Looking for motivational songs to help with overcoming H affair and deceit

[Whatnext074]

Some of you may have read my post on my H leaving me for a co-worker and know that I am really struggling to cope.

Music is very important to me but I can't bear to have radio on or use my I-pod as there are so many songs that bring back memories.

My H has an I-tunes account which I don't think he's deactivated yet so I'm looking to fill my I-pod with songs that will help me during the bad times to get my strength back and I would like some suggestions.

I have thought of Alanis Morrisette - You Oughta Know and Kelis, Caught Out There (I hate you so much right now).

Are there any other suggestions?

L7 - shitlist.

Love Christina Perry Jar of Hearts

Has anyone mentioned 'A Little Respect' by Erasure? Or 'Act Like A Man' by Neil Diamond?

Forgot Green Day - Good riddance.

colleysmill

Oh dear :( too much?

I know it's a bit of a novelty song, but I love it!!

Turn around, stand up like a man and look me in the eye
Turn around, take one final look at what you've left behind
Then walk away from the greatest lover you have ever known
Yes walk away, you're telling me that you can make it on your own
By yourself, all alone, without my help
Mister you just made a big mistake

chorus
You think you're a man but you're only a boy
You think you're a man but you're only a toy
You think you're a man but you just couldn't see
You weren't man enough to safisfy me.

Read more: Divine - You Think You're A Man Lyrics | MetroLyrics

colleysmill - only messing, swearing songs are good for me right now.

PoppadomPreach - that is me, that is my situation!

Oh phew I thought I'd made a massive faux-pas.

I like sweary songs when I'm angry too. Nothing like shouting loud sweary lyrics to yourself to get rid some that swirling internal anger that has nowhere else to go.

My last suggestion would be tom petty - whole lot better - mainly for the line "after what you did, I just can't stay on and i'll probably feel a whole lot better when you're gone"

Good luck op

Rihanna - take a bow (you can sing this and rhythmically flick two fingers up in time, is a big cheer up)

Beyonce - Irreplaceable

And definitely Thorn in My Side.

Good luck, lovely

Kelis - I hate you so much right now

Ah nuts everyone's given my suggestions!

Best one though:

All American Rejects - Gives You Hell

I wake up every evening
With a big smile on my face
And it never feels out of place
And you're still probably working
At a nine to five pace
I wonder how bad that tastes

When you see my face
Hope it gives you hell
Hope it gives you hell
When you walk my way
Hope it gives you hell
Hope it gives you hell

Now where's your picket fence love
And where's that shiny car
And did it ever get you far
You never seemed so tense love
I've never seen you fall so hard
Do you know where you are

And truth be told I miss you
And truth be told I'm lying

When you see my face
Hope it gives you hell
Hope it gives you hell
When you walk my way
Hope it gives you hell
Hope it gives you hell
If you find a man that's worth a damn and treats you well
Then he's a fool you're just as well
Hope it gives you hell
Hope it gives you hell

Tomorrow you'll be thinking to yourself
Where'd it all go wrong?
But the list goes on and on

And truth be told I miss you
And truth be told I'm lying

When you see my face
Hope it gives you hell
Hope it gives you hell
When you walk my way
Hope it gives you hell
Hope it gives you hell
When you find a man that's worth a damn and treats you well
Then he's a fool, you're just as well
Hope it gives you hell

Now you'll never see
What you've done to me
You can take back your memories
They're no good to me
And here's all your lies
You can't look me in the eyes
With the sad, sad look
That you wear so well

When you see my face
Hope it gives you hell
Hope it gives you hell
When you walk my way
Hope it gives you hell
Hope it gives you hell
When you find a man that's worth a damn and treats you well
Then he's a fool you're just as well
Hope it gives you hell

When you see my face
Hope it gives you hell
Hope it gives you hell
When you walk my way
Hope it gives you hell
Hope it gives you hell
When you hear this song and you sing along but you never tell
Then you're the fool, I'm just as well
Hope it gives you hell

When you hear this song
I hope that it will give you hell

You can sing along
I hope that it puts you through hell

I love Joyce Green, she sang exactly how i felt when something similar happened in my life. Not exactly a "lift me up/inspirational" song but def one that lets the anger out:

Black Cadillac

I caught you cheatin' and runnin' round
And now I'm gonna put you in a hole in the ground
I'm gonna ride to your funeral
Daddy, in a black Cadillac
Oh yeah, you think you won
Oh baby, but you can't come back

Now, I'm gonna bump you off
Gonna tell you the reason why
You're worth more daddy dead
Than you is alive
I'm gonna ride to your funeral
Daddy, in a black Cadillac
Oh yeah, you think you won
Oh baby, but you can't come back

I'm gonna buy me a pistol
A great big fourty-five
I'm gonna bring you back baby, dead or alive
I'm gonna ride to your funeral
Daddy, in a black Cadillac
Oh yeah, you think you won
Oh baby, but you can't come back

I'll hire a black Cadillac
To drive you to your grave
I'm gonna be there baby
Throw that mud in your face
I'm gonna ride to your funeral
Daddy, in a black Cadillac
Oh yeah, you think you won
Oh baby, but you can't come back

I'll wear a black mink coat
A diamond ring on my hand
I'm gonna put you under ground
I'll find myself another man
I'm gonna ride to your funeral
Daddy, in a black Cadillac
Oh yeah, you think you won
Oh baby, but you can't come back

waltermittymissus - I'm not a bad person but sadly I think I want the words of the song to be true for my H for all the pain he is causing.

I think that's why he said he'll see me when I'm stronger as it's easier for him to walk away than face the pain in my face that he has caused with his actions and his words. I would like him to feel how I am feeling for just one day so he can understand. Sorry, didn't mean to go off on one again.....

That doesn't make you a bad person, Whatnext.

Anger is your friend right now. Of course you want him to feel your pain, he should feel it. HE caused this, not you.

(((hugs to you)))

Something inside so strong Labi Siffre

No More Drama is brilliant

I really appreciate your ideas - now I just have to remember how to use H's I-tunes account, could cost a lot.......

Suck my left one- bikini kill

Sick n tired - the cardigans

Ooh stick you - daphne and celeste (!)

Rid of me - pj Harvey

Nasty - Janet Jackson

Ain't nuthin goin on but the rent- Gwen Guthrie

Feeling Good- Nina Simone (Post catharsis- c'mon THIS is yr anthem!)

kelly Clarkson- since you've been gone

Tanya lacey- greatness

pink- so what/ there you go

mary j blige - not gon cry

joydevivre - Feeling Good was one of our songs so I probably won't use that one. I like 'Suck My Left One' though.