The Brave Babes Battle Bus - Kicking The *Wine Witch* Into Touch, Because Enough Is Enough!

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Hello, tis me, Mouse :)

This is a thread for those who are worried about their drinking habits towards alcohol, or/and drugs.

Even if you think that you are drinking more tonight than last night or this week than last, come and have a chat, find a seat, we don't bite!

We are a supportive Bus, full of very different posters, from various backgrounds. Some of us drink in moderation, allowing ourselves the odd glass or two as a treat, or just because we're in control of our drinking for that day.

One Day At A Time.

We have those who abstain completely, and those who wake every day to Day 1 and hope with all of their hearts that they can, and will, make it to Day 2.

If you've followed our journey to date, you'll know who most of us are by now :) and we kind of have two 'sayings', that sum up who we are -

1. • The Vulnerable Need Our Support, Not Our Judgement
2. • Alcohol Fosters Inertia

That said, we will not have any bashing of support groups, such as AA or Community Support Teams or even your own GP.

This Bus is a place for honesty, sanctuary and safety, something that has taken four years for a number of very special, very lovely, very honest and caring Babes to establish.

So, come find a seat, grab something warm from the supply cupboard at the back of the Bus as it's going to be cold tonight! Brrrr!

And, if you'd like to read back over some of our history, HERE IS THE LAST THREAD

And, HERE IS WHERE IT ALL BEGAN

We hope to meet you soon :) xxx

Great! There it is, right there. Your Son needs you to be his sober, not hungover, totally with it Mum/Mummy. How old will he be? What do you have planned?

Use this as your reason to stay sober, USE IT! :) x

He is 3 had party in sat for him so just close family tomorrow hope I'm feeling better tomorrow x

You will feel better tomorrow thisis just keep going today and you will wake up sober and be poud of yourself.
I am trying to get through day 1 right now just like you are. I feel sick, headachy, very anxious and shaky. If I get through though I will feel better in the morning. Lets do it.
Sorry got to go for now, KEEP GOING.

proud I MEAN'T typo lol

Thanks for up-dating Mouse What buggery bollocks - not having electrickery for a whole day! Still, could be worse, there are some villages not far from here that still don't have power!

Green I love your 'get slim/alcohol free/stunning' for Christmas idea. Traditionally, we go to the panto with the same crowd each year (Oh, yes we doooo!) and we rarely see each other in-between. I'm about 2 stone heavier than this time last year so anything I can lose between now and then will be a bonus. x

Ma Thank you, my friend, for your shout outs and your support. Your idea of a tiny bit at a time is the road I'm travelling. I'm doing slightly better each day - mostly. Was so impressed with your 'aisle incident'! Such strength. x

Joey Thank you for the Gold Star you awarded me! I'm wearing it with pride! My friend has so much crap to put up with now it makes me embarrassed that I'm being so pathetic. Re the doctor's visit - my DC would sit and wait in reception for me if I went to the Dr's this week but I know, full well, that I will be a blubbering mess after the consult. It would worry and scare them so it's better that I can have time to compose myself before I face them. x

Mouse I've thanked you 'off site' already but I just wanted to say that so many of your words resonated with me as if you'd known me for years. Every day, you get up, go and do what's needed, even though you want to stay in bed and cry, disappear so no-one can see you, need anything from you......... you beat that, maybe by the skin of your teeth Me, to a tee. And the bits about XP, too. Thank you, again, for your un-erring support and relentless help you offer me - and everyone else. Love you to bits. I'm so sorry to hear about Nemo's nurse. It must be like losing a close friend? Fingers crossed that some other wonderful, understanding, calm person comes into your and Nemo's life. x

Isinde Sad to hear your struggles with life with DP. No advice - just a massive hug. x

Guggs Wonderful news about DS. So glad that particular nightmare is over for you. x

Chopin Totally with you on the 'half term/holidays' drinking thing. For me, it's the lack of routine, too. Hope you're doing OK.

Bugger Got sticky fingers - from picking up Opal Fruit wrappers! What were you thinking!? x

So, doing better here but not brilliant. Looking to Monday for Day 1 (plus gym visit). Got a fab Bushcraft day on Saturday with DC. Camp fires, building dens, making dams, rope bridges across streams, sausage, beans and pots for lunch and baked apples with raisins for pud etc. (Don't tell DD there will be a 'screened, basic 'backwoods' toilet with a seat' - she won't come!) Looking forward to it. Been asked to do the photography. And nice compliments about my photography from DS2's yummy rugby coach. Always nice to be appreciated. My pics up on their club web site, too!

Apart from that, probs with DD. She didn't want dinner tonight as she 'wasn't hungry'. Hmmmm, all she's had all day has been a bowl of Coco Pops this morning at about 7am. Not ill, not been snacking. Right or wrong, I insisted she had a small amount of cottage pie (all stuff she would normally eat) but am a bit concerned about the implications.

