Been dwelling on this all evening and think I need some wise MNers to tell me to pick myself up before I go insane!
Boyfriend of 7 months (but known him a hell of a lot longer!) has a teenage son who refuses to meet me. Boyfriend doesn't want to push his DS into an uncomfortable position - fair enough. So every other weekend, I don't get to see the boyfriend as he has his DS. Also fair enough - though a little jarring as the weekends he has DS are also the weekends my XH has DD!
Anyways, boyfriend visited one night last week for dinner, brought some work shirts and some hand wash-only items with him. Asked if I could drop the shirts in to the dry cleaners to be pressed as he wouldn't get time this weekend. Also said to ask dry cleaner if they could deal with his hand wash-only items. I said "don't be silly, I can wash them for you, and I can also iron your shirts." So this weekend, whilst on my lonesome, that's exactly what I've done.
No real hardship as I was doing laundry anyway, but in return I've heard nothing from him all weekend, save for one text saying hi. Then he calls me late this afternoon from the car, after dropping his DS back to his ex and asks if he can come over. Great, I think - had a very dull weekend of housework and sleeping and not much else and can't wait to see him. "Okay, well, I'm going to pop down the pub now, have a few drinks, then go home and get some dinner, then I'll be over about 9-ish. Okay?"
To say I was a little disappointed that he wasn't going to rush over to see me would be an understatement, but I thought oh well, it's better than nothing, so I agreed. Then he says "Oh, by the way, DS is at a family do next Saturday so I'm going to have him Friday night and all day Sunday next weekend instead."
I know deep down this is a really unreasonable thing to say, but I was absolutely gutted by this as my birthday is next Sunday and now I'm going to spend it all alone (my DD will be with her dad). Boyfriend and I did have plans for that day but now he's seeing his DS instead and because of DS's reluctance to meet me (and boyfriend letting his DS rule him), I'm left out in the cold. I'm away with DD the following day for a half-term break so this was our only chance to go out and do something nice.
I find myself constantly doing things to help the boyfriend out (the whole ironing shirts/washing is just one example - there's plenty more I do/have done!) I do these things willingly because I love him - but I honestly feel like it's a one-way street and he only sees me when he's got nothing better to do (or needs an errand run!).
I'm a fool, aren't I?!?