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Sister wins lots of money but unwilling to treat anyone.

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songlark · 20/10/2013 20:44

I know its hers to do with what she wants but as her only sister I expected something off her. I know for a fact that if it had been me I would have got more joy from treating her than the actual win itself. She's not won a fortune but £150.000 is hardly peanuts either. The thing that really irks me is, throughout all our adult lives she has always been terrible with money and I've always helped her out by lending her money, never knowing when I'm getting it back, even though I didn't have much myself. I've always helped out with minding her children when she was stuck. Basically I've just always been there for her. Then the other week she phoned to say she'd won about 150 grand, I was over the moon for her but as the days went by she's telling me all the things she's going to do with the money. Now I could understand this more if she'd decided to bank the money or invest for a rainy day, but it seems like she's going to have a right good spend up. I just feel very hurt that she she has no intention of treating me, not even a night out. Am I being presumptuous in expecting my sister to treat me. Makes me wonder what anyone else would do if it were them that got such a windfall?

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Whocansay · 21/10/2013 20:17

Think of it this way. If she gives you some cash, once she's spent hers (which it sounds like she will do at lightning speed) she'll only be on the phone to you asking for it back. Then you'll have another unpleasant dilemma.

Smile and nod. And ignore.

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MissStrawberry · 21/10/2013 20:22

This isn't AIBU.

I think considering all you have done for your sister it is not unreasonable to expect something. Hell, if she can't even give you a nice bunch of flowers or some special chocolates as a thank you then I certainly would not be baby sitting or lending her money again.

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MissStrawberry · 21/10/2013 20:23

Jelly, obviously she didn't mention it as she didn't want to share it.

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givemeaboost · 21/10/2013 20:35

morethan- in which parallel universe do live in where you can buy several properties for 150k?

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Shenanagins · 21/10/2013 20:40

I think you have every right to feel a bit pissed off after everything you have done for her. I suppose it will make it easier to say no to her when the money is gone.

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Jellyrollgumdrop · 21/10/2013 20:41

Ironic missstrawberry that we would have wished her well but never broached it as obviously were not supposed to know!!

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BillyBanter · 21/10/2013 20:50

I can't imagine not treating my family to something if I won £150k.

I'd love to upgrade from a flat to a house and in london that could involve using every penny of the win. But I'd not use the whole amount I'd have a little spree and treat people and use every penny of a still massive windfall.

I would feel just as aggrieved as you, No, nobody has to give anyone anything when they get this sort of windfall but I would think less of them for it for being so miserly with such a lucky win. It's not the same as annual income and even then many siblings with big incomes help out their less financially well-off siblings.

I'd bet £150k that the OP's sister would be round in a flash to see how much she could get if the OP had had this win instead.

So I judge her. I judge her with my judgy pants.