Friend rant, possibly unreasonable and petty.....

[Ezio]

Friend B says to me, her and Friend A are meeting for coffee, did i want to go, i said yes.

Come today, i get to the carpark before A and B (Same car), i see them pulling in the acknowledge me, i park and go to find friends car, they are there, so i go back to my car to get my phone.

B calls and passes me to A,
A: Want drink do you want?
Me: Nothing at the moment. (Hadnt thought about what i wanted at that point)
A: Whats wrong?
Me: Nothing, be there soon.
A: Well i was gonna have your drink waiting, but you can get your own drink.
(She hangs up)

Now we were parked in the same carpark, about 20 cars away from each other, but they decided not to wait for me, even though they could easily have found my car, its very noticeable.

After she hang up, i sent a text saying i'd meet them another time.

No Reply.

While shopping B calls me, to ask were i am, i said i wasnt in the mood to meet now after A got in a hissy and hung up on me.

Now i have had many gripes with these two.

Starting with A, who decided on my 30th birthday, that she would flake out on our previous plans for that day, so at 5pm she disappeared to see her DP, it hurt my feelings but i said nothing, because she would thing im being ungrateful.

A and B, 3 days before my birthday had a falling out, over A thinking B didnt want A to come out for dinner on the friday before my birthday.

I had to play peacemaker and i threatened to pull out of my birthday celebrations, because i was angry with them both.

Also back in May they had a falling out over the tickets to my birthday treat, i back then threatened that we wouldnt be going if they didnt grow up.

Friend B gets pissed off if she doesnt get invited to everything, she seems to think im there for her entertainment only, if she gets a better offer, she has no interest in me, if i start getting friend with a man, she gets all jealous.

I feel so pissed off with the pair of them, A is moving 600 miles away, i would think we be appreciating the time we have left to do things as a threesome. But obviously not.

Petty i know, but sometimes you cant help it.

*arent there

Oh the falling out A and B had before my birthday was on the morning of my DD's birthday.

You sound as though you don't like them.

I'm sorry but you all sound like petulant children.

Just wait till you all start your periods.

I love them to bits Glad, i've known A for most of my life and B for my whole adult life so far.

Although sometimes i wonder why.

I know it sounds so crap, felt good to rant though, at 30 i really do wonder how people can still have such petty arguments..

Speaking of periods Bunny.......

Bunny

I don't understand. You saw their car pulling in and they acknowledged you, you go find their car and then go back to yours for your phone. Why didn't you take your phone with you and meet them at their car? If you forgot it, did you say "Oh I've forgotten my phone I'll just nip back for it"?

Forget about the background - on the say YWBU.

On the day - not say

They werent in the car, i had to correct that bit.

That kinda pettiness would really irritate me; I'd be inclined to say sod off and do my own thing to be honest but then I don't have that many friends!
You don't have to be friends with people just because you've known them a long time. Do you get anything out of the friendships (support/good times etc)?

Yeah Capital, on support and good times thing i cant complain, A is my DD's godmother.

Its the pettiness that really grates my nerves. They knew i was in the same carpark, they coulda waited, but they walked off without me, and knowing those 2 they coulda been anywhere.

Crikey, it does sound all rather playground (walking off in a mood and the like). Not sure what to suggest here Ezio, sorry. If you do get something out of the friendships and this is just a niggle, then maybe have a word and find out why the situation escalated like that.

But (I'm guessing), it may not go down to well. Good luck.

Annoying thing is where i parked my car, they would have seen it while walking out of the car park, because the pavement outside is higher than the carpark.

So they would have seen my car and could have stop and waited on the pavement for me to walk out the carpark.

I'm sorry, I don't think it was your friend that had a 'hissy', it was you. Maybe they did see you, and saw you go back to your car so thought they would go ahead and get a table and wait for you. They rang and asked what you wanted. It sounds really petty. They didn't go off and sort themselves out, they included you. Ffs, you drove there on your own, I don't get why the short walk was different?

If they'd have seen me, i would have seen them.

You do sound very childish. You were going for a coffee and were asked what you wanted. How hard would it have been to say 'I've left my phone in the car, I'll be there in a moment. ..'?

I did say i was gonna be right there, but my friend hung up on me.

Is this a reverse thread? It doesn't matter who was in what car in what bit of the car park. You were all going for coffee. So you would see each other at the coffee place surely?

Come today, i get to the carpark before A and B (Same car), i see them pulling in the acknowledge me, i park and go to find friends car, they are there, so i go back to my car to get my phone.

Can you re-write this please?

It seems to be causing much confusion and as it stands, it makes no sense.

Come today, i get to the carpark before A and B (Same car), i see them pulling in they acknowledge me, i park and go to find friends car, they ARENT there, so i go back to my car to get my phone to call them to see where they are. (Only been in the carpark for 5 mins at this point)

Gladbags, we were parked at sainsburys, so they could have either have gone in there or walked off to the precinct, since they knew i was already there i thought they would have waited for me.