Your baby is very little, I would try not to stress too much about the feed times, although I can also appreciate that when you are trying to gain a degree of control over your life (at the mercy of the pod-creature, as I like to call it) it's very frustrating if someone else sabotages that.
Have I missed the part where you ruined his day with his son - by taking him out during the footie? Or because of the (understandable) ongoing wranglings?
Btw, he's not grumping because of the football result, is he? I imagine there will be MNers all over the place with grumpy husbands/partners tonight (can't fathom it myself, it's only a bloody game).
You both need to move beyond the idea of a day or weekend being 'ruined', i.e. by a row that happened before midday on the Saturday, for example. Life is hard with a baby. Perfect days are rare. Think more in hours and you might be along the right lines!
The first months are rough all round. Your dh doesn't sound like he's handling it very well, but it's also as much of a shock to his system as it is to yours. I do sympathise with you, of course I do, but try not to see doom in the fact that you are having a rough time right now.
For this time, I would take the initiative if I were you, you have a babysitter sorted (lucky you - I have left ds twice in a year) and if you book a table, he will go out for a meal. It's worth making the effort, have some time to be a couple and remember (dimly) who you were before the baby came.