my dentist touched an ignored part in my heart

[mohbabe]

Hi,
I just went to the dentist recently and he was so good and cool. He didn't play music during my treatment and I loved it because his voice was a real music talking to me at every step as a patient. I know he is only doing his job but he do it with love and care and that what made his visit so good. Anyway, I cannot deny he made my week because I felt someone in this world is so caring and soft. The moment he touched my lips and cheek to wipe them , he touched an ignored part in my heart. I had no real love or relation before. That day I wanted to hug him warmly to say thanks you recognized me as a human who deserve gentle care. When I went back home , he was in my thoughts as a good caring person . I want to thank him by sending a card or gift. Is it appropriate? I just want to appreciate his goodness. What do you think?

Regards

expat I love your post at 13.23

I think (?) most people have someone past or present that they would love to get their mits on and bam you came right out and did it!

Xollob

I have been here a long time, and a lot. I'd rather err on the side of caution when someone posts in an emotional way saying they feel unloved.

Gawd that sounded a bit sanctimonious. But I do mean it

NHS patients where I go see a different dentist at every appt. No continuity, often very gentle and caring but would not send a card or gift. The private patients see the partners in the dental practice.

Agree with others saying that the wording in your OP would be wiLdly inappropriate.

If it was a fairly major treatment and you are happy with the results perhaps a thank you card saying that the problem is resolved and you appreciate his professional and effective treatment.

It seems from the wording of your OP that you feel you are missing some intimacy (whether close friendship or physical) and perhaps you should focus your energies on that?

Oh, no, Shakey, it was years later, really. I heard someone calling my name in a market and there he was (it was his hometown). Just thought, 'Oh, that's cool,' and went to greet and the usual, 'What brought you here?' came up and then, sorry to hear about your split. Been there.' Aw, what a shame! That's too bad. So then he said, 'Hey, if you're not doing anything just now (as a matter of fact, no, my wanker lover just fucked off to climb with his ex-gf), care for a coffee?

Yeah, right. Should have just said, 'How about we skip it and head back to yours to shag for the few days I'm here?'

But we got there in the end

See, OP, the universe is like that. If he's meant to touch more than your heart with his healing parts, you don't need to do thank you notes and chocolates. One day, the moment will arise.

Of course, I never felt very sentimental about him, I didn't want him to love me for the damaged soul I am, I just wanted to fuck him . . .

I didn't want him to love me for the damaged soul I am, I just wanted to fuck him . . .

^that, there just are^ some people (not celebs). Good for you

Sorry OP, got derailed there. Lots of good advice on thanking him without looking deranged.

I sort of get this. I went to the optician (very charming and polite younger man) and he asked about the headaches I had been having, said they weren't due to bad eyesight and maybe I should see my GP because I shouldn't ignore them. It was the first kindness anyone had shown in a long while and I did actually struggle not to cry. I did recognise that this was about my own unhappiness and not because I had really fallen in love with the optician, however!

A card would be good.

I used to have a lovely Scottish dentist. I was gutted when we moved areas and and changed dentists.

I am greatful to all of those who wrote an advice or support. I won't comment on the cynical and funny messages because I see no point in making fun of other people thoughts or feelings.

I didn't mean I want to have a relation with him. I meant his kindness just make me feel good.

Biscuitsneeded
That is so true just the feeling . There is someone do care.

mohbabe, do send a card and a nice message.
I am an optometrist and we like it when people send cards and chocs.
One or two have sent wine which gets me thinking "This person knows me so well!"

Biscuitsneeded .......thats exactly what I-m taking about with the women in the cake shop. It can happen when you-re least expecting it and it is all about what is going on with you at the time.

I still think I wouldn't give dentists chocate. It seems a a bit like you haven't listened to their expensive training and are wantonly wishing them decayed teeth.

A bit like giving a skin specialist tanning vouchers.

A cheese wheel is a great idea. As long as they aren't lactose intolerant.

I got a huge girlcrush on a lovely female dentist once. She was going to fill a back molar and said, 'look, back molars take lots of jabs to totally numb them, and then your mouth will be useless all day. If you trust me, I will do the drilling with no jab. Do you trust me?' I said ok, and off she went. She told me to indicate for her to stop at any time if it got a bit ouchy. It only hurt once. So she drilled out the old filling and the decay and put in the new white filling. When she finished I felt like we had gone on some mad adventure together and I had tears in my eyes, of relief and gratitude, and I fell a bit in love with her. Never forgot her. She left and went back to Finland.

This is called transference, recognise it for what it is, take care x

Don't listen to dopey. We dentists run on chocolate.

Yeah, transference. Knew there was a word for it.