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The Dating Thread 64

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unBant · 05/10/2013 15:11

Here we go again...

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Stupidhead · 25/10/2013 00:59

Ladies! Thankyouverymuch! Ive recently, days, been dumped from a 3 yr live in relationship and this whole thread has kept me going today! I remember the days of dating online and the stories I could tell! Good luck to those with dates this weekend, hopefully I'll join you in a wee while :)

niceupthedance · 25/10/2013 06:59

Rubbish I would give him another go, unless he was totally boring the arse off you all night...

Date report from me: Met with ex colleague after 20 years, he is still reasonably fit! But seems not in a good place after splitting with partner last year. Lots of tales of woe. Has asked to see me again so I will... If he cheers up a bit!

Had a date for tonight too, but he's disappeared, oh well.

Hormonalhell · 25/10/2013 09:15

Broken no I don't think it works for everyone especially me two years on....Hmm I'd been chatting to Gemini a month (lots of texts really got to know each other) met up twice. Got on well, even bought me a baby monitor as mine broke. Just weird really.

Poffed, he might realise he's dealing with a classy girl now Smile

brokenhearted55a · 25/10/2013 09:32

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PaulineWhatsername · 25/10/2013 09:38

rubbish Worth giving your guy another try perhaps? You could always bulk him up later if he is a good shag shows promise.

Stupid Welcome! We are all experts on this thread at surviving being dumped, so you're in good company. Onwards and upwards for you Smile and have some Cake

nice I wonder what might cheer up the fit ex colleague Wink

Hormon Yes, weird. Move on.

rubbishfamily333 · 25/10/2013 09:51

Nice - he didn't bore me, was sweet and obviously a gentleman (very rare) but I just don't think I would fancy him. He is very skinny and wears skinny jeans (I hate them on men). I like big men that are confident and can pick me up and throw me round the bedroom. GrinGrin

Maybe one more date to see. But I feel like I would break him in the bedroom lol

rubbishfamily333 · 25/10/2013 09:57

Why are the attractive ones always such ass holes and mess around?

Appearing and disappearing, it's so annoying. So what are everyone's 'rules' for communication on the dating sites?

If you can see they are online and are not replying I guess it's better not to bother as if they were interested then obviously they would reply when they are online!!!

Hormonalhell · 25/10/2013 10:14

YesPauline I've moved on, I have a coffee date today Grin

Broken aww he must have left a special place in your heart. What star sign are you? I'm guessing Scorpio or cancer?

Hamwidgeandcheps · 25/10/2013 11:39

There are guys on pof here that I recall from od 6 plus years ago!!

Lots of contact from gap yah and date arranged next week. He is all oh lets do whatever you like....I much prefer it when they say - oh I have heard x is good, fancy it? And be more directed but ho hum. No contact from crush man for few days. Think he has family down though. Argh he is v delicious. His pof photos do him no justice whatsoever....

Stupidhead · 25/10/2013 12:12

Ok, here are some of my dating disasters..

I'm 5'7" and wanted a guy taller, got messaged by someone who was good looking, dark brown hair and 5'9". Bit short for me I thought but ok, I'll try. Turns out to be a 5'4" ginger. Denied he was ginger all night, no idea why he's lie about his height though it's not exactly something you can hide! Walked to the pub with him and felt like I was taking one of my kids out.

Next an Asian guy. His photo was from 20 years early, told me he was a strict Muslim and then got drunk and told me how he wants to kill his ex wife. Spent all night praying he wouldn't try and kiss me - awkward hug and I ran home..

Ex boxer and PT. Very fit. We had long text convos and calls, treated me like a lady and didn't try and shag me but his texts were RUDE! He'd go missing for days at a time. Turned out he had a huge coke problem, slept with prostitutes and was undergoing HIV tests Shock told him to get clean and call me in a year - which he did but I'd moved on.

Hamwidgeandcheps · 25/10/2013 13:23

Omg stupidhead!

Stupidhead · 25/10/2013 14:32

I know!!! There were also the guys I didn't date, the ones who'd (badly) photoshopped their wives out of the profile picture (their wedding photo..). The 20 yr olds begging me to dominate them, for cash. The guy who typed abusive rants at me for daring to 'like' his picture (apparently I was too good looking so was therefore taking the piss). The messages on pof from some guys wife. Oh the male escort (looked like Kenneth Williams) who assumed I was in the same line of business. The pensioner who had 45 bullet points of like and dislikes including anal sex.

