Cheating on a boyfriend - throw a stone into a pool...

[itried]

DD is the cheat. She has lost her long term bf, a lovely guy who did not deserve her having drunken sex with a.n.other. He is devastated. Their friends have rallied round him. She cannot face any of them. Her girlfriends are shocked and unsympathetic to her. Dozens of people are in some way affected.

I have let her know how appalled I am - there is no justification. The best I can say is that she must learn by it. I have also asked her how she might feel when ex bf is seen around with someone new. I am standing by with tissues and home truths.

So passé to talk about reputation but she may now find out what it is like to be regarded as an easy lay. I will miss her bf - I had grown very fond of him. Unexpectedly, I am in the Slough (sorry, Slough dwellers) of Despond.

So, to all of you who might be tempted to cheat - actions have consequences of which you don't even dream. I am not thinking that I went wrong, I am thinking of her lack of judgement and caring. If you are tired of your gf/bf/dh/dw/dp I beg of you to do anything other than get into bed with someone else. Doesn't apply to swingers, but most of us would be in torment, like my daughter's ex, to imagine our partners in bed with someone else.

Great thread for "how not to parent your children" advice. Cheers.

I meant the op, not the comments (which I agree with)

Well I don't know if you are a mother or father, but you certainly a shitty parent.

My love life was none of my parents business once I became an adult, but whatever I did, I could count on their support, not judgement.

Is the Slough of Despond not a ref to the Pilgrim's Progress? One of the places the Pilgrim got stuck on his journey?

(btw, if the daughter is just 18, her life choices are probably still highly influenced by her upbringing. Therefore OP, think about how you've brought her up)

I said that at 8:30 this morning onthebottom

I don't think that the OP was gleeful about what her daughter had done.

And no AnyFucker I'm not the OP.

Tsk.

Tsk yourself at defending the worst bit of slut shaming I have seen for quite some time on MN.

Did the OP just post this to see what the ripple effect would be from MN after throwing the stone into the pool? Not sure I believe this post.

I personally think itried as some very valid points, and proves that only because she is her daughter doe not mean she can just brush aside the actions she has taken. Would you as a parent be willing to accept so easily your son or daughter having a one night stand/cheating on their partner??? Harsh she may be but sorry she deserves the guilt trip and the home truths, will teach her a big massive lesson. Some familes disown you for cheating

You don't "accept" or "not accept" the actions of your grown offspring unless they are directed at you personally

Unless you think this poor girl put a bomb under her own life specifically to piss her mother off ?

And those families do not deserve the name str8.

The OP's daughter is 18. She's learning how to negotiate relationships. I suspect that she's grown bored of her supposedly wonderful BF, hasn't known how to end it and this is the response.

It is actually important that she understands this doesn't make her a horrible person. It's not exactly great for an 18 year old women to internalise the idea that she's "an easy lay" and such a bad person they've driven their parents and friends away. That's actually pretty much the fastest way to get them to start acting like a bad person and thinking they don't deserve love and happiness.

Notable that the OP hasn't come back...