything. It was 'seeing the film through' that I hung onto. Knowing that I would drink more than I meant to and feel like shit physically and mentally after. I am glad I didn't drink. Not glad that I am such a stroppy cow.
Long day, glad it's over.

Welcome to Blathin and Onefew. Purple I hope you enjoy your bush craft day. Guggs love your drinking symptoms, they helped me tonight.

Good morning all day 4 waking with a clear head sorry not to name check I'm useless at it hope everyone is feeling ok wether you drank or not big hugs to anyone who is suffering this morning xx