DP wants babies and I don't

[BigPawsBrown]

DP and I have always been on the same page about babies; we thought we might have them in the future but felt no need to do it now (I'm 28, he's 32).

I have had some set backs which mean I'm not where I want to be in my career yet and also unsure if I could handle having a baby and the exhaustion of it.

DP and I used to chat about how many of our friends had babies and how we had far more interesting (!) things to be getting on with. That chat has since stopped and DP seems to have fallen more on the side of wanting babies and I think that I might never want them.

I think DP wants to get married, and I wonder if we would be nuts to do so? Whenever we discuss it we end up going round in circles; I can't say for sure I never want children, DP says he thinks he does but it's not a deal breaker now but it might become one.

What do we do?

Sorry, I knew I'd miss-wrote once I had submitted! What I meant was the OP wasn't 100% sure she didn't want kids so it wasn't a deal breaker at the moment. I'm sure there are people who always know they don't.

Regarding the cost, it's not the buying stuff that's expensive, it's much more the opportunity cost in terms of career through mat leave, time as a SAHP plus £1000s cost of childcare - not even counting the more optional cost of eg, needing a bigger house/car/food bills or university.

However, while I know parents who have regretted having children at particular stages eg, I always find toddlers very difficult, I don't personally know anyone who's regretted having a child over many years IYSWIM.