Sending good, purple vibes to everyone tonight. Thank you to all of the Bus Babes for your continued support and understanding. xxxxx

Come on you two! You can support each other! Sorry you're feeling crappy too rural :( x

This - how are you holding out? X

Just about coping thanks for supportive words x

Thanks mouse Im still a/f still struggling tho. How about you this
Meant to say earlier mouse so sorry to hear about Nemo's nurse. I know change will be very hard on both of you but am crossing everything that the new nurse is just as lovely as the old one and things settle very quickly.

Well done thus far this keep busy.

Purps - Hello you, thank you for posting! I was going to text to see if you were back in the land of technology yet!

Re DD not eating, I've been through this with my DD, so much so that I took her to the GP. I'd seriously not worry because sober or not, how many times have you not felt like eating much? Funnily enough, my DD lived on Coco Pops too! I know you worry, rightly so but if she's hungry, she will eventually give in and eat, my DD did. I'm not belittling the situation or your concern but she's maybe just feeling that way out?

You sound so excited about this forest venture, it sounds ace, can I come?

So, This and other Brave Babes, how are you getting on? xxx

Im nearly past the worst mouse about 1/2 an hour to go I Think
How about you this
Really nice to have you back purps enjoy the bushcraft.

Mouse, thanks Lovely, for your wise words. I know sometimes we don't feel like eating but, what I failed to add was, she's been saying things like 'I'm fat', 'my legs are huge', 'I have a sticking out tummy' etc. She isn't/doesn't/hasn't - in fact she's very much the slim side of 'normal', so I'm a bit more alert to this stuff. Won't over react, just watchful. And, of course you can come on our forest adventure! We went a few years ago and it was the best thing!! DD was a bit reserved but the boys pitched in, got dirty, got wet, shinned up trees, did blindfolded mazes, had fun, waded in streams, took (safe) risks, pushed their own 'comfort' zones - and felt very proud of themselves at the end of it. At some point my friend told me to look away as I was so nervous that my gorgeous (then) 4 year old son was traversing a plank slung under a bridge suspended over a river!!! Eeek! He was fine - and proud that he was the youngest to attempt and achieve the feat!

Thanks Rural Hope it doesn't tip it down! Good luck with the remaining few mins of tonight.

Still hanging on feeling shattered can wait to go bed got some wrapping to do for sons birthday tomorrow I hate wrapping at the best of times

Quick hello and hugs to all.
Not long in from work and AF so that makes 3 out of the last 4 days.
Ds had another miserable day at school. Crying, says he has no friends and just spends break and lunchtime on his own.
Bummer. Will have to speak to guidance team again and see what they suggest.

know that hangover after being a/f for a while is a killer isinde every sympathy. Glad your back on board Gerald perhaps we could all go somewhere warm and dry tomorrow .
Sounds like you made it today this well done you
Off to bed now, sleep probably not really hate the insomnia I develop when not drinking.
Goodnight babes, sleep wellxx

Sorry ma crossposted. Well done on the a/f days your a star
So sorry about DS and school. It must be so upsetting for both of you.
Definitely get help from the school on this. I know some children take longer than others to settle and make friends when they move to High School but thats no consolation when your child is obviously unhappy.
Really hope the situation improves very soon.xxx

Purps - the same! Exactly the same! DD said all of that, your DD is only a year or two younger than mine? I know you are the kind of mum who worries but tries not to intrude into her privacy, you're not. Your concerns are real and valid...... I feel your pain. Massive hugs xxx

This - can you go to bed soon and get up earlier? I hope you're okay lovely, you really have kicked the arse out of the Wine Witch tonight and should be so so so proud of yourself, I am. Go YOU!!!! xxx

Rural - how are you feeling now? xxx

I'm off to bed, and have soooooooo much to do tomorrow but will pop in.

Well done to all of you who kicked ass tonight. To those who failed, tomorrow is a brand new day :) xxx

Today has been a better day for us, I'm not as worried about losing Nemo's nurse, just my friend........ anyway.

Night Brave Fellow Babes xxx

Just settling in bed for the night hope I can get some sleep thank u all for your kind supporting words well done to every one x

Yay! I frickin love you This - WELL DONE! Sleep well sweetheart, you nailed today, I'm so proud of you, I hope you're not patronised by that but you rock! xxx

Hello Babes
Drank yesterday so back on day 1. Really struggling to get back on track. But I feel like shit. Anxious and depressed. All alcohol induced. Hopefully enough to keep me sober for a while. Back to AA next week and have an appointment with my alcohol counselor tomorrow. I clearly can't do this on my own. Xx

Count me in Isinde sound lovely

I let myself down yesterday and drank, I need to do this badly, not liking myself much today

Hope you all are well x

Morning campers feeling alitte better today is indie will defo be joining you in remain a/f today wat about you rural ? Mouse I love your supportive words and don't find you patronising at all good luck today every one x