what's the point in us gpoing out alone?

[ollypooh]

Dh and i are supposed to be going out for dinner in the evening alone for the first time since dd was born 2 months ago. He just doesn't seem interested and said he'd book the restaurant but didn't becuase "he was watching the football" he says he wants to go but it seems i have to make all the arrnagements ( i've sorted out the babysitter and suggested where to go) and he can't even be bothered to book a table. Might aswell not bother going now. Am i overreacting?

Thanks oxocube. He called me earlier to see how i was and he said if we had a list of things which need doing he would find that easier than me constantly reminding him. So i've done a list and we'll see how it goes. I'm going to see if he wants dinner & a glass of wine in the garden tonight & hopefully he'll see that i'm making an effort!

also dont be too hard on yourselves, your still in the early stages and no one expects you to be back to normal yet that comes at 6mths to a year give or take a few months or years.........

as long as you are clean watered and fed and happy thats what counts.

we things like if you do the hoovering ill feed baby or if you put a load of washing on ill put them away.
we both try to sit down at the same time each day, if im not sat down when he comes home then neither should he be.

Well we had amuch better evening. We talked about how upet i was and he seemed to want to make sure it didn't happend again. He's back in our room too as he said he thught the lack of contact betweeen us was a bad thing. he's agreed that if he keeps me awake by snoring i can wake him up and he'll go to spare room.

I agree with cat64, it seems he is trying. But perhaps not in the way you want, so you are frustrated and showing it. Because you are still not happy, he probably feels you are being ungrateful.

Its seems a bit of a downward spiral. You need to both calm down a bit, take a step back, give each other ALOT of slack - you are both learning (and you really cant expect him to do things exactly the way you do - its a Dads perogative ).

Good that you are getting somewhere though.