So AnyFucker calls a tit, a tit...

[AthelstaneTheUnreadyFucker]

... and that's not on. But it's ok to BE a tit? Just not point at it?

Is that right?

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I don't know.

She called my ex a bastard. He was. She was VERY rude about him. It was deserved.

AF taught me to point at bastards and name the behaviour, and I will always be grateful.

If she was very rude to someone here, I am sure it was thoroughly deserved. There are not many people in my life I can say that with any confidence.

Agreed.

She was unapologetic about her views, which were characterised by great insight and fearlessness.

She was empowering and supportive. And she was kind. To those who needed and deserved kindness.

Im sure she would say my ex is a bastard too, and she'd be right, she usually is.

Strangely though, I've never heard her call anyone out who WASN'T actually being a wanker at that particular moment.

So I guess we're back at the question: was it a Personal Attack, or was it just a genuine observation of the behaviour in front of her.

I have disagreed with her recently, but I appreciate her honesty and righteous anger.
I hope she'll be allowed back.

I hope she will be back soon, too.

Is it really a 'Personal attack' when it is well deserved ?

She has got it wrong a few times and realises as time goes by. Mostly she is spot on.

She got it wrong in my case (I've name changed since). Once one of a bunch of posters who really hurt me when I was at my lowest point. She's great if it really is a LTB situation. Not so great if the area is a little more grey. Extreme that she has been banned, but this is a board to support women, not kick them when they are down.

just checking in with the name - ginslinger as was

No wonder you nc, you must have been hammered. Weare human and AF is not perfect.

You're behaving like a tit.
Not you're a tit.

It's not that hard.

The rules are there for a reason and nobody should be immune sorry.

It's a bit like Dexter. He kills serial killers, but it doesn't make it lawful or desirable.

I hope AF will be back and able to dish out her good advice, as many others, without the need for name calling.

Ginger. A personal attack is a personal attack.

Yes, she does some great work, but if she can cut down or out the personal attacks that will be better. Think she will now, after being banned.

Anyone know where Justine's answer has been posted? On which thread? Thanks

What happened?

Where is AF?

Justine posted on the chat thread asking for mnhq response to fuckergate.

Thanks deepfriedsage. btw, I do notice, and did notice you around, even before the wave threads

From what Justine said, it looks like AF has been doing a lot of things wrong for a very long time. AF has apologised and will be back.

Oh not looked at wave threads, is that following on from Hullys thread of invisible posters?

Yes. Thought you were on it! Its been moved to Relationships and has the word invisible in its title. Perhaps you didnt see it! Thats how much I do notice you around. thought you were everywhere!

Apologies to the op for derailing. I will shut up now.

She's been banned?

Oh well. Tessa6 gives even better advice, I've found and she isn't offensive or arrogant with it.

AF calls a spade a spade and I like that! There are plenty of posters who do softly softly incredibly well but I also think that type of approach needs plain talking balance sometimes.

There isn't anyone here who is perfect, but I would like to make a guess that AF has helped more than she has hindered.

Waves at Trish

response here: www.mumsnet.com/Talk/_chat/1890781-So-are-MNHQ-going-to-issue-a-statement-about-fuckergate?pg=2

bring back anyfucker i say