I can't believe that I'm actually going to try it all again!!! It was all funny at the time though :)

brokenhearted55a · 25/10/2013 15:07

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powpow80 · 25/10/2013 15:27

Stupidhead was anal sex under the like or dislike column! You definitely meet all sorts on od sites. At least if you're not chatting to nice guys the crazies are entertaining. Happy weekend everyone. It's a long weekend over here. Woo hoo.

Hormonalhell · 25/10/2013 15:45

Broken, I'm stubborn too (Aquarius). Met for coffee date with cancer guy. Was pleasant but spoiled by my baby screaming most of the time bless him, mind you it hasn't put him off as he's text to ask how I was since. Mind u I was getting stressed! Not the best of first dates Grin

He seems nice though and I'd like to go on another date with him.

Shock stupid head! Thought I'd had some naff dates!!

Stupidhead · 25/10/2013 17:03

Anal sex was a 'must' haha, he looked like the old guy from 'UP' :-/

moodyblue · 25/10/2013 17:29

Good you can laugh about it stupidhead and aren't put off trying again. I'm actually wondering if I could be tempted to dominate a 20 year old for cash Grin.

rubbish I know what you mean about the skinny ones. Guy I've had fwb thing with looks like he might snap. Shame cause I normally enjoy being on top but I'm too anxious that I'm going to flatten him to relax!

I had my date Tuesday night. He was a nice enough guy - we work for the same company and had lots to talk about. Also seemed to have a lot in common that wasn't work related. But I didn't fancy him at all and he was really keen. He texted me when he got home to say that he'd had 'a moment' the minute he saw me etc etc and it frightened me off. While I would have gone for a second date if he'd not been so full on I felt there'd be too much pressure for me to find a spark. I texted him the following morning and said I wouldn't see him for second date. He didn't reply!

I've cancelled tonight's date as I got bored with his messages (largely about grass seed) and decided that I've had enough dating stress already this week.

D'you think that online dating just doesn't suit some people?!

On the plus side, it's made me realise that maybe I don't actually want what I thought I wanted from a relationship (someone to pay me compliments, look after me, treat me as if I'm the most important person in the world etc) because when I met someone like that it frightened the life out of me!

Happy dating everyone Smile

Stupidhead · 25/10/2013 17:33

Moody, I'm very cynical but treated every date as an adventure and not a potential 'the one', that helped. Also knowing I'd have a shitload of funny stories for the future! And I also rethought my thinking like you to not what I want but what I DIDN'T want. Easy peasy. Unfortunately that arsehole of three years left me last week :-p

But I have hope!

Stupidhead · 25/10/2013 17:34

Oh and the 20'yr olds, that was weird. I thought I had to pay him/them (two separate weirdies) to dominate them. But he stressed he'd pay. Maybe I should have..

NutritiousAndDeliciousFucker · 25/10/2013 17:39

Hello again!

I've just joined lovestruck for 3 days to see what it's like. I have no idea what I'm doing though! I have winked at a few guys......should I wait for them to wink at me? If anyone's got a few rules a online dating virgin should follow id appreciate it!

Good luck to anyone on a date tonight!

OneDayWhenIGrowUp · 25/10/2013 19:57

Evening dating thread, hope everyone is having a good Friday!

Before I read properly.....I just had to share this message I got today:

^''Hey its me, you are my wife in the future. We get married in May 2015

I've traveled back in time to see you before we met x''^

10 points for cheese!

OneDayWhenIGrowUp · 25/10/2013 19:57

hmm italics didn't work there

Hormonalhell · 25/10/2013 20:39

Oh dear Oneday Hmm have you replied?

Hamwidgeandcheps · 25/10/2013 20:47

One day it beats hey babez!
Re the financial domination one had the same guy, 6 years ago and recently pleas with me about that. It's v weird!

Just told my mate about wed date with gap yah and lack of progress with crush man. As predicted they want me to persevere with crush man.

Gap yah looks like exh. To the extent that I know people would notice. Almost like the Ross/Russ thing in friends. He's really funny and entertaining though. Instinctively I want to spend time with him. Whilst still hankering over CM. Sigh

melanie58 · 25/10/2013 21:00

Grass seed? Oh dear Moody, why were you not riveted? Imagine a whole evening of that.

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